The increase in fertility rate during the epidemic is actually very understandable, can not go out, stay at home bored, couples get along day and night, it is inevitable that they will be tired of being together.
This can also enhance the relationship, so that the two people who once had some contradictions can take this opportunity to resolve.
Not long ago, there were news reports of a couple who had been divorced for many years, because the woman went to her ex-husband's house to see the children and was banned, so she was forced to share a room with her ex-husband.
The epidemic is not over, the ex-husband said that after the unsealing, the two will go to remarry.
Of course, there are many pregnant second or third children in this special period, if the family conditions allow, many people will still choose to be born, after all, this is also an unavoidable fate.
But Wang Ling and Zhang Zibin in Changsha, Hunan Province, are going to divorce because of the arrival of the second child.
01 The second-marriage family is difficult, and the poor and lowly couples are sad
Wang Ling, 35 years old, had a previous marriage, and after the divorce, she left the house and her children were also given to her ex-husband.
The reason for her divorce is that she feels that her ex-husband does not understand that romantic emotional intelligence is not high, and she willfully mentions divorce.
Later, I met my current husband Zhang Zibin.
Zhang Zibin is also married for the second time, and the daughter born to his ex-wife is now 14 years old.
Two people with the same experience feel sorry for each other, especially during the love period, Zhang Zibin greeted Wang Ling warmly and cared for her.
From time to time, he will take her to play outside, take her to eat delicious food, know the cold and know the heat, and warm a man, which is completely opposite to Wang Ling's ex-husband, which makes Wang Ling, who pursues romance by nature, very satisfied.
Although her ex-husband's family is one of the richest people in the local area, and Zhang Zibin can have nothing, in Wang Ling's view, this is not important, and it is enough to have a heart that loves her.
Therefore, the two got married shortly after they met.
In the three years since their marriage, the two have given birth to a daughter, and they thought that their lives would go on like this, but they did not expect to be married for only one year, and the woman frequently mentioned divorce.
Zhang Zibin has been working in other places for many years, installing advertising signs for others, and Wang Ling is taking children in her hometown, just because the couple are separated from each other, the feelings are not as good as before, and the couple often quarrels.
There are two main reasons for the quarrel, one is because Zhang Zibin did not give enough living expenses on time, the poor couple mourned, and a little life trifle could lead to a big fight.
The second is that Wang Ling suspects that Zhang Zibin is outside and messes with flowers and grass, and her suspicions are not without reason, since receiving the certificate, Zhang Zibin has obviously been cold to her, and the two of them have been sentenced before marriage, which makes Wang Ling feel cheated.
She suspected that the man had other women out there, so she was angry and unwilling, so she repeatedly filed for divorce, but each time the man did not agree.
In the second year after remarriage, zhang Zibin delayed the time to go out to work, so the couple got along day and night in their hometown, and their feelings were once very good.
What Wang Ling wants to eat, Zhang Zibin is also willing to do it for her, the two seem to be back to the state of first love, until Zhang Zibin went out to work, Wang Ling found that she was unexpectedly pregnant with her second child.
She wanted to surprise her husband, so she went to the rental house without saying hello, and when she arrived at the rental house, she found a problem.
02 Happy to be pregnant with her second child, but unexpectedly became a depth bomb
On the table, she saw a woman's hair ring and a bottle of women's bag tonic.
Neither of these things belonged to hers, it was obvious that they belonged to other women, and she thought that Zhang Zibin had brought other women to the rental house.
So she called Zhang Zibin directly, and she questioned the other party, but the other party firmly said that there was no such thing.
Zhang Zibin explained that the leather agent was bought by Wang Ling herself, and the hair ring may have belonged to his 14-year-old daughter, who had also been here before.
But this did not convince Wang Ling.
When I called again to ask for an explanation, the other party had set her phone to no one to call in, and no one answered the WeChat video.
When Wang Ling couldn't find Zhang Zibin, the next day, she saw her husband's car in the community, and Zhang Zibin was also there, so Wang Ling sat in the co-driver without saying a word.
There was no way, it was convenient to return to the rental house with her, and what the two wanted to discuss at the moment was whether the child in Wang Ling's womb was left or born.
Considering the pressure of life, Zhang Zibin said: Even if you are pregnant with the emperor, you will not be born.
Since this is the case, Wang Ling said that she wanted to go to the hospital for abortion, and when she asked her husband to take the money, she was rejected by the other party, and Wang Ling took a step back, saying that she paid for the operation, but the other party wanted to find a house for her to live in.
Because there is this custom in her hometown, if the daughter who marries out has a miscarriage, she will not be able to return to live until she has a full moon.
But Zhang Zibin never took a stand, just lay on the bed and remained silent, leaving Wang Ling chattering on the side, but did not see any response from the other party.
This attitude made Wang Ling more determined to divorce, she did not understand, with others on the phone he talked and laughed, but for the pillow wife, why is he so indifferent?
03 The marriage is desperate, and both are responsible
She was desperate, but Zhang Zibin ignored her despair and got up to leave, which made Wang Ling quite angry, the problem was not solved, but the other party played cold violence, then play with him to the end.
Wherever he went, she followed.
Wang Ling said that she was not afraid of divorce, and she was afraid that the other party would drag her and did not want to leave.
As early as two years ago, she repeatedly filed for divorce, but Zhang Zibin has not agreed, since there is no feeling, why force together? It is better to get together early and disperse, and each of them is liberated.
But the man has never expressed his position, this kind of cold violence treatment is really maddening, is he bitter?
Sure enough, in the evening, Zhang Zibin asked the mediator to come out alone, only to see his face of grievance, he said that from marriage to now, Wang Ling has dropped seventeen or eight pairs of his glasses, and his mobile phone has also been dropped five or six times.
The two often fight, and the woman is always suspicious, because he often has to work overtime at night, but Wang Ling said that he was with other women.
The two were torturing each other together, quarrels and fights were common, and once Wang Ling even chased after him with a knife and slashed, and was finally subdued by Zhang Zibin.
It can be seen that in these three years of marriage, both parties have been very tired.
Even co-workers have seen the two wrestling together, in his words, "like making a movie."
The landlord also thinks that Zhang Zibin is a very honest person, usually does not talk much, the main reason is still in the woman.
At the end of the day, both partners have problems in this marriage.
When the mediator talks to two people alone, he finds that they don't want to divorce, resulting in the current situation, one is that there are communication problems, and the other is that the man does not give his wife enough security.
There is no money for money, no one wants people, Wang Ling is in her hometown with children, from the New Year to the present few months, Zhang Zibin only gave her 600 yuan of living expenses, of which 300 yuan Wang Ling returned to the man's grandfather.
That is to say, she herself only left 300 yuan to live a life, which is not enough at all, they all say that marrying a man, dressing and eating, since the other party can not give anything, then what is the use of this marriage?
Of course, Wang Ling should also have a little more understanding of her husband, a little more tolerance and trust, give him a little personal space, and the dignity of being a man, and don't mention divorce and say something hurtful.
Write at the end:
Since neither party wants to divorce, they should work hard to live a good life.
Some things have passed in the past, and it is no longer meaningful to dwell on and ask questions, the most important thing is to live a good life in the present.
Men and women in marriage should not only consider their own feelings, but also consider the impact on their children, especially in a second-marriage family like Wang Ling Zhang Zibin.
Mistakes made in the previous marriage should be avoided in this marriage, and if there are new problems, they should be solved, not in quarrels and fights and cold violence.
In the end, the two, persuaded by the mediator, were willing to try to make changes.
The man will entrust the economic power to his wife, so that she can rest assured that she can take care of the children at home, and the woman must stop thinking wildly and give her husband a little more understanding and tolerance.
In this way, the family's life will get better and better.