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Text: Palm Jun
In the past two years, internet hot words such as "education volume", "national chicken baby", "Buddhist mother" and so on have rushed to the hot search, triggering large-scale discussions from all walks of life!
However, at the time when this "family education war" between different concepts and different classes has not yet won or lost, the new generation of young people has "taught a lesson" to their parents.
Not long ago, I happened to brush up on this Weibo, saying that a boy who aspires to become a "rich second generation" will write a family letter to his father every month, and the content of the family letter is roughly divided into three parts:
1. Greetings to well-being;
2. Observe that the father has been lying flat recently, which is very undesirable;
3. Affirm your father's efforts and say that if you work harder, tomorrow will be better.
Seeing this, netizens suddenly woke up: the core logic of this story is so similar to the "chicken baby" phenomenon we are familiar with, except that the identities of parents and children are reversed in a 360-degree way.
The chicken baby era is not over,
The era of "parents being regurgitated by babies" has come
A layer of stone stirred up thousands of waves, led by this "bone Qingqi" family letter, the Weibo comment area has also instantly become a large -scale "Jedi anti-chicken" scene for parents, share a few hot reviews, everyone feel it on their own!
"If my Father has attained the Word, why worry that I will not be able to ascend to heaven?"
Young people must not only work their own, but also urge their parents to work hard
"Don't patronize and coax, hurry up and write a family letter to your parents overnight!"
"Instead of complaining about the environment, it is better to change the father"
"Chicken parents are counted, I have also seen chickens become academicians by their own mentors"
"If it were possible, who wouldn't want to nibble on a lifetime of old age?"
"Don't ask, ask for the good of mom and dad"
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Seeing this, I don't know how everyone feels, but I believe that those "tiger mothers and wolf fathers" who "hate iron and steel" all day long, require their children to be among the best in their grades, and rack their brains and want to send their children to famous schools, at this moment, must have mixed feelings in their hearts.
Just as the so-called feng shui takes turns, when you are still using the "chicken baby" to resist the inner volume, some children have realized the "true meaning of chicken baby education" from the family level - rather than being alone in the roll, it is better to roll the whole family together, from the perspective of probability, the probability of success is higher.
Looking forward to the father Jackie Chan, filial piety hidden knife, is the heart of the truth.
However, everyone must not think that the Buddhist parents who have never put pressure on their children will not be involved in this war of "being anti-chicken by the baby"!
People who have seen the movie "Hello, Li Huanying" must remember the following bridge section:
In the movie, Li Huanying portrays a mother image of a mother who coexists with opinion and rationality, has a strong heart and is almost perfect, and her expectations for her daughter Xiaoling are also very simple, hoping that the child will grow up healthy and happy.
But Xiaoling does not look like a child raised by a "Buddhist mother", on the contrary, her personality is tangled and complicated.
On the one hand, she is extremely confident and thinks that she can hold anything, on the other hand, she is extremely negative about herself, and after experiencing the bizarre "crossing" event, Xiaoling believes that the reason why she failed to meet her mother's expectations was that there was a problem at the source.
Therefore, there is a mother who is taken as a daughter-in-law by the factory director, and Xiaoling hollows out her mind to let her mother seize the opportunity to "remarry" in order to achieve the purpose of changing her life against the sky - this dramatic scene!
You think that's the most heartfelt? Life is far more brutal than the story on screen!
I don't know if you remember an article in the education circle that brushed the screen last year - "Chicken Baby Chicken to the End, but Was Countered by Baby Chicken".
After the author put his daughter "chicken" all the way into Beijing No. 4 Middle School, he found that in this top high school, the pattern of parents' chicken babies was completely different.
Some parents can let their children leave their studies to travel around the country, some parents can spend huge sums of money to send their children to Antarctica, and some parents can ask academicians of the Chinese Academy of Sciences to take their children to invent...
If you continue like this, when will you be the head!
As a fourth middle school student, the daughter has personally experienced the gap between herself and her classmates, and often "poured bitter water" with her mother as soon as she returned home:
"Why can't you, like the parents of whose family, sell another house and send your children to the United States for undergraduate studies?"
"It's really not okay, like whose parents can do it, Chongwenmen Street is people's shops!"
Later, the daughter simply showed off with her mother:
"Mom, why don't you try a little harder?" Let's discuss, the final exam I entered the top 30 of the grade, you strive to mention a dry? ”
Hearing these words, the mother sighed:
"Some fifteen or sixteen-year-old children can't understand what the 'world is different', thinking that as long as they work hard, they can get an equal starting line with their classmates, and they don't know that what awaits them is the track that has fallen behind."
Therefore, whether it is Buddhist parents or chicken babies and mothers, no matter how much educational chicken soup is poured into themselves, they are not as unforgettable as being hit by their children once "chicken blood"——
You envy other people's dolls
Children also want "other people's parents"
In fact, regarding the 99-year-old boy mentioned at the beginning of the article, there is an unexpected follow-up:
(The original blog post has been deleted, from a screenshot of netizens)
According to the original blogger, this boy who "hopes to become a father jackie chan" and wants to become a "rich second generation" has a very good family situation, and he himself is also a very hard worker, so the family letter of "chicken daddy" reflects not a lying young man who wants to sit back and enjoy his success, but a good family education model that father and son promote each other and encourage each other!
There is no doubt that the essence of "child chicken parents" and "parent chicken babies" is highly consistent, that is, they are not willing to lose at the starting line. But what exactly does the starting line refer to? Parents' insights, of course!
I know that there was a question with 467,000 views:
Do you have good parents around you? What are their obvious features?
I was very impressed by the story of one of the respondents who studied at Northwestern University, when she mentioned:
My parents, like many Chinese parents, provided me with the best educational opportunities. From childhood to adulthood, where I went to school, my parents would immediately move to wherever they were, compared with the "Three Migrations of Meng Mother", there was nothing worse.
I went to school in Haidian from elementary school to high school, but my mother's job has been in the Guomao area, driving at least 2 hours from my home to her work unit.
The traffic congestion in Beijing is obvious to all! But how many years I went to school, my mother was stuck in the road for many years, nevertheless, she never complained to me about her hard work.
Our family relationship is very equal, and I have always believed that in a violent or powerful family, in a family that does not respect children, in a family that does not know how to listen, it is difficult to raise a child with an independent personality.
Therefore, my parents have the deepest influence on me or values.
Unlike many Chinese parents, my parents never told me, "I have provided you with such a good education, you must get ahead," and they never forced me to be a "successful" person.
At the eighteen-year-old coming-of-age ceremony, my parents wrote me a quote: "Don't try to become a woman of success - become a woman of value." (Don't try to be a successful person, be a valuable person.) ）
This means that "success" in the secular sense is difficult to define, but being able to solve problems for the people around you, or to solve problems for society in a broad sense, is "valuable", even if it is unknown for a lifetime, but any valuable life is worth it.
To this day, even if I go abroad and see the wider world, I still think so.
See here, did you find out? As a parent, for the children, although the unconditional payment is commendable, in an excellent education, the child is more willing to see a parent who shines at the same time as accepting the parents' efforts!
Gibran once wrote in the poem: You are bows, and children are like arrows of life that shoot forward on a string.
Good parents do not decide for their children where to go ashore, but quietly paddle the oars and tell them how to straighten their spines and how to get to where they want to go when the wind and waves hit.
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