Writer Liu Qing once said:
"Everyone has several spiritual pillars of affection for parents, for faith, for ideals, for friends and love. No matter which one is broken, it will hurt your heart. ”
The first emotional pillar in our lives is given by our parents, supporting us in our hearts and accompanying us throughout our lives.
When people reach middle age, no matter how hard it is, they must also do these 3 things for their parents, don't leave regrets!
01 Help parents buy a cozy little house
When we reach middle age, our parents are also old. When people are old, they are still willing to live on their own, on the one hand, they are not willing to cause trouble for their children. On the other hand, live by yourself and feel free.
The host Dou Wentao told about his father in "Round Table Pie", and he said that once, his father came to live in his house for a while.
During that time, my father insisted on washing clothes by hand. He told his father not to wash it, saying that he would put his father's clothes and his own clothes together in the washing machine to wash them. But my father didn't want to. Eventually, my father said, "I know you smell at us old people!" ”
Dou Wentao's words about his father made him giggle in his heart and was very touched.
Some people have discussed the self-esteem of the elderly, we often say "old children", I don't know when, our relationship with our parents is interchangeable, we are getting stronger and stronger, and our parents are getting weaker and weaker. We are becoming more and more rational, and our parents are becoming more and more afraid to speak in front of us.
I have to admit the existence of the generation gap, seek common ground while reserving differences, and let the space solve it. Help your parents buy a cozy little house, and your parents also need their own space. Many children may think that their parents are old, not by their side, they are not at ease, and they think that living with their parents can be filial to their parents, but please respect their own choices.
I had the privilege of meeting a wonderful teacher in my high school years, who was in her fifties and was a national special level teacher. Once, speaking of my parents, the teacher was very emotional and said with tears in her eyes: "My biggest regret is that I could not let my mother live in a house with heating." ”
When I was young, I was very puzzled and thought, "Why can't I do it?" The teacher is so powerful, how can such a small thing not be done? Let yourself be sorry! ”
Today, at the age of 35, I already know the answer.
Therefore, I thought: no matter how hard it is, I must help my parents buy a house with heating.
02 Often take parents for physical examination
When people are old, the greatest pain comes from illness.
As a child, you don't have to buy your parents much good food and use, but you must always take your parents to the physical examination.
Just like the story of the divine doctor Bian Que:
Bian Que once discussed medical skills with a king, Bian Que and two brothers, who are also doctors, the king asked Bian Que, who of the three of your brothers has the most skilled medical skills? Bian Que said it was the big brother.
The king said, "Your eldest brother, I have never heard of any fame. Bian Que said: "My eldest brother's medical skills are very high, he sees you, when you have not yet fallen ill and have no symptoms, he can make your illness not attack." When you're not sick yet, he can prevent you from getting sick. ”
"What about the second brother?" The king asked again. Bian Que said: "My second brother is more skilled than me, the eldest brother is the first, and the second brother is the second." When you just had a disease, when you were still a small illness, it had not yet evolved into a major illness, and the second brother cured your minor illness. Therefore, people in the world think that the eldest brother will not cure the disease, and the second brother is stronger than the eldest brother and can cure some minor diseases. In fact, my eldest brother is the most intelligent - to cure the disease. When you are not yet sick, you are not allowed to be sick, the most sensible. ”
Bian Que said, "The worst thing is me, I am you, this disease is already obvious, I only treated you." ”
The current medical conditions can help our parents to find out when the disease has not yet started, first cure, reduce the pain of parents, prolong the lives of parents, how good.
03 Make one phone call per week
That year, a song "Often Go Home to See" at the Spring Festival Gala sang to the hearts of many old people!
"Often go home to see / Go home to see / Even if you help your mother brush chopsticks to wash dishes / The old man does not want his children to make much contribution to the family / It is not easy to figure out a reunion in a lifetime"
Nowadays, "often go home to see" has long been in law. But what parent would complain that a child who doesn't come home often breaks the law?
Mr. Nan Huaijin, a master of traditional Chinese studies, has such a sentence in the "Analects of The Analects": "Hundred good filial piety comes first, the original heart is not the original trace, and the original poor family has no filial piety." ”
The meaning of this sentence is: The good deeds under the heavens are best in filial piety. Whether a person has achieved filial piety depends on whether he wants filial piety in his heart, not how he does it. If you have to let your parents eat well and dress well, you can count filial piety, then the poor people who can't open the pot will not have filial piety.
"The original heart is not the original" Ah, even if you are busy, you really don't have time to go home to visit your parents, and you can always do it by calling your parents once a week!
How many old people miss their children, but they do not dare to easily call their children even a phone call, for fear of calling the children who are busy, inconvenient to answer, and disturb the children.
How many elderly people have received calls from their children, happy like children. Even though there are very few topics to talk about between many elderly people and children, listening to the voices of children, the heart feels warm.
Xiaojiao Heart Language:
"The tree wants to be quiet and the wind is not stopping, and the son wants filial piety and does not wait"!
Who didn't argue with their parents when they were younger? Human independence begins with challenging parents! No matter what kind of quarrels there were with their parents when they were young, when they reached middle age, they should cherish the time when their parents were alive, help their parents buy a comfortable small house, often take their parents for physical examination, call their parents every week, and do their filial piety without much emotion.