To see the logic behind a complex matter, you must first find out who is the biggest beneficiary of it. So far, the TV series "Heart Residence" has been played, and almost all the main characters have been scolded very badly, almost only the father-in-law Gu Shihong has been universally praised, and the bullet screen generally praises him as a good father-in-law who can carry it clearly.
Today, let's try to analyze what kind of humanity is hidden behind a good father-in-law who is alone in a chicken flying dog jump.
First, the father-in-law shoulders the task of providing for the elderly and transfers it to the daughter-in-law
1. The second family undertakes the task of providing for the elderly
The Gu family's grandmother had two sons and a daughter, and the eldest uncle and aunt went to the countryside that year, and the city of Shanghai changed dramatically, but it was only through the help of their sister that they were able to settle down in Shanghai.
My aunt became a public official, married and left her mother's house.
The father-in-law is a teacher, has a stable job, and has lost his wife at an early age, so his grandmother naturally lives with him for a long time.
After the great aunt returned to Shanghai to settle down, she did not change this mode of getting along, and the task of providing for the elderly was still undertaken by the father-in-law alone. It can be speculated that the old house they live in is grandma's house, and the second family lives for a long time, so the three families have tacitly provided for the elderly.
2. Before Gu Lei became a family, his father-in-law took care of all the housework
From the current situation of all aspects of the old house, it can be seen that the daughter Gu Qingyu is self-reliant, became a talent early, lived alone and hired a nanny to take care of all the housework, and has never sat and waited to eat and drink in her hometown, obviously not a person who can do housework.
The son Gu Lei is a waste that is fully acquiesced, and his grandmother, father, and sister all tacitly acknowledge that he lies at home and eats and drinks equally.
From the details of the father-in-law's purchase of vegetables, the purchase of breakfast, and the tie of the apron, it can be seen that after the grandmother is old and before the arrival of Feng Xiaoqin, it is the father-in-law who undertakes all the household chores.
3. After Gu Lei became a family, Feng Xiaoqin took over the burden of her father-in-law
Feng Xiaoqin's education is not high school, and when she came to Shanghai, which is full of talents, it is simply a fool's dream to quickly settle down here with her ability. So she took a shortcut, tried every means to entangle Gu Lei, who was at the bottom of her own conditions, and achieved a class jump by getting pregnant and marrying.
Because she had no other skills, she obediently resigned her post and took on the task of taking care of the family. The more she wanted to be recognized, the more dedicated she was to the family, and for 8 years she took good care of the up and down: her father-in-law's glasses were just broken and did not squeak, she fixed them; the medicines that her grandmother took every day were clearly divided; all the things outside her husband's body, such as watches, clothes, briefcases, etc., were all her...
In 8 years, Feng Xiaoqin got up early and greedily did everything with no big details, almost turning the whole family into a giant baby of life, so that she suddenly ran away from home, the family was in a mess in an instant, Gu Lei sent her children to school without even going out of the community door, and she could break her thumb into a broken bone.
No matter what kind of thoughts Feng Xiaoqin had behind her, objectively, in fact, Feng Xiaoqin had taken over all the housework that had originally fallen on her father-in-law, liberated her father-in-law, and did it more carefully and thoughtfully than her father-in-law.
Combining the above points, Feng Xiaoqin came to the Gu family, and the life of her grandmother, sister, and Gu Lei continued as usual, and it was the father-in-law who really underwent great changes. He went from an apron man who worked hard for the family to an idle man who read newspapers and other food and drink. The old mother pension, their own pension, continue to take care of waste... These burdens were all transferred to Feng Xiaoqin, so from the perspective of family life, the father-in-law was the biggest beneficiary of the marriage between Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei.
Second, Grandma likes to party, and father-in-law enjoys praise
The father-in-law has a very good reputation, which can be seen in many ways.
The community business committee is a thankless job, for the management of community vehicles are making news, Gu Qingyu asked him to quit, he refused, he likes this sense of achievement for the community and the recognition of the owners of the community.
After Gu Lei's accident, Feng Xiaoqin wanted to sue the neighbor downstairs who put glass in the public area, and the father-in-law objected on the spot and called Back Gu Qingyu, who was busy with work. Gu Qingyu said to Feng Xiaoqin: "My father is a very traditional person, maybe in your opinion, face, reputation, these things are not important, but he feels important." "The father-in-law hopes to prevent his daughter-in-law from fighting a lawsuit through his daughter, so as not to hurt the harmony of the neighbors and damage his face and reputation."
On the day of the family reunion, the father-in-law bought vegetables and breakfast, and then the grandmother who danced the square dance in the community came home, and the neighbors knew that their family was going to party again, and the father-in-law smiled and said, "The old lady likes it." Neighbors gave him a thumbs up and praised him as a "great filial piety."
A big family gathering every two weeks was held in the name of Grandma's favorite, but the actual reputation fell on the father-in-law. After all, the dinner party is noisy and time-consuming, who is the child, can so frequently and so stably complete the old man's desire for reunion? Looking at the whole community, probably only he, the "great filial piety", can do it.
However, all the praise that the father-in-law received, the actual responsibility fell on Feng Xiaoqin.
The lawsuit was fought because Feng Xiaoqin insisted hard and tore his face with the eldest sister-in-law before he did not compromise; there were old people in the father-in-law who were difficult to serve, sons who did not have a tool, and grandsons who had just entered elementary school, if it were not for Feng Xiaoqin's big package, how could he be a treasurer and go to work for all kinds of chores in the community; as the father-in-law grew older, everyone else never waited for food and drink without hesitation, and if it were not for Feng Xiaoqin's hard work inside and outside, this kind of family gathering could not have been held once a year for 2 weeks.
It can be said that the filial piety, face, and reputation that the father-in-law values most all depend on Feng Xiaoqin's fulfillment.
Third, be a good person yourself, borrow your daughter to beat your daughter-in-law
On the one hand, he is dependent on his daughter-in-law, and on the other hand, he wants to suppress his daughter-in-law, and the father-in-law with a good face refuses to be a bad person himself. His usual trick is to let his daughter be a bad person, borrow her daughter's filial piety to the elders and protect the short, and always knock Feng Xiaoqin.
1. If there is a little trouble in the family, he will call his daughter home
Always call her daughter home, on the one hand, she has the ability to let her come back to preside over the housework, on the other hand, she has a job, often pulls back to walk, and can give him a long face in the neighbor circle.
Therefore, at the invitation of her father-in-law, this eldest sister-in-law, who had gone out to live alone, always appeared in the old house at both ends for three days, participating in various things large and small in the family.
2, the son and daughter-in-law quarrel, let the daughter settle
Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin have been married for eight years, and they have to quarrel twice a year over the accounting exam, and usually they quarrel at two ends for three days. Originally, the husband and wife quarreled at the head of the bed and the end of the bed, which was not a big deal. But every time the couple quarreled, Feng Xiaoqin was anxious to leave, and his father-in-law was more anxious than anyone else, and he would find his daughter to come back as a "rescue soldier" in a hurry.
In fact, it can be seen several times that Gu Qingyu is not idle all the time and is keen to take care of their affairs. Feng Xiaoqin wants to fight a lawsuit, she is temporarily taking 2 hours of leave to rush back, the family is busy and have to rush back to work; the night the couple quarreled, the father-in-law sent a text message to her daughter, Gu Qingyu had a serious cold, and did not want to pay attention, the next day pushed and pushed again and again belated.
However, the father-in-law has long relied on his daughter to settle all the things for the family, whether it is to find a job for his son, or the contradiction between the sister and the husband, it can be said that for a long time, it is the father-in-law who uses the daughter's short-term psychology to forcibly pull her to intervene in the emotional life of others.
3. Before the incident, he never presided over justice
In fact, every time Gu Qingyu came back and said something to Gu Lei, his father-in-law was by his side. Some words may be silly Gu Lei can't understand, but the father-in-law is clear.
As an elder in life, he knew that he could not calculate his life so clearly, and although the words his daughter said were reasonable, how embarrassing it would be to fall into the ears of his daughter-in-law.
But before Gu Lei's accident, his father-in-law never stopped him, because he also had unpleasant looks at his daughter-in-law, but he depended on others and had to be a good person. Therefore, the three people were repeatedly organized to hold small meetings at home, and the daughter spoke bluntly, as if intentionally or unintentionally, she wanted the daughter-in-law to hear the daughter's words, so as to restrain herself.
Until something big happened, the daughter-in-law was angry, and the son was gone, he finally faced the problem of this model. It's just that he sent a white-haired person to a black-haired person, he was the most injured person in this incident, and with sadness, he blamed Feng Xiaoqin by everyone, so that Feng Xiaoqin became the focus of public anger.
When Feng Xiaoqin consciously or unconsciously resisted and vented for himself, he remembered the importance of Feng Xiaoqin in this family, once again stood in the perspective of practical interests, identified with the daughter-in-law, blamed the daughter-in-law, blamed the son's accident on Gu Qingyu's rational analysis, but did not really reflect, that day the daughter entered the door before the couple had been reconciled, if it were not for him urging the daughter to come back, the next thing would not have happened at all.
epilogue:
An irreconcilable relationship between aunt and daughter-in-law, on the surface, is the weakness and incompetence of Gu Lei in the middle, but in fact, it is the father-in-law who always pulls them together.
It is the father-in-law who acquiesces to the daughter who has a career as a "brother-in-law", and also tacitly acknowledges that the daughter always speaks the big truth from a high position in the small meeting. He enjoys this kind of family balance in which he is a good man, and his daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law secretly pinch each other, but on the surface are peaceful and harmonious.
In this balance, the biggest beneficiary has never been Gu Lei, who has been scolded by his daughter-in-law for three days, nor Gu Qingyu, who knows that he has a good life but is pulled to take care of the dirty affairs of other people's husbands and wives, nor is he Feng Xiaoqin, who is a cow and a horse day after day but is guarded against by outsiders everywhere. The biggest beneficiary has always been his father-in-law, who has unloaded all the burdens on his shoulders, and become a great filial piety, a good father, a good father-in-law, and a good grandfather who can even praise the bullet screen.
This is the deepest hidden humanity behind the complex family relationship of "Heart Residence".