If there is no sense of proportion and do whatever you want, then good things will become bad things. After a person gets married, it is necessary to pay attention to maintaining an appropriate distance from other members of the opposite sex, especially with their predecessors.
Some people say that men and women can't be lovers, but can also be friends. It's just a good wish, in fact, if it is unforgettable and deeply loved, it is impossible to be a normal friend. Perhaps after a few years, things have changed and each other will be able to see each other calmly again.
So after the lovers break up, they still forget each other! This is good for everyone, everyone has to go forward, instead of nostalgic for yesterday's scenery, it is better to cherish today's life and pity the people in front of you.
After a person gets married, he must be loyal to the marriage, keep the promise he made when he first got married, and make a promise. If you are clearly married and still can't tell your ex, even if you don't have any substantive content, your spouse will be unhappy.
People have to compare hearts to hearts, imagine that your spouse and her ex can't be clear, how will you feel? Old lovers continue to contact, it is easy to rekindle old feelings, no one should be too blind and confident. So it is not a necessary thing, don't be confused with the ex, or live your life with your spouse!
At 3 a.m., the husband used the excuse of chatting with his mother-in-law, but in fact he was comforting his ex-girlfriend
Before Shu Tian and her husband got married, her husband had an ex-girlfriend, talked for three years, and finally broke up because of the opposition of her ex-girlfriend's parents. Shu Tian and her husband know each other on a blind date, and on the first date, the husband told his love history, which made Shu Tian feel that her husband was very honest.
Before her husband, Shu Tian had never been in love. She has read many classic literary works, and in those literary works, love is described as incomparably beautiful, loyal and persistent, so Shu Tian attaches great importance to love.
After Shu Tian and her husband met, a heart was all on her husband, and the love was very deep and pure. After a year of dating, the two married under the influence of the parents of both sides. At that time, Shu Tian felt that she was the happiest woman under the heavens, and she changed a lot for her husband, and everything was based on her husband's preferences.
The husband is actually very plain to Shu Tian, and he can't talk about how good it is, nor can he talk about it badly. But Shu Tian, immersed in love, even if it is her husband's shortcomings, she sees them as advantages. In the second year after marriage, Shu Tian gave birth to a son, because her mother-in-law was not in good health, her husband let Shu Tian become a full-time mother.
In fact, Shu Tian was very fond of the original job, but for the sake of her husband and children, she resolutely resigned. After Shu Tian became a full-time mother, all the big and small things in the family were managed by her, and her husband was completely a hand-thrower.
When Shu Tian was busy, her husband was very idle, and when he returned home, in addition to eating and sleeping, he was playing with his mobile phone. Sometimes Shu Tian is busy doing housework and asking her husband to take care of the children, and her husband will be annoyed.
The love that Shu Tian had once fantasized about made her more and more suspicious. She couldn't say that her husband was bad, and that he went to work and commuted every day and didn't do anything out of the ordinary. But Shu Tian always felt as if something was missing, and she couldn't say what was missing.
One night, my husband's cell phone suddenly rang twice. After the husband looked at the mobile phone in confusion, he immediately got up and went to the study. Shu Tian was awakened, she looked at her mobile phone, it was 3 a.m., who would contact her husband at this time?
Shu Tian went to the study to find her husband, who was chatting with people by typing on his mobile phone, and he was not sleepy at all. Shu Tian asked her husband what was going on? Who are you chatting with? Why not sleep? The husband looked obviously abnormal, and after a moment of stunnedness, he said that his parents had quarreled, and his mother came to complain to him, and he was comforting his mother.
Shu Tian sighed, the in-laws have always been very good, how can they quarrel in the middle of the night? The mother-in-law still came to complain to her son, and the son will have to go to work tomorrow? Shu Tian was very confused, but her husband told her to go to bed quickly, and she went back to the bedroom.
The next morning, the mother-in-law suddenly came, saying that she had come to the city to do business, and stopped by to see her grandson. The mother-in-law smiled, and when she saw her grandson, she smiled so hard that her mouth could not be closed. Shu Tian originally thought that her mother-in-law had quarreled with her father-in-law, and estimated that she was sad in her heart, so she came to her son's house.
But seeing that the mother-in-law is happy, it is not at all like the appearance of arguing with the father-in-law, Shu Tian can't help but ask the mother-in-law, why is there a conflict with the father-in-law? This time the mother-in-law wondered, she said that there was no conflict with her father-in-law, when she went out today, her father-in-law sent her to the station!
In the afternoon, the mother-in-law went back to the countryside and said that there were still things in the countryside! By the time her husband returned home from work, her mother-in-law had already returned to the countryside, and Shu Tian did not mention that her mother-in-law had come. Because Shu Tian already felt that something was wrong, her husband was chatting with people in the middle of the night, but he lied to her that he was comforting his mother-in-law.
From this day on, Shu Tian began to quietly investigate her husband and pay attention to her every move. Later, Shu Tian finally knew that at 3 a.m. that day, her husband was chatting with her ex-girlfriend, because the ex-girlfriend had a quarrel with her own husband.
It turned out that the husband had been in contact with his ex-girlfriend, and although the two had not actually cheated, mentally, they had been disconnected. Shu Tian finally understood that the shortcomings between her and her husband were the lack of her husband's love for her.
The ex-girlfriend has always been in the heart of the husband, and the husband and Shu Tian are married, but because of their age, a person should be married. Since he can't marry the woman he likes, marry a woman who likes himself! Shu Tian was very much in line with his requirements, and he married Shu Tian and had nothing to do with love.
After Shu Tian understood all this, she was sad in her heart, but she resolutely filed for divorce. She couldn't accept her husband chatting with her ex-girlfriend at 3 a.m., and there was no room for sand in her eyes, and she felt that mental derailment was also cheating.
The husband was not married because of Ai Shutian, but after more than four years of getting along, he has actually had a long-term relationship. And Shu Tian took good care of him comfortably, and kept the home in order, which was really impeccable.
The husband originally did not feel anything, but after Shu Tian proposed divorce, he suddenly realized shu Tian's good things. So he didn't want a divorce, saying he and his ex-girlfriend were already out of the question, and if they could be together, they wouldn't have broken up in the first place. Later, they had been disconnected, and now that he thought about it, it was really wrong, and he begged Shu Tian to forgive him.
But Shu Tian insisted on divorcing her husband, and she was sad in her heart, but she couldn't accept her husband anymore. The husband regretted it, he finally realized what it means not to cherish when he had it, and only after losing it did he know the preciousness of such a thing, but it was too late.
After marriage, don't break the connection with your ex anymore
Shu Tian's husband, Ming Ming, broke up with his ex-girlfriend, but the two of them still broke the connection. In the case of disconnection, each of them has become a family again, which is not only painful for themselves, but also for the harm of others.
If you don't handle the old relationship well, don't start a new relationship, because the new relationship is not just your own. Shu Tian truly loved her husband, and because she loved her husband, she married him. For him, Shu Tian changed himself, and everything was important to him.
But in the husband's heart, he is worried about his ex-girlfriend and chats with his ex-girlfriend at 3 a.m. Just because the ex-girlfriend and her own husband quarreled, Shu Tian's husband lied to comfort her and said that he was comforting his mother. There is no wife who is not angry about this kind of behavior, unless the wife does not love her husband.
When a man gets married and has a family, he must put his mind on his own family, love his wife and children well, and should not worry about his ex-girlfriend anymore. No matter how good the ex-girlfriend is, it is someone else's wife, and it has nothing to do with you. Only when a person cherishes the family, cherishes the spouse and children, can he deserve to have a family of love and happiness.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.