Beautiful love can not be sought, everyone is also eager to meet the right person, but the world of feelings is very complicated, sometimes not to pay all can be rewarded, nor to come together to spend the rest of their lives together, after all, love is easy to get along with, especially close to marriage, often need to face a greater test.
Want to get married, you can't get around the bride price and dowry, the house and the car, once you can't talk about it, the feelings for many years will also be scattered, in fact, in the end, it is nothing more than not caring enough about each other in your heart, unwilling to make compromises, or too selfish in your heart, afraid that you will suffer losses, always thinking about calculating each other, in order to obtain greater benefits, but whose money is not blown by the wind, once too inched in, just want to ask but do not want to pay, then this relationship is naturally difficult to go to the end.
Xu Feng is 29 years old this year, the girlfriend is five years younger than himself, the two people are also known through friends, when they met each other, they had a good feeling for each other, plus the same hobbies, similar personalities, there are a lot of common topics, in Xu Feng's view, the girlfriend is young and beautiful, the figure is good, and special sunshine, the two people can talk again, so they began a warm pursuit.
Fortunately, the kung fu does not pay off, Xu Feng finally hugged the beauty of the return, the exchange was only half a year, began to talk about marriage and marriage, I thought that everything was a natural success, but I did not expect that the girlfriend's family proposed a bride price of 160,000, Xu Feng some did not accept it, his home conditions were general, and the dowry of his hometown was only fifty or sixty thousand, but he discussed with his girlfriend, but the girlfriend said bluntly: My family has a dowry of 200,000, my family's 160,000 is already less, besides, young and beautiful is capital, not to mention that I will have to give birth to your family in the future. I felt that my parents wanted a little less of a bride price.
Hearing this, Xu Feng did not want to argue with her, but just asked about the dowry again, but did not expect his girlfriend to say dismissively: What dowry, my parents gave birth to me to raise me, how can I get married and let them pay money, and I don't plan to bring the bride price back, so I leave it to them.
Xu Feng listened to the time on the buff, had to go home to discuss, parents to see the son did take this relationship very seriously, there is no refusal, just let the small two people live a good life after the line, the bride price matter was solved, the problem of the house also followed, the family favored a set of small apartment houses, the apartment type and surrounding supporting facilities are very good, but still need more than 1.2 million, parents pieced together, but also with many people borrowed money, to buy this house.
Before buying a house, Xu Feng proposed with his girlfriend that she also help out some money, but the girlfriend felt that buying a house and marrying a daughter-in-law was a matter of the man's family, and she was not willing to give a penny, and afterwards she also asked to add her own name, Xu Feng was naturally not happy, but the girlfriend said bluntly: The house does not add my name to get married, otherwise there is no sense of security, in case of divorce later, I must not clean up the house? Besides, your house is still in debt? Won't I have to accompany you to pay it back then? So it must be named.
Xu Feng does not think so, his parents have said, the money owed will be repaid, that being said, but he will also help to pay off a part, in the future there will be no need for his girlfriend to help pay off the debt, and this is not yet married to think of divorce, which also angered Xu Feng, directly pointed out: It is impossible to add your name, unless your family also pays, otherwise I will write my parents' names in this house. The two people do not give in, even the marriage is shelved, Xu Feng is also helpless, he does not want to give up this relationship, after all, he has paid so much, let him unconditionally accept the requirements of his girlfriend, he feels unbalanced in his heart, and he feels sorry for his parents.
It is not easy for two people to come together, if you really decide to step into marriage, you should go hand in hand, the bride price and the house should not become a roadblock before marriage, more tolerance and understanding between each other, in order to run the family well after marriage, if for the sake of temporary interests, calculating who pays more and who pays less, the marriage and interests are linked, the marriage is treated as a deal, the final result is often to run things, even if one of the parties reluctantly gives in, the feelings will deteriorate, even if it is into marriage, it will never go back to the past, So if you want to get married, you need to talk about material foundations, but don't let interests become the straw that crushes each other's feelings.