Marriage is a very important thing in a woman's life, and some people even compare marriage to a person's second reincarnation.
It is precisely because marriage is not easy, so we must be cautious and cautious about the choice of marriage.
One is to choose the man in the marriage, look at the character and look at the character; the second is to consider the other party's family, and the marriage contradictions between the door and the door will be relatively less.
Some would argue that having a girl is a lot more worrying than a boy. In fact, this sentence is said from the perspective of the different physiological structures of men and women. Of course, in addition to this, for feelings, women should also be more emotional than men.
Ms. Zhao, 51, has been very anxious lately because her 26-year-old daughter, Yu Miao, moved out of the house and ran to live with a 35-year-old man.
The man opened a small convenience store with a mediocre business and needed to sit on duty every day to see the store. Men do not have any academic qualifications, very early out of the way, but unfortunately let the family drag these years and there is no savings.
And all the savings he has accumulated over the years have been invested in this small convenience store, desperately.
Although the business in the convenience store is average, the local income is quite OK compared to the average wage earner. But the problem is that the man is there, has no car, no house, and a pair of rural parents without social security.
Ms. Zhao's daughter moved noisily, and before leaving, she left a sentence to her mother: I just found out that you are so snobbish.
This sentence made Ms. Zhao sad, she said that her daughter, who could not pull back her nine cows, would regret it sooner or later.
Not only because the other party's conditions are not good, but also because her daughter Yu Miao went to live with others on the pole.
In this regard, Ms. Zhao said that she had already foreseen the suffering of her daughter in the second half of her life. In fact, this statement is reasonable to think deeply, and I will help you analyze it:
One situation is that if the marriage of two people is successful, then the daughter will bear a heavy family burden.
Because there is no house, it involves the down payment of the house, the mortgage; the car is only a means of transportation, which can be put on hold for the time being; no deposit means that there can be no difference in the marriage of two people, otherwise there is no ability to resist risk.
Speaking of the man's work, although it now seems to be self-sufficient and can help his original family, there are losses and profits in doing business, and there is always no bottom in his heart.
If the other party is a young and frustrated, you can start all over again, but seeing that the other party will reach the age of 40 in a few years and have no academic qualifications. At this time, there are parents on the top and children on the bottom, not to mention the pressure on the mentality, and it is more difficult to start from scratch.
In the second case, the two men break up and the daughter finds another man to start a family.
First of all, do not talk about the age of the stumbling, for example, if the other half of the marriage knows, the woman has a history of cohabitation before marriage, and there must be a gap in the marriage. If you accidentally get pregnant, the consequences are unimaginable.
In a marital relationship, if a person can never lift his head, it is undoubtedly an ordeal. In this asymmetrical relationship, the mentality of two people will always be affected, and this effect must be negative.
Recently, I saw a video on a certain tone, which is about a newlywed couple, after the wedding of two people just sent away relatives and friends, the bride and groom were resting in the dressing room, the bride pulled the groom to stop talking and swallowing.
The last words that came out were: I was young and crazy and did not understand things, and I had many abortions, and I was afraid that I would not be able to conceive a child. When the bride had finished speaking, she looked up cautiously at the groom's face.
But before the groom could express her position, the mother-in-law pushed the door in anger from outside the door, accusing the bride of being a harmful spirit, unable to have children and marrying others, so that the two children seized the time to go through the divorce procedures.
At this time, the bride cried and begged her mother-in-law to give her another chance, and from time to time she tried to pull on the groom's sleeve, but the groom kept looking out the window, not saying a word, not knowing what he was thinking.
Although we often say that women should not be reduced to tools for procreation, it is also dirty not to confess before marriage and deliberately conceal it.
Cohabitation before marriage will really bring a lot of hidden dangers to our future lives, we must list the pros and cons, think clearly about our future and then make decisions.
Of course, we can't say that there is no real feeling without money, but as a mother, it is completely understandable that she does not want her daughter to suffer.
In feelings, once a woman moves the truth, she will let go of all her heart and reticence, and her IQ will become zero. When she loved herself so much, she overturned all the criteria for mate selection in her heart.
However, the authorities are confused, the bystanders are clear, and women must maintain their sanity in dealing with feelings. Be clear about what the man is trying to do in this relationship, what you can give him, and what he can bring you.
Marriage is not as simple as love, it carries chicken feathers, rice oil and salt. And all of this is inseparable from the mutual support of two people, and also inseparable from the copper stink that you think insults love.
If, as a mother, would you rather have your daughter live with or marry a man who has no car, no house, no savings, and who needs to be supported by a parent without social security?
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