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Bian Que once had the principle of "there are six incurable diseases":

"Arrogance does not matter what is reasonable, one does not cure; the light body is heavy and the wealth is not cured; the food and clothing cannot be properly treated, and the third is not cured; yin and yang are not combined, the hidden qi is uncertain, and the four are not cured; the form cannot take medicine, and the five are not cured; the witch believes in witches and does not believe in medicine, and the sixth does not cure."

The patient sees the doctor, the doctor treats the disease, and the heavenly reason is also.

However, everything has rules and guidelines, and the patient who has the first principle of incurable Bian Que is a person with "heart disease", which is also his first principle of treatment.

Why would Bian Que put this principle in the first place?

The reason is that arrogant such patients, to put it bluntly, are unreasonable, even if you have medical skills to cure the diseases in his body, you cannot cure the diseases that exist in his heart.

The word "medical treatment" seems to be treating physical diseases, but in fact, the most important thing is to heal the "stubborn diseases" in one's heart.

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1: Xiu Cai met the soldiers, and the reason was not clear

The most painful thing in life is that no matter how you explain it, the other person will not believe every word you say.

In fact, when encountering people who do not agree with the three views and maintain a huge gap in cognitive level, no matter how you explain it, it is a "crime", and it is a kind of self-harm.

As Wang Chuan said:

"Trying to explain for free to those who don't want to listen is a disease that must be cured.

It's like seeing a boulder rolling down a hill and immediately trying to catch it, even if you are subjectively well-intentioned, you will be objectively bruised. ”

For example, many people say that once a woman is caught in the ocean of love, she has no ability to think, even if they feel that the other party is likely not to be the person who can accompany them for a lifetime, but they cannot listen to their own advice, nor can they listen to the advice of others.

No matter how you explain it, no matter how many strong opinions and judgments you find, it will not make her choose to give up.

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These people, in the final analysis, have always only trusted their own judgments, and this judgment is still completely based on her own personal feelings and very shallow imaginations.

When the day came, she fully felt the innocence, fantasy, self-abuse and deep remorse of the original, and she knew how to write the word regret.

In life, we will always meet some people who are completely different from our own three views, and they will always stick to their own ideas.

If you feel that you can't change the other person at all, then let the other party treat life in his own way, anyway, his life, after all, is his life.

Moreover, their own goodwill and their own active explanation may make them feel unhappy, and may even suffer from the exclusion and resentment of the other party.

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At this time, one more thing is better than one less thing.

You can't wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, just as Xiucai met a soldier, the reason is not clear, the more you want to say, the more he does not want to listen.

Such a situation is not good for you and for him, so why not choose to calm down and not do any explanation.

You give others a free "medical treatment", others feel that they are "not sick", the more you explain that he is "sick", he feels that you are "sick".

It is better to act as if you have not seen anything, and if you see it, it does not matter in your heart, it does not matter in your mind.

Anyway, if you are on the side of reason, sooner or later the other party will suffer losses because of their "unreasonableness", suffer and suffer, and time will prove everything.

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2: Before seeing someone else, see yourself

Zhou Dunyi in the "General Book : Over twenty-six":

"Today's people have had, but they don't like people's rules, such as protecting the sick and avoiding medical treatment, preferring to destroy their bodies without enlightenment."

The root of people's inferiority lies in the fact that because of a momentary inferiority and timidity, because of the fear of encountering failure, they always carefully cover up their shortcomings and mistakes, and because they are afraid of being criticized.

These people are like a small child, obviously his actual age has long been an adult, but the mind he presents is like a child, afraid that if he makes a mistake for a while, he will be blamed and blamed by adults.

Therefore, once you find that there are some problems in your body, even these problems are commonplace, many people will have them, but in order to present their best, most upright, and most sunny side, so they choose to "hide their diseases and avoid medical treatment."

To put it bluntly, this is a psychological stubborn disease, and the typical manifestation of this mental illness is that in order to maintain their so-called dignity and face, the farther away from their true selves, the better.

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The Tao Te Ching says:

"If you don't know, you still know; if you don't know, you are sick."

Knowing what you don't know, and then daring to accept different voices and listen to the voices of professionals, this is a noble quality.

On the contrary, if you don't know, but you like to pretend that you know, this is not only a shortcoming, but also a manifestation of psychological illness.

Because how can people who like to deceive themselves live a healthy psychological life?

Therefore, the Tao Te Ching goes on to say:

"The saints are not sick, but sick with them. The only disease is to not be sick. ”

The reason why people with holy temperaments are not sick is that they face up to their shortcomings and admit the knowledge they do not understand, so they dare to admit their ignorance and generously accept their shortcomings, so they live freely and healthily in life.

However, a person with a healthy personality must not only discover the problems existing in himself and others in time, but also do one thing: before treating others, first treat yourself.

That is to say, if you recognize yourself, it means that you also understand the other party, and you know why the other party has such a personality performance.

But at the same time, don't be self-righteous or receptive because others are different from you, or be happy to judge the other person.

As there is a saying in The Great Gatsby:

"Whenever you want to criticize someone, remember that not everyone in this world has those advantages that you have."

Because you have crossed the hurdles that others have not yet crossed, your cognitive ability is much higher than that of the other party.

But you also can't judge others at will because your cognitive abilities are better than each other's, stand on the moral high ground, or "see" each other with a sense of superiority.

If you do do that, you're still "sick."

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3: Be your own doctor and become someone else's friend

Nothing in the world is black and white, and we have no reason to be an "absolute" person.

Just as there are no real patients, there are no real doctors.

People live a lifetime, whether physically or mentally, more or less will bring a little "disease".

A person who knows how to see a doctor for himself is a kind of skill and a kind of wisdom, and knowing how to become a friend of the "patient" is a kind of vision, but also a pattern.

The Tao Te Ching, Chapter 33, says:

"He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."

Knowing how to understand others is a kind of wisdom, and only by understanding yourself can you achieve wisdom.

Indeed, in life, only when a person becomes his own doctor and becomes a friend of others can he truly live comfortably and happily.

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