The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
If you can meet someone who is worth trusting for a lifetime, I believe that no matter who you are, you will not give up lightly, but the initial love story will eventually slowly become a trivial place in life, from the accumulation of problems between husband and wife and the influence of their respective original families, if there is no certain feeling as a basis, it is really difficult to deal with.
How to deal with family conflicts after marriage in great detail should be the skills that every couple should have, especially the issues related to the future development of the husband and wife, can not tolerate any sloppiness, may be careless for a while, will cause irreparable consequences.
As many families have encountered, wives in disadvantaged families have been subsidizing their mother's families, without the slightest regard for their husbands' feelings, but also have a good word: It is not easy for my parents to give birth to me and raise me, is it wrong for me to help them?
Yes, there is nothing wrong with helping parents and filial piety to parents, this is also the obligation that should be fulfilled as a child, but after marriage, you play not only the role of a daughter, but also a wife and a mother, if you only fulfill your obligations as a daughter and do not fulfill the responsibilities of your wife and mother, family conflicts will arise, only sooner or later.
01 Although the wife has the ability, she can't stand to subsidize the mother's family all the time
It is often said that to love a person is to love her whole, but for Wang Fu, it is obvious that he cannot do this.
Wang Fu and his wife Wang Ling met in a job, at that time Wang Ling was still the company's veteran sales elite, and Wang Fu was only a small employee who had just joined, but love was so sudden that people were caught off guard. A work cooperation made Wang Ling and Wang Fu feel good about each other, and finally made a promise to go to life together.
After the exchange, Wang Fu gradually found that although Wang Ling's income was very high, but she had no savings, most of her income was mailed to her mother, and later after Wang Fu learned, he learned that Wang Ling's original family was not too good, and she also had a younger brother, and the family's living expenses were almost all Wang Ling's responsibility.
Wang Fu, who knew this, hesitated, because he could not guarantee whether and would his wife continue to subsidize her family after marriage.
But in the end, out of love for his wife, Wang Fuhai still married Wang Ling into the family without hesitation. Before marriage, Wang Fu and Wang Ling worked together to buy a house in the city, which can also be regarded as having their own small home.
After marriage, Wang Ling did not quit her original job, although the income was very high, but she was always in the point of not being able to make ends meet, and several times asked Wang Fu for some help.
Although Wang Fu had a rough idea in his heart, he still wanted to listen to his wife and tell the truth, and finally under Wang Fu's questioning, Wang Ling said that most of her income was given to the family, because her family was preparing to marry her brother.
After hearing this, Wang Fu said to his wife: Confused.
02 In the end, AA made a last resort
In Wang Fu's heart, he was very angry at his wife's behavior, but as a husband, he could not see his wife so pitiful, helpless, Wang Fu had to put his own hands into it as the husband and wife's usual living expenses.
Wang Fu has also advised his wife many times: I have no problem with you helping your mother's family, but you must always take care of our small family, and you can't affect our small family because of everything in the original family.
At this time, Wang Ling also felt very helpless: You know the conditions in my family, if I don't ask, when will my brother's marriage fall.
In this regard, the palace can be said to have exhausted all methods and could not change Wang Ling's original intention.
At first, the royal palace only turned a blind eye to the wife's subsidy to the mother's family, but later with the birth of the two children, life suddenly became tense, even at this time, the palace found that Wang Ling still did not have a subsidy to the mother's family.
Only at this time did Wang Fu truly understand a truth: no matter how hard he tried, he could not wake up a person who pretended to be asleep.
After much thought, one night before going to bed, Wang Fu said to his wife: Let's make AA.
Wang Fu could clearly feel the body of his wife beside herself visibly trembling, and it took a long time before she said: Okay.
In fact, Wang Fu knew very well in his heart that his wife must have had a premonition, after all, he had been very angry that his wife had been subsidizing her family for so many days that he had not paid much attention to her.
Wang Fu sighed helplessly, turned around and went to sleep.
This is also the last resort, there is no way.
03 I would rather take the cost of food and lodging, but I do not regret it, and I do not want my wife to subsidize her mother's family all the time
After the two-person AA system, Wang Fu has been thinking about a problem, that is, about the house, after all, the house where the two live now is owned by two people, but because of his wife's higher income, she took on a higher part.
Therefore, even if it is for disguised compensation, the husband will always pay his wife a certain amount of food and accommodation on a monthly basis.
Since the AA system, Wang Fu's life has changed a lot, first of all, he no longer has to worry about his hands being used by his wife to subsidize his mother's family, and secondly, he does not have to ask about his wife's family, and has a lot of time and energy to take care of his family.
On the other hand, Wang Ling, since AA, although she also has a certain subsidy for her mother's family, but the amount is far less than the original, after all, if before, Wang Ling's life fell into embarrassment, the royal palace will be responsible for taking care of her, and now, Wang Ling has to set aside a part for her own expenses for the family and children.
Although Wang Fu now needs to provide a certain amount of food and accommodation, he does not reject this mode of getting along with husband and wife, because only in this way will his wife reduce the subsidy to his mother's family and let his small family get the greatest protection.
Conclusion: In fact, in many cases, the AA system of husband and wife mode is not seen to be a bad thing, everything between husband and wife is fair, the cost of the family is borne together, the pressure of the family will not be tilted to a person, to some extent, many husband and wife contradictions can be reduced.
However, if it is not a last resort, it is still not recommended that the AA system, after all, the husband and wife are a whole, and the AA system is easy to make the relationship between husband and wife crack, thus affecting the happiness of the family.