During the Spring Festival, everyone's heart is looking forward to going home, but everyone also knows that they will leave home soon after returning home, tidy up their bags to go home, and also tidy up their bags that leave home, leaving home and going home affect the heart of every wanderer, and after stirring in their hearts, they return to the original idea of going home.
The "humility" of parents at home has become the norm in Chinese-style family relationships. The older we get, the more cautious and overwhelmed they become. Always worried about not giving us the best life, with a flattering attitude to obey, afraid of being rejected. It's not that they've changed, it's that we've changed. Spring Festival must go home, don't wait until one day, when you come home, call a parent, empty room to ask no one to respond, only to understand the biggest pain in life.
However, the Spring Festival holiday is short after all, and after 6-7 days of going back to enjoy the care of parents every time, they began to leave again. Every time I return, in addition to filling a cart of food, I also carry the expectations of my parents: I often go home to see!
Often go home to visit parents
The MTV song "Often Go Home to See" sang the voices of many parents; the public service advertisement of "Often Go Home to See" reproduced the loneliness of parents that many children could not see. If you live in the same city as your parents, spend at least one day every weekend to reunite with them. If, you are far away from your parents, during the holidays, be sure to go home and see.
Whenever Xinyue saw that public service advertisement, she was full of guilt for her parents. Because, she lives the life of the "North Drifter", far away from her hometown and away from her parents. She did not know whether the sons and daughters who lived in the same city as their parents would be able to return home to visit their parents often, and if it were her, under such convenient conditions, she would have been able to go back often, even if it was just for a meal. This year's weather, everyone thought it was a warm winter. Although the warm winter may not be a good thing, I think that returning to the northeast for the Spring Festival will be hoped for people like Xinyue and her husband who have been wandering outside for many years and have not been very accustomed to the cold weather in their hometown. However, the sudden drop in temperature in Beijing for several consecutive days, the five or six north winds blowing up, made them feel almost as cold as the northeast. Through the TV news, they knew that the temperature in their hometown had been thick and cold to more than thirty degrees below zero. Listening, I felt scared. Her husband discussed with her: either this year's Spring Festival will not go back, it is better to go back on "May Day". Xinyue sighed, and her husband said to her: "This year, go home for the Spring Festival." She nodded silently.
Because Xinyue is busy at work, she usually does not go home often, and her parents have never come to live here. Last year's National Day, Xinyue called her parents to come to them so that she could play with the second elder for a few days. But her parents just wouldn't come, so Xinyue had no choice but to go home to visit her parents. She blamed her parents and said, "If you want us to come to live with us for a while!" We work over there and can't come back often." The mother sighed and said, "It's not that I don't want to go, I'm afraid of causing you trouble." Since you were a child, your grandmother has said: As long as you can still go out of the door, don't bother others. If I were in good health and had good legs and feet, I would definitely go to live with you. I can also cook for you, wash your clothes, and do housework without worrying you. alas! But now mom's body is not working, you are so busy every day, I will go
It's a liability. Xinyue looked at her mother, and her heart was not a taste.
When my mother was young, my father often traveled on business, and the housework was done by my mother alone. She was afraid of affecting the children's learning, and almost did not let Xinyue do housework, and Xinyue did not even wash her clothes several times before going to college. Now her mother's arthritis hurts every day, and diabetes also makes her uncomfortable to move. But as soon as she heard that Xinyue was going home, she would go to the big market in the distance, buy a lot of things that Xinyue loved to eat, and cook a large table of meals. And now, because he was afraid of the cold weather, he postponed the time to go home to visit his relatives, thinking of these Qin Yue ashamed: "As long as you can still go out of the gate, don't bother others." "But we have troubled our parents for a lifetime!"
In today's prosperous society, more children work and study outside all year round, even if they go home during the Spring Festival, they are either busy socializing or traveling, and they have no time to accompany their parents. Parents had to spend the rest of their lives in loneliness and loneliness.
The material inadequacies of parents and the inconvenience of life are indeed disturbing, but the spiritual loneliness of parents makes them even more heartbroken. For the Spring Festival, a day traditionally regarded as a reunion, the psychological gap between the lonely elderly is even stronger. Parents can live a life of poverty, but it is difficult to bear the thought of their children. As a child, if you don't want to leave yourself with eternal guilt, even if you are busy studying and tired at work, you can't use these as excuses for not going home. Parents in the world, the most important thing is family affection. Having a home-cooked meal with your children and sitting down to talk about home cooking can make your parents happy for half a day. Often go home to see, accompany the elderly, this is not only the love for parents, but also the responsibility and obligation of every child.
Don't think of your parents as "nannies"
Modern parents, raising their children to adulthood, preparing marriages for their children, after seeing their children start a family, should have enjoyed the filial piety of their children, but more, it is rare for them to see their children, and finally they are happy to see their children's parents have become the fire-headed army facing oil, salt and vinegar, but they still have no complaints, preferring to be tired and happy. Can't being a child make parents happy only?
Love, in fact, is a positive energy, it can motivate children to continue to grow, nourish young people to be active, and encourage the elderly to enjoy life. Father's love is like a mountain, mother's love is like water, we live happily in the real mountains and real waters, revel in the beauty, and when we use their resources, do we forget to love their beauty? A good family ecological environment requires our efforts to plant trees and conserve water and soil, otherwise when the mountains are barren and there is no grass, we will no longer be happy.
Wang Zhenjun has been in Beijing for more than four years, his career has fluctuated, he is busy with his livelihood every day, and many memories have been inadvertently covered with moss. The memory of his childhood has gradually faded in his mind, and the suffering that his parents suffered on him has long been blurred. He even thought that his parents' efforts in him were an obligation. Everything has changed since he became a family, and now that he's done, he wants to hurry home. Since becoming a father, I have truly realized from a handful of and a handful of urine that it is not easy for parents to support themselves in the first place. He had no mother when he was nine years old, so he regarded his mother-in-law as his own mother.- Naturally, he has no scruples, nor is he bound to any subsections. Whether it is his wife and children, or gaotang's father, when he reaches middle age, he is no longer a one-man world, and he can no longer be elegant. He found that he gradually became less courageous, and he began to be scrupulous in doing things, looking forward and thinking later. The wife said that he was called mature. Zhenjun knew that the burden on his body was very heavy, weighing him down on other entertainment life, and he ignored any emotional communication. When he finally had free time outside of work, he became a literal slacker, shutting himself in his room, watching TV, and sleeping. Spread a bunch of housework to the wife and "mother-in-law". They can understand Zhenjun's "excuses" and don't worry about anything with him.
Zhenjun's young son began to understand things, and the boy's active nature began to show, crying and making noise, and he had to go to the outside world to see. As a result, Zhenjun could no longer find a reason to be lazy, and on a sunny day, he took his son and wife to breathe in nature, leaving his "mother" alone at home and continuing the housework she could never finish. Watching his son running and playing, Zhenjun and his wife joined hands in a peaceful environment, and their hearts were also purified and purified, which suddenly realized that they had indeed been too far away from play and green in recent years. Children lack companions.
One gets tired of playing very quickly. Hearing the word "meaningless" blurted out from his son's mouth, Zhenjun deliberately played with the child and chased it. As his son grew up day by day, Zhenjun found that only children were not the best environment for children to grow up, and they lived in an emotional monotonous world since childhood, resulting in many personality deficiencies, such as selfishness, narrow-mindedness, and so on. As far as he is concerned, he is still young and can still afford to hold the pen. But after many years, I am old, the pen is rusty, and the society is in an aging society. The two families have to bear the burden of supporting two families and four elderly people, and they also have to support their own children, and they really feel that they have a heavy burden. So Zhenjun and his wife gave birth to another daughter. Both children are very close to grandma. Some time ago, the popular "going to the sea", looking at the family has a little foundation, Zhenjun and his wife resolutely decided to open a shop to do business. Their busyness has caused both children to be taken care of by the "mother". Since the youngest daughter came to the house, although the son has entered the kindergarten, he is unusual, and he actually competes for favors, and he has to sleep with Zhenjun's wife at night. The little daughter became the grandmother's "child" one day, And Zhenjun's "mother" took her grandson home and fainted at the gate of the compound. At that time, he and his wife were busy in the store, and the courtyard doorman called them and said, "Mr. Wang of 907, your nanny is sick, please come back quickly." nanny? At that time, he was stunned, and did not look back, and the other party said: "I see her with your child." Zhenjun suddenly realized that he and his wife immediately rushed home. He put his wife in charge of taking care of the children at home and took his "mother" to the hospital. The wife was a little uneasy, and he said to his wife: "I will go, what do you not worry about, that is my "mother"! Sending the "mother-in-law" to the hospital, the doctor said that the elderly were overtired and lacked sleep, resulting in physical weakness
, low blood pressure. Get a shot of glucose and go home to rest and recuperate. When Zhenjun brought his mother back, he lived in the community for several years, and the doorman was somewhat familiar with his face, and he said warmly: "Your boss is really good, and you are so good to your own nanny!" It's humane." "Mother" listened to the security guard, weak and ignored it. But he said in a nonchalant manner, "You brother don't know, don't be fooled!" This is my 'mother'! The doorman was stunned and embarrassed to say, "I'm sorry! I'm sorry! "But the eyes clearly write how is this not like your old mother, who often sees her with children, and what is the difference between her and other nannies?" Zhenjun didn't say anything more, feeling ashamed in his heart. That night, Zhenjun couldn't sleep all night, full of the doubtful eyes of the security guards. That look stung every nerve in his spine. The next day, he resolutely decided to "fire" his mother as a nanny.
Vanity is subordinated to filial piety
Parents are the most precious people for every child, and loving them and honoring them is an indispensable emotion for a person to live happily in this world. On the contrary, no matter what you do for your parents, there is nothing for parents in the world to make him happier than if their own child is healthy and happy in this world. It is from the sincere love for parents, we should cherish our own lives, so that we always maintain health and happiness, when we listen to too many parents how to love their children after the touching story, cherish and love our parents, will make us always have a high ground of the heart. Whether it is parents or us, a vibrant life can feel a more vigorous love. This kind of love has extraordinary meaning, it is a belief that people support each other, and it is a kind of strength for us to reach a better tomorrow hand in hand.
CCTV's "Everyone's Opinion" reported such a news that Lanzhou girl Lin Juan (pseudonym) has been chasing idol Andy Lau for 12 years, and her parents have spared no expense in order to fulfill her wish to meet With Andy Lau, not only in debt. Even the family's house of less than 40 square meters was sold, almost ruined, and his father even made the decision to sell his kidney. As a result, When Andy Lau learned of this, he angrily rebuked him as "unfortunate! ”
When it comes to the lack of traditional moral civilization, many parents believe that their children's filial piety is the biggest hidden worry. It is not uncommon for children not to understand the hardships of their parents, to casually make demands from their parents, and to gamble once their parents do not agree. It is often seen in the newspaper that parents do not hesitate to sell blood and kidneys for their children's education or treatment, and in turn, children and classmates are more than wearing, talking about pomp and circumstance, posing with arrogance, and spending their parents' hard-earned money is not painful at all, which really makes parents feel cold.
Today's poor students are different from before, some poor students will also have mobile phones, computers, they will say that this is a tool for learning and social practice. If this is the case, then there is nothing wrong with it, but it is not appropriate if it is only a momentary vanity. It is a normal psychology for everyone to have vanity, but vanity should not be a factor affecting family affection, and this social vanity should not be demanded in front of parents. When there is a contradiction between the individual and a certain social situation and the affection and filial piety of human beings, the pride of the heart must obey the filial piety of the son! All filial piety comes first, raising children is the obligation of parents, filial piety to parents is also the obligation of children, therefore, as children, we should always think about the grace of parenting, give material support and spiritual comfort, parents should not only raise their children wholeheartedly, but also cultivate their gratitude. Learning to honor one's parents is the basis for being a human being. At present, many college students still lack a sense of responsibility for their parents, families, and society. Modern society is developing rapidly, and traditional concepts have changed, but filial piety as a traditional Chinese virtue cannot be lost, which is the common emotion of human beings.
There is a slogan that "treat yourself well", which reflects a way of decompressing life between the lines, and for some people with strong vanity, "be kind to yourself, no worse than others" is their life code. Only children born in the 1980s are generally emotionally indifferent, knowing only what to take and nothing to appreciate, let alone reciprocate. "Grateful heart, motherly grace" Even animals are naturally aware, let alone us humans? Maybe we have no success in our careers, ordinary work, and cannot return materially to our parents, but we should have filial piety and care for our parents spiritually. In terms of living expenses, we should try to save money and ask less money from parents.
People will have a vain heart, but there must also be filial piety in their hearts, which is a fundamental thing. This thing must be educated in a faith-like way, so that future generations feel that there will be good retribution for filial piety, because moral things are difficult to restrain. We have lost many of our traditional virtues, and we have not cultivated the things of modernity. The story of filial piety, in Chinese history, has a deep imprint, and many story structures involve karma in the question of whether life is smooth or not. But unfortunately, our modern young people have lost all of this.