It is reasonable to say that falling in love should be for the purpose of marriage.
After each other knows each other, they both feel that each other is good, and then they naturally get together and start a relationship.
Then after a period of love, if you still feel that the other party is not bad, then put the marriage on the agenda, enter the marriage together, and spend the second half of your life together with each other.
Speaking of which, love should be like this, but in real life, many men have a clear distinction between love and marriage.
He will be willing to fall in love with you, but even if you get along well during the relationship, he does not have any intention of marrying you.
Either from the beginning, you just held a playful attitude, thinking that you are only suitable for love, not suitable for marriage, or later firmed up your mind that you are not suitable for marriage, and feel that you can have a better choice.
Whatever the case, when a man is reluctant to marry you, as long as you look closely, you can find out.
Never mention marriage, and never tell you about the future.
Truly love someone, you want to be with him at the moment, and you will want to spend time with him in the future. From the bottom of your heart, you want to be able to marry him and see him every day.
When you treat feelings, you move your heart, it will be like this, and when a man really loves you, he will do the same.
Will really want to marry you, in the relationship with you, will always talk to you about marriage.
For example, how to plan your house in the future, what the living room should look like, how to arrange the bedroom, how to be good to you on weekdays, and how to work with you during the holidays.
Not only that, but he will also discuss with you how many children you want to have in the future, what kind of children you want to dress up and what names you want to take.
Every now and then, he'll talk to you about getting married, about the days after you get married. You will clearly find that he really planned you in the future, and every step of his future, all of you, you are completely indispensable.
The man who wants to marry you will be particularly clear in words and deeds, and if a man does not have you in the future, he will rarely talk to you about his vision and your future.
Because he didn't want to have a future with you at all, he didn't bother to fantasize, too lazy to say something unrealistic.
You ask about getting married, and he procrastinates in all sorts of ways.
After spending time with a man, when the other party does not say that you are married, you will inevitably be more anxious, will ask him when he will marry you, go to see each other's parents to discuss marriage, handle the marriage, and get the marriage license.
When you ask a man, if the other person really wants to marry you, he will be more ashamed, feel that he has neglected you, and then quickly arrange everything so that you can get married quickly.
And if the person you meet, even if you keep mentioning it, he is just indifferent, he doesn't take it seriously, and he just keeps looking for all kinds of excuses to make you wait a little longer, then maybe he is really just delaying you.
If he really wants to marry, he will not wait, afraid that after a long time, you will change your mind, and what variables will appear between you.
When it comes to marriage, he will appear more eager than you, and he will also appear more attentive than you, and he will arrange it well.
I don't want to marry you so much, I don't want to marry you at all, but I will tell you a lot of truth, make a lot of excuses for myself, tell you that the time is not ripe, tell you that there is no difference between getting married and not getting married, and always try to make you dispel the idea of marriage.
When a man has such an attitude, it's not that he doesn't want to get married, it's just that the person he wants to marry is not you.
No, so I'll drag you along first, and as for what will happen later, then take one step at a time.
Not single-minded, always looking for other opportunities.
The thing of love, once some people love, will be particularly firm.
After the choice, there will be no other thoughts, no transgressive behavior, only special single-mindedness.
Keep your distance from all the opposite sex, and put all your thoughts on the person in front of you.
The man who can do this, of course, is serious about you, really wants to spend the current life with you, and is very eager to spend the future with you in the future, he really treats you as a whole.
And if you say that you are around a man, it is obvious that he is always looking for other people, always ambiguous with other women, always not so focused, his feelings for you are also more questionable.
That means that choosing to be with you, it is only a matter of retreating to the second place, and there is no better encounter, so first be with you, so that I can be satisfied, as for the future, he is not willing to be with you.
No matter how tender he seems to be to you at the moment, how nice he sounds, once he meets him and feels that he likes it more, better in all aspects, he may choose to leave at any time, and there will be no hesitation at all.
Marry you, he will always feel a little worse, basically, if it is not really helpless, he will not marry you.
A man who doesn't want to marry you, he really doesn't want to be willing because of the time.
When you encounter such feelings, you don't have to force the other party to marry you, and you don't have to find a way to keep him by your side.
After recognizing the truth, you had better be sober, take advantage of the delay is not long, take advantage of the fact that the moment is your youngest moment, quickly choose to leave, and he is separated from him, and find your other half again.
Spending time with him all the time, that really doesn't make any sense, he simply can't give you happiness.
Either it will only delay you for a long time and eventually make you hurt more deeply, or even if it can't marry you, it will only be bad for you.
Love or marriage, each other is really willing, then it will be more meaningful, and it will really be able to live a little better.
Otherwise, reluctantly being together, whether you feel reluctant or the other party feels reluctant, will only be quite painful and difficult to maintain.
Text/Tan Meng
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