The so-called "Fish Leaping Dragon Gate" refers to the ancient Cold Gate students, who studied to obtain meritorious names and changed the plight of their original families. But in today's society, if you want to occupy a place in society, in addition to reading, you must also have emotional intelligence and will come.
As Ma Yun once said, "Emotional intelligence determines success, and IQ prevents failure."
As a chat-like variety show, "Round Table Pie" often discusses many hot social events at present. Once a program, it talked about the topic of the cold door is difficult to get takako.
In the program, the host Dou Wentao compared and analyzed the personalities of children born from rural families, cadre families and intellectual families, analyzed the current situation of society, and the reasons for this situation, and many netizens praised it after listening to it.
Rural children are honest
In the program, Dou Wentao said that if a company comes to a group of interns, without looking at the interns' information, they know who is rural, who is the cadre family, and who is the family of intellectuals.
For example, the children of rural families must be the first to go to work. However, although he is very diligent, his emotional intelligence is not high, and he does not know how to interact with people.
The reason for this situation is that rural children have a relatively narrow view of the world, have not seen a big scene, and just do a good job in front of them. And because of the narrowness of the world, I don't know how to handle the relationship between superiors and subordinates, and in the process of getting along with everyone, I am more inferior and can't let go.
As the saying goes, "You don't see the long pine lying in the wind and frost, and when you come to stand in Fuming Hall." Insight is only temporary, as long as you are willing to endure hardships, do practical things, and know how to improve your emotional intelligence, you will slowly grow into a big tree in the sky!
Intellectual children are high
So why is it said that children born into intellectual families are annoying? In fact, there is an inseparable relationship with parents, intellectuals give people a sense of purity, they are not accustomed to the smoothness of the world, nor are they good at socializing with people, only focusing on their own field, and the impact of such a personality on children is also great.
Children born into families of intellectuals often have a situation of not being high or low in their work. They are not good at communicating with people, communicating with people, have poor social skills, and do not know how to do things. It's as if you're the center of the world. Children born in such a family, unless they are strong, it is difficult to mix in the workplace.
Cadres have high emotional intelligence
The children of cadres are different, when they see leaders or elders, they can take the initiative to greet each other and greet each other and greet each other warmly. Although such behavior may seem trivial, it is enough to make a good impression.
The reason for this difference is mainly because of the family environment. Children born in a cadre family, they have been well-informed since they were young, they have followed their parents, they have seen all kinds of people's sophistication, they know how to get along with people, and they also know how to deal with leaders. Getting along with such people gives a comfortable feeling.
Looking at the children born in these three families, there are such great differences in personality that they can only be attributed to the family.
Different families have created different personality characteristics of children. In today's society, people often say that it is difficult to get a noble son in the cold door, in addition to being related to the economic foundation, there are other reasons.
The first is the difference in educational resources, in today's society, educational resources and the economy are linked, rural educational resources are naturally inferior to the city.
Most rural children are a pen, a book, a lesson, and their understanding of the world is only from the textbook. In addition to the basic curriculum in the city, there will be various cram classes and interest classes, which not only consolidate the children's cultural heritage but also increase their insights.
I remember that before, there was a documentary called "Seven Years of Life", which recorded the changes of twelve teenagers from different classes every seven years. In the beginning, they were just carefree teenagers, and as time passed, everyone will find that the influence of class on them is becoming more and more obvious. The children of rich families will get richer and richer, and the children born of poor families will eventually be poor.
The reason why there is such an ending is actually related to educational resources. Rich families give their children far more educational resources than poor families. The reserve of knowledge is abundant, and they have many more choices than poor families.
The concept is backward, although with the development of the times, many rural parents have gradually attached importance to their children's education. But this emphasis is based on solving the problem of survival. If the matter of food and clothing is not solved, they will not have time to care about their children's education.
Nowadays, there is a very serious phenomenon in the countryside, that is, many children who have graduated from high school have dropped out of school because of their family's financial difficulties. They should have had a great future, but it was interrupted for economic reasons.
The reality gap that comes with identity
In today's society, connections determine a person's hierarchy and height. If you want to mix in the society, in addition to your own family conditions, networking is also missing. But children born into poor families are only friends and relatives in the same village.
And for children born from wealthy families, their parents not only can provide her with a superior educational environment, but also enrich their social interaction. Just like the children born to the cadre family mentioned earlier. Frequent interaction with these high-level people, personal vision and thinking will change to a certain extent.
For children in the city, they grew up in the palm of their parents' hands. From birth to adulthood, the only thing to consider is how to get good grades and go to a good university. Even some children go out of society, and even the work is arranged by their parents.
But children born in rural families are very different, and there is an old saying Chinese "the children of the poor have long been home.". Children born from poor families, in addition to trying to enter the university, also want to think about how to help the family and how to change the status quo of the family.
Especially those rural families with many children, in addition to helping their parents, they also have to take care of their younger siblings. They think too much and end up being bound by reality.
As the saying goes, "Those who are destined, what people receive; those who are lucky, are poor and changeable." "Although many people are born into a family with poor economic conditions, their fate is indeed in their own hands. Even if you can't change your "fate", then try to change your "luck". And you, who were born in the countryside, how do you change your luck?
First, try to accept. A person's birth is predestined and we cannot change it. When there is no way to change, try to accept it. Accept your parents, accept the relatives around you, don't complain about yourself all day, complain about the unfairness of fate, and complain about the hardships of your family. Such complaints will only plunge oneself into pain, an infinite cycle. The final result, not only will not change the fate, but even compared to the parents.
Second, learn. The so-called "endless learning" No matter what a person does, as long as he has a certain achievement in that field, he will definitely find a new way out.
Just like Li Ziqi, as a rural-born person, in addition to farming, she also knows embroidery and knows various crafts. Carry forward what you are good at, and it will naturally attract the attention of many people.
Finally, think and persevere. A person's birth may determine his starting point, but it is only the starting point, and if you want to change your destiny, you must understand the spirit of the snail.
Insist on learning, keep thinking, and summarize the setbacks and failures in your life. After all, life is a long road, and no one knows what kind of heights they will reach.
brief summary:
I remember that in "Big Rivers and Big Rivers", Song Yunping once told her brother: Life always gives us problems. But no matter how difficult life is, we must believe that surprises and beauty will illuminate life through the gaps.
Although, as Dou Wentao said, rural children are honest, cadres and children will come to trouble, and intellectual children are annoying, they can be changed through the day after tomorrow.
Perhaps, we cannot decide our own birth; perhaps, fate once stopped us. But remember to believe in the twinkling light of ideals in your heart, which is like a lamp in the dawn that carries you to the other shore. May every student from the cold door be able to blossom a flower from the dust.