Ask everyone, when you get married, do you want your mother-in-law to treat you as an outsider?
I think that there are many mothers-in-law, after their sons get married, will treat their daughter-in-law as an outsider, and she will put all the dislikes of their daughter-in-law in their daily lives, all of them are superficial.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if they get along well, it is helpful to the son's marriage, on the contrary, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not get along well, it is possible to overwhelm the son's marriage, because the vast majority of women are not willing to go on in the marriage that does not see hope.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, from ancient times to the present, has always plagued girls. "Why should a woman be embarrassed by a woman", ten years to see the daughter-in-law, ten years to see the mother-in-law
Speaking of this truth, many people may not understand. Zheng Liyan recently encountered similar contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Zheng Liyan works in the same company as Liu Yaoxing, Zheng Liyan is a foreigner, and Liu Yaoxing is a native of Dongguan, Guangdong. Because they are colleagues, both people have a good feeling for each other.
So the two began to fall in love, and after a year of love, the two sides also had a certain understanding of each other, so they decided to get married.
Because Liu Yaoxing is a local, his father is still working as a clerk in a company, and his mother has long since stopped working, and his parents have a four-bedroom and two-hall house in the local area, so Liu Yaoxing said to Zheng Liyan: "We two get married, there is no need to buy a house, my parents have a house, four rooms, two living rooms, enough for us to live, that is, after giving birth to children, it will not be crowded." We don't have to buy a house anymore, now Dongguan's house prices are expensive, if we buy a house again, it will bring a lot of pressure to our lives. ”
Zheng Liyan knows the housing prices in Dongguan, the location is slightly better, can not afford to buy, and it is the suburban lot, a hundred to flat, but also two or three million. Although her and Liu Yaoxing's salaries are about 20,000 a month, if they buy a house in Dongguan, they still have enough to choke.
So after going to his house with Liu Yaoxing, I felt that Liu Yaoxing's parents were not bad, and they didn't look like the kind of vitriolous and mean people, so Zheng Liyan agreed to live with Liu Yaoxing's parents and did not mention the purchase of a house.
The two of them got married smoothly, and after marriage, Zheng Liyan and her husband Liu Yaoxing went to work as usual, working six days a week and resting on Sundays.
Tired for six days, finally waiting for the Sunday holiday, Zheng Liyan wanted to sleep lazily on this day, so she turned off the alarm clock.
It was already 7 o'clock, the mother-in-law saw that Zheng Liyan had not yet gotten up, she knocked on the door, Zheng Liyan pushed the husband next to her, wanted her husband to get up to see what was going on, but the husband could not wake up, there was no way, she had to get up from the bed by herself, barefoot to open the door.
As soon as the door opened, the mother-in-law stood in the doorway: "Why don't you get up yet?" It's seven o'clock, don't you know? ”
"Mom, rest today, I'll sleep a little more, can I?" It's also tiring to go to work. ”
"What? Today is going to be cleaning, don't you know? Hurry, come with me. Let Yao Xing sleep a little longer, don't argue with him, he has been in work for a week, give him a good rest. ”
Zheng Liyan's heart is angry, there is really nowhere to vent, the mother-in-law only sees her son tired at work, but she can't see her tired at work. Zheng Liyan also endured all this.
After Zheng Liyan got married for half a year, her mother-in-law walked carelessly, fell down, fractured her bones, and needed to be hospitalized for recuperation.
The mother-in-law said to Zheng Liyan: "I am now hospitalized, you have to come to the hospital to take care of me, don't ask me to hire a nurse, you work during the day, just take care of me at night." ”
"Mom, I can't do this request of yours, I work during the day, I still come to the hospital to take care of you at night, I'm not an iron man, my body can't eat, if you think I can do it, then you first let Xingyao work during the day, take care of you at night, if he can do it for three days, I will come after that, how do you see?"
Zheng Liyan did not do what her mother-in-law said, and hired a nurse for her mother-in-law, so far, her mother-in-law saw that she was even more unpleasant.
Mother-in-law rested for half a year, in this half year, Zheng Liyan went to work during the day, after work at night, she had to do housework, inside and outside she did it alone, sometimes the hygiene was not cleaned, the mother-in-law began to read, a little mother-in-law was not happy, the mother-in-law also began to read... Half a year later, the mother-in-law moved freely.
The days still went on as usual, and this afternoon, Zheng Liyan took a leave of absence due to her unwell health and left work early. At four o'clock in the afternoon, I went to the door, pushed open the door, and saw my mother-in-law chopping bones.
"Eat hot pot tonight, you go and prepare some side dishes."
So Zheng Liyan couldn't care less about being uncomfortable, so she went to wash the side dishes and put them aside. Then went back to the room and lay down for a while.
At half past six, her body was slightly better, and Zheng Liyan was ready to get up to cook, but at this time, her mother-in-law said: "I have put the bones in the refrigerator, cooked porridge, this is pickles, eat it." ”
"Mom, didn't you say you were going to eat hot pot tonight?" I've got all the side dishes ready. ”
"Yao Xing is going to work overtime until more than ten o'clock tonight, just now I called him and said that he is not coming back to eat, since he is not coming back to eat, there is no need to eat hot pot anymore, your husband is not there, you can save some money, eat some porridge pickles."
Zheng Liyan was fiercely stimulated by her mother-in-law's words: "Mom, am I not also making money?" My monthly salary is not less than that of Yaoxing, I am very tired, I do more things every day than Yaoxing, have you never thought of making up for me? Mom, please remember, you are older than me, how you are doing to me now, I know in my heart. ”
"If you are a woman, you should save, it is not easy to make money, and women should know how to feel sorry for their husbands..."
Zheng Liyan did not want to listen to her mother-in-law's endless reasoning, picked up her bag, found a restaurant, and ate a beautiful meal.
After Liu Yaoxing returned home from work, Zheng Liyan talked to Liu Yaoxing about today's events, and after Liu Yaoxing listened to Zheng Liyan's words: "Didn't I say you, didn't I just eat a hot pot?" What's the big deal? If you want to eat, make it yourself, and eat it alone, won't you get it? It's annoying to tell my mother in front of me about nothing. My mom is like this, save the habit, you have to understand her. ”
When Zheng Liyan heard her husband's words, her heart was really cold, and all she saw from her husband was indifference, and she did not see a glimmer of hope. Should she have divorced her marriage for this matter? However, she was not willing to swallow her anger in the days to come. The mother-in-law regarded her as an outsider, and the husband was not helping her relatives, at this moment, Zheng Liyan moved the idea of divorce.
In the eyes of many mothers-in-law, they will think that when you marry into my family, you are here to serve my son. Because they never imagined that the daughter-in-law was the one who spent her life with her son, not a free nanny.
In fact, to put it bluntly, the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider, or her own son gives, because her son always helps her relatives and does not help, so she will let them bully their daughter-in-law again and again, and they will never worry that they will be educated by their son and daughter-in-law.
Whether the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be resolved, the key is to see whether the man will handle it well. If a man is sensible and explains his views to his parents, his parents will give his daughter-in-law face. But if this man is an unreasonable person, then this woman, in this family, will forever become what her mother-in-law calls an outsider.