We often see some children in public who are "unreasonable", such as buying toys in the supermarket, parents do not buy them, and children will express their dissatisfaction with crying. In addition, when playing outside, their children will grab toys with other children, through this time, the child's parents will accuse the child on the side, do not let the child lose his face in front of the public, and feel that his child has no "upbringing".
Now the child's growth environment and the past are very different, many families of parents in order to make money, they can only put their children at home, they go out to work. But every time the parents come back, the child is not intimate with the parents, but loses his temper and is angry. When a child is in adolescence, they usually contradict their parents or ignore them. The advice made by parents is also dismissive.
Is the problem really on the body? Are these children really "uncultured"? In fact, these behaviors of children are likely to be manifestations of lack of love, and "no education" is just a misunderstanding of parents. These children show "unreasonableness".
Children who have long lacked love may be ignored by their parents for a long time and have developed self-centeredness. In order to attract the attention of parents, some extreme behaviors will be used to win the love of parents. In fact, they care very much about their parents' love in their hearts, but they can't express it, and they can only use this behavior to attract their parents' attention.
Many children who lack love also have a very obvious characteristic, that is, they are not strong enough in their hearts, and they usually have inferiority and loneliness in interpersonal communication. In public, they will only promise and dare not speak loudly.
"Flattering" personality, loveless children will also appear often. They usually do not refuse the demands of others, do not refuse the requests of others, and will think that they are not doing well enough. Likes to find his own sense of existence from the satisfaction of others. Children who lack love lack the awareness of competition, cannot have the courage to express themselves, follow others every time, and only compromise for unfair treatment.
It is often possible to hear a sentence that is, other people's children, parents will often mention this word repeatedly in the process of educating their children. Many children have such an experience, when the test results are better than usual, they will want to go back to tell their parents immediately, and want to get their parents' praise.
When the happy return home, instead of getting praise, they ask other people's children about their test scores, and when their children's tests are not as good as other people's children, parents will sneer. At this time, the child will be frustrated in self-confidence, and in the future examinations, he will not continue to work hard, because even if he has good results, he will not be recognized by his parents.
This practice of parents is not good for children, so it is easy for children to lose confidence, there is no motivation to do a thing, and there will be no greater progress. It is no exaggeration to say that parents are the first teachers of children, so the education of parents has a role that cannot be underestimated.
Many parents also have the wrong perception that they are all right, and all their actions towards their children are for the good of their children. Regarding family life, any rules are made by parents, and children can only obey unconditionally. In fact, this is disrespectful behavior of children, children are also independent individuals, they should also have their own thoughts.
If parents do not respect their children, it is easy to have a wrong education, and they will often deny their children's ideas and ignore their children's feelings. Disregard your child's needs. Serious behavior will also treat children as their own personal belongings and treat children arbitrarily. He often taunts children verbally, and even punches and kicks them. These behaviors are contrary to the child's self-esteem, the need for independence, which are also a person's basic needs. Children who have been in this growth environment for a long time will inevitably disrespect their parents. This is also the "uncultured behavior" of confronting parents and not putting parents in their eyes.
Although the child is brought to the world by his parents, he is also an independent individual in the process of growing up. They long for more love from their parents in their hearts in order to feel the goodwill of the world. At such times, parents should better understand the needs of their children. Love and respect are mutual, if parents give their children a little more love, children will also give their parents a little more respect. Parents cannot blindly suppress their children by force, it will only backfire. Communicate and communicate with your child frequently to meet your child's emotional needs.
The influence of the original family on the child is long-term, and parents have a very important guiding role in the process of their children's growth. Why are more and more young people reluctant to have children now, that is, they feel that they are not fully mature. Pregnancy and childbirth is not about bringing a child into the world, but about once and for all. The growth of children not only needs to provide them with the material for survival, but also has a guiding role in children's behavior.
Many people say that children are a blank sheet of paper, and parents need to give them a different way of education if they want them to be. Therefore, parents should give their children more love.