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For feelings, women are much more emotional than men, as long as they love, they just want to live with each other for a lifetime.
They want the day to be hopeful, to get past it, not to get worse.
Once in love, women are braver than men.
This bravery is both a good thing and a bad thing, a good thing is not to miss the beloved, and the bad thing is to be deceived by the other party and deeply hurt.
There are always some women who can't understand the man's intentions, don't know whether the other party is sincere or false, and even sometimes take the other party's false intentions as the true heart, making themselves miserable.
In fact, men love you with performance, and only men who love you dare to do something.
If they don't love in their hearts, they won't do it.
If a man dares to be willing to do these two things for you, you dare to love.
Because, in his heart, he already regarded you as a family, and he also wanted to live this life with you happily.
01: Take you home to meet your parents
As the saying goes, love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooligan.
Although this sentence is somewhat absolute, it can also be seen that everyone's attitude towards emotional hope.
Of course, some couples are rushing to get married and fall in love at the beginning, but no one can say anything about their feelings, and they thought that there was no problem that was likely to occur.
Compared with these people, there are still people who are originally playing with the purpose of playing, but you are just taking it seriously.
Generally speaking, if a man wants to marry you, he will naturally take you to see your parents, because this is something that cannot be bypassed, and if he does not bring it, it means that there is a situation.
Never believe the excuse he makes, the reason why he doesn't take you to see you is not because he is not ready, but because he does not want you to see at all, because you are not the person he will stay with all his life.
Some time ago, my friend Wang Rong broke up with her boyfriend decisively, her breakup made people a little caught off guard, I originally thought it was because my boyfriend betrayed the marriage and was caught by Wang Rong, but later I learned that it was not.
When I talked about this, I said:
"Are you a convulsor, take your feelings as a joke, and break up when you want to break up."
When I finished speaking, Wang Rong looked at me and said:
"You're only convulsing?" I can't break up with you or anything. ”
As soon as I saw myself crashing into the muzzle of the gun, I quickly lowered the decibel and asked why.
It turned out that the relationship between the two of them had always been very good, and the reason why Wang Rong broke up was because the boy was unwilling to take her home to meet her parents.
The man's reason is simple, indicating that he is not ready, and now it is very abrupt to see his parents.
In the face of her boyfriend's attitude, Wang Rong directly became angry, and she said to her boyfriend:
"Either see your parents right away, or break up, I don't listen to the rest of the excuses, and you'll talk to whomever you want."
Wang Rong originally thought that her boyfriend would choose to take her to see her parents, but unfortunately her boyfriend chose to break up, so the two of them changed from lovers to familiar strangers.
Wang Rong asked me:
"You said such a man, what do I want to do, I want to live a lifetime but people don't want to." 」
I saw that Wang Rong was a little helpless and a little sad, so I comforted:
"Such a man does not want to do it, just the so-called old does not go to the new do not come, leaving this will definitely meet better."
In fact, when a man is willing to take you home to meet your parents, it is equivalent to wanting the relationship to be recognized and blessed by the family, and wants to live with you for a lifetime.
If he doesn't want to, he just doesn't want to live with you, what else are you clinging to?
Marriage is really an adventure for women, and if you choose the right one, you will be happy for a lifetime, and if you choose the wrong one, you will make yourself more bitter.
A man, if you are not even willing to see your parents, just forget it, otherwise it will only make him more miserable.
02: Dare to talk to you about money and plan your future
There is a saying that goes well, talking about feelings hurts money, talking about money hurts feelings.
Know at all times that a man who truly loves you is not afraid to talk to you about money, and they know the importance of money.
Not only willing to talk to you about money, but also willing to plan the future with you, in his eyes the future is a matter of two people, not a matter of his own, even if he has not entered the palace of marriage, he is still willing to discuss with you.
He knew that in the future, it would not be himself alone, but two people, and since they were together, they could not separate from each other.
At this point, my friend Xiaowen understands very deeply, because her boyfriend is such a person.
Not long after the relationship was confirmed, the boyfriend asked Xiaowen if he was ready?
Xiaowen asks her boyfriend what she means, and the boyfriend says that if she is ready, then he wants to take her home to meet her parents.
In this way, although they have known each other for a short time, they have met each other's parents, and both families are particularly satisfied.
Not only that, the boyfriend is especially willing to spend money for Xiaowen, and when he sees good things, he will not buy it for Xiaowen.
Although Xiaowen complained in her mouth, she was particularly happy in her heart, because she knew that she had met someone who really loved her.
When I didn't know Xiaowen, my boyfriend always wanted to buy a medium-sized SUV, who didn't listen to it at the time, after knowing Xiaowen, he once again talked to Xiaowen about his thoughts.
Xiaowen feels that such a car is not necessary, in her view, the car is a means of transportation, there is no need to invest too much, instead of investing more in the car, it is better to save money to improve her life.
As soon as Jing Xiaowen said this, the boyfriend no longer insisted, but chose to buy a practical car.
When he bought back the car, his friend asked him how to buy this, Xiaowen's boyfriend said that there was no way, his girlfriend would not let him buy, although he said so, but the clear-eyed people looked at it as a joke.
The friend did not say much, but bluntly said that he was really good to his girlfriend.
In fact, a man who loves you deeply will consider your feelings, and he will think about your future life with you, rather than selfishly thinking only about himself.
Generally speaking, such a man is worth spending your life with.
In their eyes, all is not important, you are the most important person, for you he is willing to make changes, in order to live with you for a lifetime, he is willing to be patient to listen to your advice.
In a woman's life, it is really a blessing to meet such a man, and it is really a blessing to be able to marry such a person, even if the road ahead is difficult, she will persist.
Because, the company of the other party will make you feel solid and warm.
Happy lives are always similar, unhappy lives, but all kinds of things.
But no matter what, if you can meet a man who is willing to do these two things for you, please cherish it for a lifetime, only in this way can you live a common life.
About the Author:
Su Xiaobei, a young emotional writer and marriage counselor, focuses on marriage recovery and intimate relationship repair.