After your daughter gets married and has a family, as a parent, do you still want your daughter to eat and live in her mother's house, and still leave your child to her parents to take care of?
For some parents, they look forward to having their children around and like to be with their grandchildren. But for some parents, their children are too slimy and unaffordable.
Therefore, there is now a new type of nibbling on the elderly, which is obviously filial piety to parents, but in fact, it adds trouble and burden to parents. Such companionship filial piety is not a blessing for parents, but a nightmare.
01, the daughter eats and lives in her mother's house after marriage
Aunt Su, 60 years old, has aged a lot in the past few years and is physically and mentally exhausted. But even so, she still can't see her head, because her daughter is always unwilling to move to her in-laws' house, nor is she willing to give the child to her mother-in-law to take.
Aunt Su and her wife, this life is a daughter, the first half of life, the old two spent a lot of effort to cultivate the daughter. I thought that my daughter would grow up and be able to at least be self-reliant.
But as everyone knows, the development of their daughter has greatly surprised them. The daughter not only failed to stand on her own and support a small family by herself, but instead brought her son-in-law and grandson back to eat the old.
When the daughter fell in love and got married, Aunt Su was strongly opposed, because the son-in-law's original family was very general. Aunt Su is not to see the money and the material vanity, but as a person who has come over, she knows too well the drag and burden brought by the original family.
It's just that the daughter can't listen to it, and the more her parents don't let her marry, the more she insists on marrying, and she also buys a marriage house for her parents. Aunt Su hates that iron is not steel, but in the end she still feels sorry that her daughter has the upper hand, and she and her wife have emptied most of their savings to buy a marriage house for their daughter.
Later, the daughter became pregnant, and the old couple took out 100,000 yuan to buy them a scooter under the daughter's pampering. It's just that the car is bought back, the daughter rarely drives, most of the time it is the son-in-law who drives.
02, the daughter left the child to the care of her parents
When they first got married, their daughter and son-in-law wanted to live in the world of two, and the old couple and the young couple lived separately. But after the daughter became pregnant, the daughter packed her bags and moved back to her mother's house, along with her son-in-law.
Since then, the daughter and son-in-law have eaten and lived in the mother's house. Considering that her daughter's in-laws are not very good at taking care of people, Aunt Su did not think too much. Three meals a day for the daughter to eat and drink, waiting for the daughter's confinement, taking care of the grandson's affairs.
After the daughter was full moon, she took the child back to her home. But within a month, the daughter and son-in-law returned with their grandson, saying that her mother-in-law was not good at taking care of the child, and the child was either cold or coughing.
Aunt Su was heartbroken and could only leave her daughter and son-in-law's grandson at her mother's house. Since then, taking care of her grandson seems to have become a task and obligation for Aunt Sue alone. Even when the daughter and son-in-law come home from work, they always shout that they are too tired at work, and even the children are rarely held, let alone playing with the children and coaxing the children to sleep.
Aunt Su endured the dissatisfaction in her heart and tried to pull her grandson bigger. But when the grandson went to kindergarten, the cost was more, and the daughter and son-in-law were still indifferent, saying that their money was saved for a big house, and the child's expenses were helped by the parents.
The daughters all said this, aunt Su can still say no, can only be willing to pay for the cost of her grandson's schooling. But as the grandson gets bigger and bigger, the cost is also getting bigger and bigger, and Aunt Su and her wife can't eat it.
After all, the monthly pension of the old two is only more than 8,000, the monthly expenses have to spend 4,000, and they have to help raise grandchildren, basically there is little left every month. And as her grandson grew older, the cost of various tutoring classes also climbed up year by year, and Aunt Su was almost exhausted.
03, parents tear collapse: children's new type of nibbling on the old, is the nightmare of parents in their later years
Aunt Su's side is almost overwhelmed, but the daughter and son-in-law are praised for filial piety, and which young man now still wants to live with his parents and is willing to listen to his parents' nagging? Just under such praise, it was Aunt Su's crying and laughing expression.
If she could, Aunt Su would rather her daughter and son-in-law move away with her grandson and let them live a quiet old age. In the past few years, the old two mouths are tired, the legs and feet are inconvenient, and there are various small problems in the body.
Aunt Sue mentioned to her daughter that she should find her mother-in-law to take the child. But the daughter has not yet spoken, the son-in-law did speak: Mom, my parents have worked hard all their lives, it is not easy, and now the body also has various small problems, so it is really difficult for them to take their children.
The son-in-law was distressed by her parents, which made Aunt Su feel a little cold. Her own daughter, not only did not feel sorry for her parents, but also grinned that she was an only child, and her parents should contribute to her to take the child, and there could be no complaints.
Aunt Su was bitter, she did not want to be a daughter slave and a granddaughter slave anymore, she let her daughter's family move away, saying that the grandson had grown so big, they also fulfilled the responsibility of their parents, and the rest was powerless.
The daughter moved away angrily, but after only half a year, the daughter came back with a dead face, saying that she was pregnant with the second child, her mother-in-law did not give strength, and she hoped that the second child would still have to be served by the mother's father and mother. After all, her parents are not willing to help her daughter, so don't expect her to retire in the future.
Hearing this, Aunt Su immediately panicked, feeling that the companionship and filial piety of her daughter and son-in-law was really a nightmare in her later years. She was really afraid to bring her daughter a child, and she was also afraid to support her daughter and son-in-law's family. But her daughter's threat also made her disheartened.
It turns out that no matter the sons and daughters, people who are not hot have always been able to count on the pension. Instead of counting on others, it's better to count on yourself.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Aunt Sue in continuing to raise her daughter and son-in-law for a second child?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!