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"Ask what the world's situation is, and teach people to live and die."
Perhaps, the highest state of love is nothing more than that.
Just like Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai in ancient times, they both doubled butterflies and stayed together for a lifetime, although desolate, but romantic and beautiful. However, if they really become relatives, whether they will still love as they were at the beginning, whether they can withstand the ordinary life of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, really, it is difficult to predict.
Only because, in the love between the two loves, most of them have the blessing of the Sea Oath Mountain Alliance, and there are sweet confessions, but they will also be cut continuously, and the entanglements will be chaotic.
In real life, the more couples who love each other, the more they will think about small things between each other, and the more they love, the more they will be calculated.
On the other hand, two people who live a plain life will stay together for a lifetime and spend this life in peace.
After all, in modern society, no woman will be as generous as the ancient woman, can endure the violent temper of men, machismo, and will not stay alone in an empty house for the sake of men's flowers.
It can be seen that a relationship, if you want to be long-lasting, most of it does not come from how romantic and unforgettable two people once met, but from the careful management of two people.
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The love that every woman wants is probably "willing to have a heart, and the white head is not separated."
However, the arrangement of fate is often "to plant flowers and flowers with the heart, and to plant willows without the heart".
Only because, if a woman is too strong, too real, too focused on feelings, she will put all her thoughts on men, he longs for the purity of feelings, so that it will make this relationship have pressure, so that two people get along, too tired.
And, those women who are good at "pretending", they face some things, "open one eye, close one eye", but will make the life go on smoothly, but also let the man's heart, there is a sense of ease, feel with her, very comfortable, between the two people, respect each other.
Therefore, a woman's "dress" is not to treat love not seriously, but a business strategy, and it is also a good way for men to put their hearts on themselves.
You know, even if a man is "baby" to you and "treats you as a princess", he also has some vanity in his body, and he also has a little "love of face" in his heart, if his starting point is to better manage your love, then you "pretend", why not enjoy it?
The following, three aspects, the "dress" of smart women, may wish to learn it, manage love well, in order to let men keep you in mind.
In the face of men's "white lies", pretend to be confused and not preoccupied
Zhang Ailing once said: Women who are too sober will not be happy, either really confused or pretend to be confused.
Many women will be too sensitive, and even a little too suspicious, but you must know that when the water is clear, there is no fish, and there is no vain when people are aware.
Loving one person, especially so, is too calculated, and will only make the love of two people limited to tension.
As long as men are not "cheating" and other principle issues, in fact, many things, there is no need to let themselves "trouble", after all, live a life, good or not, their mood is calculated, do not show your emotions in small things.
Know that life, like a mirror, you laugh, it gives you warmth, you cry, it gives you loneliness.
In fact, a man really loves you, he will give you some "white lies", he does not want to make you angry because of some things, let you think more, so there will be something to hide, you do not have to be so true, you have to let him say clearly, explain clearly, open one eye, close one eye, the past is counted.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Wang Xifeng is so shrewd, but "the organ is too clever, but it has mistaken Qingqing's life", after all, the family has a difficult scripture, it seems to be Jia Lian's heart, all kinds of mess, and in that feudal era, Wang Xifeng's approach was harmful to people and lives, and it was also very cruel.
In life, mutual understanding and mutual care can make each other feel the truth of living together.
Sometimes, some things, too calculating, make the house difficult, will only make your life worse. Especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is difficult for men to act in the middle, so you are slightly confused, let him be better, don't expect too much from him, and do yourself tactfully, it is already very good.
Of course, some men are good at using women's soft hearts and rhetoric to deceive you, which is another matter. Therefore, a woman must have discernment and understand whether he truly loves you or wants to conquer you and lie to you.
A wise woman never listens to his mouth, but looks at what he has done for himself, and if his starting point is to reassure her, to reassure her, then he must give him full understanding.
In the face of men "pretending to be outside", pretending to be quiet, not shouting or being strong
Most of the time, men are very face-saving, especially in front of relatives and friends.
No matter how much he listens to you at home and pampers you again, you will find that once in front of colleagues, friends, relatives and other people, he will be eager for you to set off his charm and show that he has a "good wife".
In the world of men, the tree lives a skin, the person lives a face, the face can represent everything, he will go to great lengths for the sake of face, and may also "kill a hundred people" for the sake of face. Just as in ancient times, the prince of Troy fell in love with the beautiful helen, and his husband, in order to avenge the hatred of taking his wife, launched a war and fought for more than ten years.
So, if he occasionally pretends to be outside, you may as well give him some face, you are quieter, a little more obedient, he will love you more, and he will feel that his wife understands him very well and makes him proud.
In life, there are many women, when talking to others, will not shy away from counting their husbands, such as making less money, doing nothing, not caring about the face of the man who has been hanging down, and the embarrassment of wanting to turn away.
You know, in most love, the more gentle the woman, the more painful the man, the more powerful the woman, the more the man wants to rebel.
Therefore, you may wish to be a "quiet" woman, give him encouragement, give him strength, so that you will find that he will be more motivated than before, rather than you have lit a war all day, you say a word to him, he scares you, let the feelings become more and more indifferent, more and more unpleasant to see each other.
The more "understanding" you are, the more "considerate you are", the more he cherishes you, the more he thinks about you, the more he strives to be strong, and wants to give you a good life.
In the face of men's "past experiences", pretend to be generous and not at ease
Many women, in the face of a man's past, she can't control her emotions.
For example, she will constantly inquire whether a man's former girlfriend is prettier than herself, whether she is still in contact with him, in fact, the more you are like this, the more you will make him worry about his ex-girlfriend.
Every adult will have one or more emotional experiences, but this does not mean that he is a flower heart, that is, he is disconnected from the past, blindly pursuing the past, will only make men think that you are too sensitive, too careful.
I remember seeing a story once.
A woman sorted out her boyfriend's things, accidentally found a computer, she opened it, and as a result, there was a folder that contained photos of him and his ex-girlfriend, she couldn't help but be greatly annoyed, the man came home from work, she lost her temper with the man, and did not explain the reason, but said that he could not forget his ex-girlfriend, he was not single-minded to her, the man could not figure out his head, and the two people had been so cold for many days.
And later, the two people broke up, the man was ready to leave their house, when he was packing his things, but did not take the computer, the woman could not help but ask him: Do you not want your computer?
The man suddenly replied: That's my ex-girlfriend's computer, she has been hosting me here, you don't mention it, I forgot about this computer.
At this time, women understand that the experience of a man may be beautiful, but his putting the past around does not mean that he does not love you, nor does it mean that he has not put you at ease.
Yeah, who hasn't clicked on it yet?
Time has passed, don't think about his past, be generous, don't rest assured, so that you can cherish the present and grasp your love.
You must know that the more you are uneasy about his past, the more he will feel that you "don't love him so much", the more he will want to conquer you, and the more he will reassure you.
-03-
At night, the more hazy the moonlight, the more beautiful it will be, and you "pretend" a little to see the beautiful moon at night.
In this life, all your sadness is actually blamed on others, most of which you have found yourself.
Love someone, even more so.
Everyone, living in this world, will have some "unspeakable secrets", there will be some "past clouds", so, the past, that is his life, the present with you, is your life.
Treat the people around you well, you know, being together, is your happiness, don't put a person who loves you, to "do" no more.
Beautiful love will make your life richer, and if you are too calculating, it will make the pain of both people double.
A little "confused" and a little "pretended" will make him worry more about you, and will make him feel that the match between you is a match made in heaven and destined.
Feelings, seemingly powerful, are actually very fragile.
Your words, a dispute, a small misunderstanding, may destroy the home you have painstakingly operated for many years. So, women, don't gamble, don't be too real, love a little more relaxed, love a little "pretend".
Life is long, time is cruel, cherish your pillow person.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!