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The writer August Chang'an wrote such a sentence in "The Best of Us": At that time, he was the best of him, and later I was the best me. But between the best of us, there is a whole youth. How to run can not cross the youth, had to stretch out their hands to say goodbye.
Deeply believed, each of us has our own youth, have their own youth stories, especially the love in our youth, when our so-called true love, the final result is always easy to be short and gray, as if just like the last note of a piano song, no matter how high-pitched the tone they use, how many notes they use, the two people are doomed to end can only be "leaving" or "disappearing".
Yes, the world is uncertain, people's hearts are changeable, we have to admit that there are many things in this world that we can't explain, and we are also powerless, such as a sudden surge of inexplicable thoughts in the heart, the true love that suddenly disappears, and even some male friends will think of the woman who suddenly left or disappeared in their hearts for no reason.
So in the end, in the intersex operation, how long does it usually take a man to forget a woman he has loved?
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Tell the story of a reader friend, let's call him Xu Feng, Xu Feng is about 40 years old, even if he has entered the middle-aged stage, and his wife Zhang Xiaomei has been married for nearly 20 years, they also have two children, a man and a woman, it can be said that Xu Feng's wife is virtuous, both children and daughters, their family is happy and happy.
It is reasonable to say that Xu Feng's heart should feel more content, but Xu Feng does not think so, especially whenever Xu Feng is about to open a college reunion, Xu Feng himself frankly said that his heart is actually as anxious as menopause, and his emotional ups and downs will become very large, even Xu Feng's wife Xiaomei has perceived xu Feng's changes, and does not know why his husband will be like this, in fact, Xu Feng said that he has been hiding very well, never let his wife discover the secrets she hides, He never dared to let his wife know that she had an unforgettable past with other women.
After all, Xu Feng knows that before, now is now, he is no longer the former teenager who did not care about himself, he now has a family, there are a pair of children, and his other half, not only to bear the responsibility of the whole family, but also to put it bluntly, he and his wife Xiaomei's life will continue to live, Xu Feng is still very clear in his heart that the happy family life he has now is not easy to come by, and he cannot because of some of his past. Some regrets buried in his heart thus broke his peaceful married life.
But sometimes, we people are like this, many things are understood, but when they really face it is a different look, Xu Feng later in the college reunion or met his own college that will have been true love of the girl Zeng Lu, Xu Feng and Zeng Lu two people are college classmates, at that time, two people in the fate of the arrangement of met and fell in love, so the two people have a lot of good past and memories, just so-called, young ignorant and simple shy love, every time I think back, It is always difficult to swing in Xu Feng's heart, and it is even more unforgettable.
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Zhang Ailing wrote in the book "Red Rose and White Rose": Marrying a red rose, over time, the red rose becomes a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, the white rose is still "the bright moonlight before the bed; marrying the white rose, the white rose is a rice scum on the clothes, and the red is still a cinnabar mole on the heart."
There is no doubt that Zeng Lu is Xu Feng's buried true love in the past, but also Xu Feng's first love girlfriend, using "white moonlight" to describe it is not exaggerated, Xu Feng and Zeng Lu met the moment, to Xu Feng's feeling is Zeng Lu or the same as before, the appearance of the appearance has not changed much, and the years have made Zeng Lu more mature, the whole person exudes a kind of middle-aged female intellectual beauty charm.
The key is that it is a couple in the same class, so the old classmates in the whole class know the past of the two of them, know that the two of them have been in love, and joke about them, even the seats are reserved for the two of them, just so that they can tell the old love.
Of course, Xu Feng did not give up this opportunity to talk and chat with the white moonlight in his heart, the two people chatted about their current life status, as well as their marriage status, Xu Feng knew that Zeng Lu had now divorced and separated from her ex-husband, and she was a woman alone with the sons of the two of them, to tell the truth, Xu Feng said that when he learned about Zeng Lu's current life state, as well as the past, a feeling of heartache did swell up in his heart, and he really couldn't bear to see Zeng Lu fall into this look.
Xu Feng still thought in his heart, if he had not yet married his wife Xiaomei, the two people had not yet given birth to a pair of children, and there was no such a complete family as now, then Xu Feng would definitely not hesitate to find the first love woman Zeng Lu, who he had once truly loved, to feel good for Zeng Lu, to protect Zeng Lu well, to love Zeng Lu well, and to let Zeng Lu live a good life, but this was not the case.
Xu Feng is still very rational to curb the idea of sudden whims in his heart, or very aware of his current state of life, more clear about how he should face and react, although in the past old classmates of the affection, for Zeng Lu's current miserable state of life, where he can help, Xu Feng will try to help, but Xu Feng's brain is still clear that he is a man who already has a family, already has children and a wife, so he must be responsible for them, so married men should pay attention to the boundaries, This point is still very clear in Xu Feng's heart.
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After the end of the class reunion, Xu Feng had a feeling and drank some wine, walked a little unsteadily, stumbled back home, saw his virtuous wife Xiaomei still sleeping on the sofa, waiting for him to come back, and Xu Feng also remembered that his wife Xiaomei had a habit since marrying himself, whenever he went out to socialize, no matter how late he came home, Xiaomei would remember to leave a lamp for himself, which made Xu Feng very moved.
The second Xu Feng saw Xiaomei's sleeping face, the past that he remembered from the class reunion suddenly disappeared, the rest were warm and beautiful fragments of himself and Xiaomei, getting along with the children, Xu Feng also spat in his heart about his wife Xiaomei Dao, this stupid woman, said that he attended the classmate party, will not come back until very late, don't wait for himself, tell her to go to the bedroom first, you should also wait for yourself to come back, but sleeping on the living room sofa, don't know to wrap a blanket or quilt or anything, all cold hands and feet.
Xu Feng did not wake up his wife Xiaomei, but took his wife Xiaomei to the bed in their bedroom, lightly put his wife Xiaomei's body in place, Xu Feng looked at his wife's sleeping gentle face, Xu Feng sighed at the moment, his wife Xiaomei is really too emaciated, for themselves, for their children, and for their family really worry too much, really want to give their wife Xiaomei a good supplement.
Xu Feng finally said, if someone asks me, how long does it usually take to forget a woman I really loved? Then as a person who has come over, he will reply like this, it is indeed undeniable that most male friends in real life have more or less some past in their hearts, and they are loaded with some unforgettable people and things, but to tell the truth, as a truly mature man, the most rational and correct approach should be to choose to bury their past deep in the depths of their hearts and let their past everything scatter with the wind.
Cherish your own present, cherish your own family, cherish the women around you, cherish everything you have now, after all, we must have a conscience as a person, our own women for ourselves, for our children, for your family to pay so much, pay so many years, your children are still young, do not because of a little past memories in their hearts, a little obsession that has not been forgotten, thus ruining their own present, ruining their hard-won happiness.
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Xu Zhimo once wrote such a passage: "At least once in my life, I should forget myself for someone, do not seek results, do not seek peers, do not seek to have, do not even ask you to love me, only to meet you in my most beautiful years." ”
All in all, this is a story about fan friend Xu Feng, and I once asked some friends of the opposite sex around me how long it usually takes for men to forget a woman who has truly loved? One person replied, I don't know, maybe after a new love, I will forget it; another person replied that the person who really loved cannot be forgotten in a lifetime.
As the song "Red Rose" sings, what is not obtained is in turmoil, and those who are favored are fearless. In real life, many male friends may have an unforgettable emotion in their hearts, and they all have such an unforgettable old love, but to make a choice with the family they now have, their children, and their other half, they may really be benevolent and wise.
Just like the story of Xu Feng, the person who came over above, he knows very well in his heart, what is the most important thing for himself, the most important thing at the moment, and even the most important thing in the future, as a mature man, you must know how to carry it clearly, for some emotions in the past, you must know how to take it, and put it down, after all, marriage is two people, you need to pay together and maintain it together. As the saying goes, what kind of seed is sown in the spring will be harvested in the autumn.
You know, there is no unfortunate marriage in this world, only couples who can't manage, don't know how to manage, for each other's efforts, we must look at each other's eyes, we must know how to be grateful, and we must know how to cherish each other, see each other's efforts, and understand each other's intentions, so that your marriage can be long-lasting, you will continue to be happy, not always because of some trivial things, because of some small outside turmoil, thus affecting the future direction of the two of you.
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