Author: Insight Autumn
Time cannot be stolen, and the wind and rain cannot be separated.
The writer Luo Nan once said:
"True friendship has nothing to do with wealth and status, it is an understanding that goes straight to the heart.
It is not easy for me to understand you, you cherish my efforts, and you know each other's souls. ”
The relationship between people is actually the collision of two hearts.
Fate determines who we will meet, but time will decide who to keep.
People whose souls can rely on each other can walk all the way and walk through the mountains and rivers.
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People whose souls are dependent on each other are comfortable with each other and are not tired of interacting.
Have you ever had such an experience?
Ming ming and a person started very well, and slowly or estranged.
Because the two people can't always talk about going together, they feel very tired to get along.
The novelist Nelson once said:
"Meeting a soul mate feels like walking into a room where you've lived.
You know the bedside books, the flowers on the table, and the things in the kitchen, so you feel comfortable and safe from the bottom of your heart. ”
The same goes for a relationship that really fits.
It doesn't need to be deliberately flattered and maintained, you can be comfortable being yourself.
It does not talk to chickens and ducks and calculates with each other, but only has a similar temperament and a sincere treatment.
Just like director Chen Xiaoqing once mentioned, the story of a few old friends.
Everyone works their own weekdays, and every once in a while, they will find a reason to get together.
What you eat and drink is not necessarily a good wine or a good dish.
But a few people chatted together for a while, and those troubles and tiredness in life disappeared in the blink of an eye.
At the dinner table, he is not a director, and his friends are not editors, teachers, or writers.
Everyone is the purest of themselves, saying the most interesting topics, saying the most intimate words, blowing the most childish cows.
But he does not talk about fame, does not mention money, and does not climb relationships.
This friendship has become a place for them to breathe under the weight of life.
The adult world is a sea of misery, and on weekdays we put on masks and deal with all kinds of people.
But in the presence of a true friend, you never have to be careful to disguise.
When you are happy, you laugh, and when you are sad, you cry.
Even if the outside world is constantly shadowed by swords and swords, the workplace is constantly fighting.
You always have a pure land, you can simply be yourself, and vent your grievances as much as you want.
Every time we get together, we have a meal, two or two drinks, and we really speak.
"We are sincere and relative, the topic is compatible, getting along is relaxed, and the interaction is sincere."
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People whose souls depend on each other have the same frequency and understand without words.
I have an old friend who met in the early years because of words, and then everyone went to their own future and separated the two places.
He has long since stopped writing, but whenever he sees a good book and a good article, he will always send it to share with me;
I was occasionally upset, and the first one that popped up in my head was always his name.
In the past ten years, I have met many people in my work and life, but no one can have a tacit understanding like him.
As the saying goes, perhaps each of us has two selves:
One is oneself, and the other is a person who has a soul similar to oneself.
A good relationship is always the collision and snuggling of two similar souls.
In the 1990s, the famous Dou Wentao and the writer Xu Zidong met because of a program.
Two people who are equally interested in literature and society become close friends at first sight.
More than twenty years have passed, and the people around them have come and gone, but they are still in tacit understanding.
Dou Wentao was released to do the show, and Xu Zidong flew to help without saying a word.
Xu Zidong published a new book, and Dou Wentao would help him publicize it at the first time.
One is in Beijing and the other is based in Hong Kong, but they have always been worried about each other.
Once Xu Zidong was ill, and Dou Wentao was busy doing the program while worrying about him.
There are some heartfelt words that cannot be spoken to others, but he can always speak to Xu Zidong with confidence.
Every time we meet, we can open a topic at random, and the two can talk for several hours.
I remember that Xi Murong once said:
"We are on two ridges, far away from each other, but we can hear your gentle voice."
The so-called best friend is a soul conceived in different bodies.
On weekdays, you have the fragility of your strength, and I have the heartache behind my smile.
But it only takes a glance to understand the other party's insincerity and desire to stop talking.
Time is not an obstacle, space is not an issue, busyness is not an excuse.
Because they understand each other, they tacitly understand each other; because they miss each other, they cherish it extraordinarily.
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People whose souls depend on each other support each other and support each other.
I have seen a sentence that is very touching:
"A relationship can't last, and many times it's not that the fate is not enough, but the character is not good."
The beginning of a friendship must be because of similar interests and common hearts.
But in the end, it is necessary to return to virtue and character.
When people are in the scenery, applause and following always come easily.
The person who stretches out his hands to you when you are down is the one who deserves to be soul-friendly.
A netizen shared an experience of his own.
On the year of graduation, he came to Beijing alone, with a pitifully low salary, and could only live in a small single room in the suburbs of less than ten square meters.
Because of long-term overtime and irregular diet, he got a stomach ulcer, and his girlfriend in a different place also proposed to break up.
He did not dare to tell anyone that a man had been hiding in a rental house all night smoking cigarettes and shedding tears.
Later, his college roommate who came to Beijing on a business trip asked him to dinner, and he saw his embarrassment at a glance.
Without saying a word, I transferred 5,000 yuan to him.
He wanted to refuse, but he was touched by his friend's words:
"I'm a buddy with you, I don't want anything else, just two words of affection."
You encounter difficulties, I can help, I can help, can't help us still can't think of ways together?
The old man carried it himself, and he wanted me to do this friend, when I was eating and drinking with you. ”
Some people say that the feelings of adults are fragile and cannot withstand the test of reality.
But true friends are always a haven where your soul can anchor.
Just like in the movie "Untouchable", the disabled Philip and the newly released Drees.
They supported each other in the most difficult times of each other's lives, licked their wounds, and became each other's pillars.
Even if life refuses to treat you well, I will do my best to bring you warmth.
Even if everyone looks down on you, I am willing to stand firmly with you.
When you are lonely, give you companionship; when you are sad, give you comfort.
Wind and rain do not leave, and suffering follows.
Perhaps, this is the greatest meaning of friendship.
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There is a saying on the Internet that has touched me for a long time:
"Life is a huge, inexhaustible volume, we crawl forward, right and wrong.
But thankfully with a close friend, the long and arduous task of answering the questionnaire became less bitter. ”
True friendship is a heart close to a heart, a soul nestled in a soul.
Only those who are connected in heart will understand each other;
Only those with close souls can bear the wind and rain.
Click on it, may you find someone who can be attached to your soul.
Be able to read your happiness, feel your sadness, and always stand firmly behind you.