Anchor | Jane Ning Text | White orchids
Whether in TV dramas or in real life, in some people's impressions, once men and women talk about feelings, the reality is always women.
No house, no car, no marriage, no job, no talk, parents have no pension to consider again, the real estate certificate does not add the woman's name is a scumbag.
Admittedly, some women do value material conditions more than feelings.
But there are also many women who don't mind struggling with men as long as the other person is good when choosing a mate.
So, this doesn't mean that all women are realistic; similarly, men are not all romantic lovers who give their all for their feelings, and men tend to behave more realistically than women when they encounter these three problems.
When the business is developing
As the old saying goes, career is a man's guts.
A well-paid, glamorous job is hugely attractive to men, and it is also one of the sources of self-confidence for many men.
Men with successful careers, relatives are obsessed, neighbors are envious, and they have a lot of face when they go out; men with ordinary careers, relatives do not have much contact, neighborhood gossip is arranged, and most people can't stand it when they go out.
Therefore, when a man is faced with career and emotional choices, he will often be entangled, which is also the common sentiment of people.
For the sake of affection, there are not a few women who give up their jobs and return to their families, but there are very few men who do this.
Most of the time, a man will choose a career, which doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's just that career is more important in his mind than you.
There are also men who will choose feelings and turn to a less promising job, just to be able to stay with you and stay with you. In fact, there is no one who is higher and who is lower.
For some men, they have the ability, after giving up good opportunities, they will also create their own opportunities, work hard with you, and work hard for the future;
For some other men, their own ability is limited, the opportunity is so once, after seizing the food and clothing, can not grasp, even with you, will regret day by day, complain that you dragged him back.
No need to be harsh, no regrets, if you encounter the latter, politely say goodbye, feelings are what you want, there is no need to force and possess.
When parents object
When it comes to marriage, it is inevitable that the parents will not be able to avoid the barrier.
Not every couple going to see their parents is smooth, and work, appearance, height, and income will affect their parents' attitude towards you.
As long as you have a compatible personality, most men are responsible, will be brave enough to stand up, say more about your good in front of his parents, and try their best to persuade them to accept you.
But there are also some men, ostensibly an adult with a job and an income, but in fact psychologically still a child who has not been weaned.
His parents think that you are busy with work and worry that you will not have time to take care of your children in the future, so he is anxious to force you to change jobs;
His parents blame you for coming to the house without doing housework, and he keeps telling you the great truth of the three from the four virtues, and he sends you to report a female Durban to go to class.
In short, any of his parents' demands on you are reasonable, and if you oppose it, you are ignorant and unvirtuous.
A woman with a weak personality is easily intimidated by these sudden demeaning and preaching, and rushes to change herself according to his requirements.
After wronging himself and marrying him, he found that this criticism and accusation were endless.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Qu Xiaoxiu once said such a sentence: All men who do not know how to make reasonable and parental demands are mothers who have not grown up.
If you happen to meet such a person, remember to stop the loss as soon as possible.
Otherwise, you will be greeted by a husband who likes to be a treasurer, and a mother-in-law who is full of accusations and criticisms of you.
When weighing family conditions
The ancients said that the door is right, and the marriage is in pairs.
Marriage is not only a match between a man and a woman, but also a mutual choice between two families.
A long life, want to live happily, look at each other's family situation before marriage, look at the character and character of each other's family, this is normal.
But some men, however, will focus on money.
Seeing that your parents have no pension, it will not be long before you are cold, find that you have a brother or brother at home, turn around and ask if you will lend them money to buy a house in the future, afraid that with you, they will be dragged down by them.
In their hearts, marriage is just a life investment, and you are chosen in order to have a return in the future, so you must not lose money. Such a person cannot say that he does not love you, but can only say that he values practical interests more than he loves you.
The man who is really the right fit for you, he will also take these realities into account. The difference is that, given consideration, he cares more about you.
When he encounters a problem, he is willing to face it with you, solve it together, even if he has a loss, he will take you out of the desperate situation.
Yang Lan said:
In marriage, there is not only love, but also the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, and the unforgettable kindness.
Adult love, not a few sweet words, can last forever.
It is mutual support, mutual tolerance, and the hand that is always reaching out to you in time when you are deeply mired in the quagmire.
Men who truly love you, in the presence of reality and you, will always choose you firmly.
Author: White Orchid
Source: Michelia White Orchid (ID: nvrendds)
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