Many people have had such a misunderstanding of thinking, how stupid the giants are, and how diligent they are.
Most of the children of rich families have not suffered, have no sense of distress, and their future life paths are thousands of ways, so they will not study hard for the so-called success.
On the contrary, the children of poor families have no shortcuts in the future, and the only way to change their fate may be to study hard.
In real life, however, the opposite is true.
There are more and more rich children who are righteous in their words and deeds, and who are hard-working and hard-working. On the contrary, the children of poor families are infected with the problems of the former rich second generation.
It's a strange phenomenon, but it's real.
Hard-working rich children, don't they know that their families are rich and can not fight so hard?
No, but their visionary parents, who have been indoctrinated from an early age to "be born in distress and die in comfort", their parents attach importance to education, especially to family education, so that parents teach their children more than their children's learning.
Guo Jingjing's family participated in a marathon parent-child running race, and after the race, they interviewed Huo Qigang to explode his son's material, and during the run, he advised his son to take a break when he was tired, and Huo Zhongxi said: "No, I will lose if I stop."
The noble sons of the giants fight so hard, but the cold door has repeatedly come to the news that the losers have been raised because of the doting of their parents.
The most extreme example occurred in Luoshan County, Henan Province, where Yang Suo, a 23-year-old boy with normal consciousness and sound limbs, actually starved to death in his home...
Lazy poor children, don't they know their own family situation? Maybe part of you know, maybe part of you don't know.
It is not surprising to know, after all, the poor children who live in it every day and do not know their own family situation, perhaps a big reason why they do not know, may be that their parents do not want them to know.
Why is that?
For these parents, they have worked hard enough not to let their children suffer anymore, and the way they choose to make their children not suffer is to pamper their children, respond to their children's needs, and tighten their pants and belts to meet the needs of their children.
Around us, there are too many such parents. Regardless of the difference in family resources, we will make every effort to give everything to let the children enjoy the best living conditions.
"It is difficult to get a noble son out of the cold door," this sentence is not empty, poor and frightened parents, would rather suffer the whole family than the child, reluctant to let the child do housework, just focus on reading, other things can be ignored, the result has been raised a lot of white-eyed wolves and nibbling old people.
Compensatory psychology is the self-consolation of elders.
20 years ago, the poor had the courage to admit their shortcomings and remain sober in educating their children: our family is not well-off, you have to shoulder more responsibilities and be self-reliant.
Nowadays, all kinds of wealth creation myths impact all levels of society, more and more people who have not created wealth, pushing the responsibility to opportunities, social injustice, class solidification, because there is no hope, can only do everything to compensate for the children: I don't care what you will do in the future, at least when you are a child, others have you.
This directly leads to a bad consequence: the worse the family situation, the easier it is to regard normal education as suffering, and to be ashamed of making children suffer.
It's a vicious circle.
A senior teacher who has been teaching for 20 years said: In the past twenty years, society has undergone profound and tremendous changes, and the top students in the school have also quietly undergone profound changes. In recent years, most of the students who have entered the top schools are children from well-off families.
In the class, the so-called "double poor students" who perform the worst are often no longer the children of the "second generation of officials" and "rich second generation" in the past, but often come from low-income families.
Recently, there is news that in a certain school, in order to make students understand things and change their negative learning attitudes, they organized them to watch the "father's part-time work picture", and the students shed tears when they saw their fathers working hard to carry bulky goods with their bodies.
Many parents in the comment area affirmed the school's approach, feeling that such a movie-watching experience can indeed outweigh a lot of verbal "big truths", and the students cry, which just shows that they have been impacted in their hearts.
In fact, to say, is there any meaning in watching such a movie?
There must be, at least to give those cold children who are physically and mentally paralyzed, one more chance to wake up.
But it's hard to say whether such an impact will last.
A person who always wants to pretend to be drunk, even if you wake him up, he will only raise his head and pretend to echo with you, and when others are not staring at him, he will get drunk again.
After all, lying down is more comfortable than standing up straight.
Under the habit of being pampered, negativity and laziness have become the norm for those who do not want to make progress, and it is also their comfort zone, and they want to make them work hard and study hard from then on through a film.
difficult!
The internal drive of diligence is not so good at talking, it comes, so the occasional memory of bitterness, the strength is far from enough, only with the child to experience it personally, and perseverance, it is possible to pluck the string in the child's heart.
Restore the essence of life to children and experience all kinds of life, it is not only sweet.
Finally, I would like to ask, as a parent, will you hide the thorns and bumps in your child's life and only show a beautiful side? Welcome to leave a comment.
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