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From ancient times to the present, we have a more traditional concept - passing on the generations.
Parents of each family hope that their "bloodline genes" can be passed on, and they also hope that their children can be smoothly passed on from generation to generation, so as not to cut off the "bloodline" of the family.
However, is it really necessary to pass on the incense, or is it really valuable?
From the perspective of the concept of small peasant society, the children have been passed down from generation to generation, indicating that this family is particularly prosperous and is a remarkable clan.
However, with the development of the times to today, we will find that the so-called "incense inheritance" is just to continue to pass on their own destiny. If the family is not good, then the children of this family are born to lose at the starting line.
Remember such a story - "Shepherd Baby".
The parents of the shepherds, their purpose of passing on the generations, is actually vague, just because they have reached the age of reproduction, so they will reproduce. And the shepherd baby itself? Nor is there a clear purpose. In the end, generations of reproduction, generations of poverty.
What's more, in this era, people's concepts and thinking have changed. Therefore, some people choose not to inherit incense, which is a reality that no one can change.
At the very least, the situation will be more pronounced in the big cities.
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The 53-year-old father lamented that the child no longer inherits incense, which may be the biggest way out.
There is a friend who lives in downtown Guangzhou, although he is a native of Guangzhou, his whole family of five lives in a small house of 40 square meters, which is particularly shabby.
Every time he chatted with him, he would sigh that although he lived in the city, much better than the suburbs, it was this 40-square-meter house that made him and his children see no hope.
I myself will wonder, you have little land there, these 40 square meters of house is worth two or three million, but also enjoy sufficient education and medical resources, how can you say that there is no hope?
Later, he told me about the child.
His child, Xiao Chen, is 28 years old this year, and has reached the age of talking about marriage. But he couldn't afford a house, he couldn't afford a car, and he didn't even dare bring his girlfriend home.
Once, Xiao Chen consulted with his father to see if he could pay a down payment so that he could get married and have children smoothly.
When my father heard this, he said only one sentence: "Your grandmother and grandfather have been in poor health and need to take medicine every month." Your mother's job, although stable, is only 6,000 yuan a month, and my hand, holding less than 200,000 family funds at most, all of which may not be enough for you to get married. ”
After hearing his father's words, Xiao Chen despaired.
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When Lao Chen saw his son's experience, he also shook his head and said, "In fact, when we are parents, we don't have any requirements for passing on the generations." But the marriage can only rely on you, the father can only borrow everywhere at most, raise 500,000, the rest of everything, really can't do anything. ”
After half a year, the company where Xiao Chen worked went out of business due to environmental problems. Nowadays, Xiao Chen has been unable to find a job and can only take orders online to live. And, even his girlfriend broke up with him.
Reality, a cruelty.
In this regard, as a father, Lao Chen also sighed: "Son, if you really can't afford to get married and have children, then there is no way." Perhaps, you live a little easier alone, and living for yourself in this life is another choice. ”
Xiao Chen, on the other hand, also agrees with his father's concept: "Instead of giving birth to a child and suffering, it is better not to be born." Moreover, the cost of marriage is so high, and the cost of marriage is so large, it is not something that our family can afford..."
Are there many young people like "Xiao Chen"? In the big cities of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, and Shenzhen, there are basically countless.
Many people feel that children in big cities can definitely get married and have children. As everyone knows, there are also many poor people in big cities. Therefore, the low fertility rate in big cities is also a reality that cannot be changed.
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Let's go back to the topic of "passing on incense". In your opinion, what kind of family has the most births, and what kind of family has the least births?
According to the survey, the more poor families are not highly educated, the more they are born, especially in rural areas. The richer the family, the more children they have because of the need for heirs. Conversely, the middle class in big cities often does not give birth.
Why doesn't the middle class give birth?
Because these middle-class people have lived thoroughly, first, they do not have this economy, and second, they feel that they have already lived so hard, why should they let their children suffer?
As soon as the children of wealthy families are born, they drink high-grade milk powder. Children born in the cold door may not even be able to drink milk powder.
The children of rich families are all aristocratic education from childhood to adulthood, and the people around him are high-level talents and famous teachers, so his potential will naturally not be bad. And the children of ordinary people, unless they are geniuses, cannot catch up with the pace of the former.
More importantly, at some point in the future, someone else's child will have a car and a house and live for the good. And the children who come out of the cold door, not only 996, but even on the verge of sudden death, may not even live as well as their fathers.
This is the most terrible "family cycle".
In fact, for the inheritance of incense, everyone has their own choices. However, for children, we may as well adhere to a principle, for the sake of temporary pleasure and let children suffer, that is the biggest irresponsibility.
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