There is an old saying: dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and children of mice will make holes.
Now some people say: Lamborghini, this thing, when born, there is no, it is difficult to have in this life.
The meaning of these two sentences is similar, that is, the child will generally follow the social class and status of the parents, and it is difficult to make a big change.
But what child didn't have high hopes for him when he first came into the world? Except for prodigies, most parents will slowly weaken this desire, only hoping that their children will "keep a big bowl and eat a lot of food.".
However, there are still some parents who do their best in their children, even if they are just ordinary movers, they also want to do their best to give their children a splendid future...
Part.01
The moving brother moves more than a thousand times a year,
I want my daughter to attend elementary school for 200,000 years...
There is an ordinary moving brother in Shanghai, but he has an unusual dream - to try to make his daughter a talent.
The moving brother is a Shanghai drifter, he takes his wife and daughter, and lives with his sister and brother-in-law in a place not far from the Oriental Pearl.
In order to reduce the cost of living, many Shanghai drifters choose to rent in remote places, but this little brother does not think so, and the Oriental Pearl can be seen from the window of his home. He said that this can motivate himself, and second, let the children see that we are close to Shanghai.
I have to say that this is a father with a long-term vision. He not only has a long-term vision, but also pays a big drop of sweat.
His job is to help people move, and the population in big cities is frequent, and moving can indeed earn money. The little brother can receive three or four orders a day, more than 10,000 when there is less than a month, and more than 20,000 when there is more.
It sounds like a lot, but many people only do one or two singles to become "deserters", and the hardships of this job are self-evident. But in order to earn money, the little brother never spared his strength, even if there was no elevator task, he did not give up, and in the end, "the clothes inside were all wet, and his hands were numb."
What supports the little brother is his spiritual belief, that is, to let his daughter receive elite education, and he hopes to let her daughter go to a private primary school in Shanghai, and the annual tuition fee will need 200,000 yuan.
In this regard, most netizens expressed their support, and the positive and optimistic spirit of this little brother, as well as the father's love as a father who did his best for his children, touched many people.
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However, some netizens feel that his behavior is not advisable, and that the child may not adapt to the environment around him.
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Parents understand that education is very important for children, so how likely is it to make a qualitative leap in the family through education?
Part.02
Improve the quality of children's education,
Can the family counterattack be achieved?
There is a famous saying: knowledge changes destiny.
There is also an old saying that goes like this: Everything is inferior, but the reading is high.
Today, when science and technology lead the world, the truth revealed by these famous sayings and aphorisms is even more profound.
Therefore, countless parents have done their best to spend real money and silver to help their children apply for tutoring classes, invite famous teachers, and squeeze into famous schools, just to let their children get high-quality education and become the dragon and phoenix among people.
For the rich, investing in children is a natural success, but for families with average economic standards, they may have more than enough and lack of strength.
Therefore, Xiong Xuanang, a student bully admitted to Tsinghua University, will say such a heartfelt sentence:
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Middle-class children are more likely to be admitted to good universities, which is not Xiong Xuanang's mockery of the cold door, but his examination of society and his thinking about educational fairness.
Children from humble backgrounds have also been admitted to prestigious universities, but the number is small, and they may need to redouble their efforts.
There are many aspiring cold parents, like the moving brother, willing to pay very hard, as long as the child can become a talent, they would rather work overload, try to reduce living expenses, and use all the family resources on the child.
Under such conditions, if the child has good qualifications and is in good condition, he may really be able to become a talent, but it is still too early to change the fate of the family.
Because to achieve the "upgrading" of the social class of the family, it takes more than one generation's efforts.
Just like Liu Qiangdong, although he is said to be a "cold door noble son", in fact, he is not really a cold door. Liu Qiangdong's ancestral family was rich (and then declined), and his father was the only high school student in the village, who seized the opportunity to start a business very early, which greatly improved family conditions. More importantly, he gave Liu Qiangdong a very discerning life guide.
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Therefore, changing a family requires the joint efforts of several generations, so that the children of the next generation stand on the shoulders of higher giants, and eventually reach a counterattack, so that the family can obtain a qualitative leap.
However, during this period, parents also need to pay attention to a lot of problems, because people are not born for the goal, but for the enjoyment of the process.
Part.03
The biggest investment in children,
It's the love of parents...
It is true that parents want their children to succeed, but there are some problems to pay attention to in the process:
01
The child's burden is too heavy, hindering the pace of growth
Although the ardent hope and attention of parents can promote the progress of children, if they are too late, they will cause a heavy burden on their children, and parents may not be able to take care of their children's nature and ignore their children's interests and hobbies, which will cause serious problems in the long run.
02
Parents overdo it and a strong sense of self-sacrifice
If parents give too much, they will actually feel aggrieved in their hearts, and may have a strong sense of self-sacrifice. The hardships of work coupled with the long-term material needs are not met, and when the child cannot meet expectations, the long-term depressed emotions of parents may be triggered.
For example, in "Little Shed", Mi Tao, her parents took her to the big city to study, work was tired, her father was injured due to work, when Mi Tao could not meet their expectations, her parents could not help but sprinkle all their grievances on her.
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03
Children are affected by external environments and are prone to inferiority
School is also a small society, children also have vanity, parents try their best to let their children go to good schools, but the environment in a good school may be very different from the environment they were in before.
When they are with their classmates, if they feel that their eating, wearing, and living are not as good as people, they may have an inferiority complex in their hearts, and if their parents cannot guide them in time and correctly, the child may have psychological problems.
In fact, the biggest investment in children is not money, but the love of parents.
For the cold door, the material "cold" does not mean that the spirit is also lacking, parents can also give their children love and respect, companionship and tolerance. With a harmonious family atmosphere, a good parent-child relationship, and wise opinions, such a cold door is actually not "cold".
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Some people think that going to school is useless, the boss who graduated from junior high school, the employee who graduated from college, this phenomenon also exists. However, the minority phenomenon cannot be used to overthrow the majority, and for most people, going to school is the closest road to success.
On the other hand, parents do their best to raise their children, mainly in spirit, and material efforts do not have to overdraft the family; even if the children cannot change their class, they will not be bad when they grow up.
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