Virtuous women are the best feng shui in the family, and smart women are the needles of the sea god in the family. In the internal affairs of marriage and family, women bear much more part than men.
Especially smart women, she can always bring many unexpected benefits to the family.
There are three secrets to family life: a down-to-earth attitude; the ability to speak well; and the ugliness of the family that cannot be publicized. Living your life behind closed doors, in fact, this is a very important point, and then deal with those contradictory, mutilated, inappropriate parts, must not be quiet.
So the more you go on, the more you will find that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, but in the outside never say that the mother-in-law is not good, this kind of daughter-in-law, really smart.
Smart women, not only because she has patience, but also because she has a plan and the city government, of course, this is not a derogatory term.
In addition, being able to separate her emotions from life at least proves that she is thick, dignified and sober, knowing that complaining will not solve any practical problems.
1, complaining is useless.
It can neither solve the problem nor digest the emotions, but will become more and more excited the more you talk, causing your emotions to become bigger and your resentment to be deeper. So complaining is useless, including counting down on the mother-in-law, so why waste your energy, emotions, and time on meaningless things?
Complaining once in a while, which is understandable, but complaining often, this is not smart behavior. Because people who habitually complain are often people who do not seek change.
The attitude that adults should have towards life, either change or don't complain. If you don't want to make yourself very bad, like being dragged into the vortex of resentment by life.
2, no one likes to listen.
No one likes to hear you complain and complain, and since no one likes to hear it, you have to say it, then you will become a very annoying person. Getting along with friends, always chatting about topics that their friends are not interested in, can lead to a very embarrassing silence.
In the long run, people around you will respect you and feel that you are terrible and full of negative energy. You have to know that people are animals that seek advantage and avoid harm.
Even if that person has a good relationship with you, you must want to be close to someone who can bring joy to you. At the same time, no one will feel your grievances, unless you have had the same experience.
3, will be laughed at.
Do you think that if you are reasonable, you are a victim, and people on the outside will sympathize with you? Wake up, the old saying is that the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, if you insist on making the ugliness of the family outside, there is only one result in the end, let others see the joke.
In any case, you and your mother-in-law are a family, and you can also be regarded as having common interests. When others know that your family conflicts are so big and your family disputes are so fierce, they will show a kind of contempt for your family in your heart. Especially talking to relatives and friends around you, they will take you seriously afterwards and despise you together.
Knowing that there is no unity within your family will list you as someone who can be bullied at will.
Don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, superficially sympathize with you and appease you, but in your heart you are laughing at you, hoping that you are not having a good life.
4, the wall will be ventilated.
The so-called people do not know, unless they do nothing. In this world, there is no impermeable wall, and what you say and do will never become a secret. Maybe you are very sure of the relationship with someone, but this person, there are also people she is close to, this is no longer something you can grasp.
So you say that the mother-in-law's bad things are easy to pass to the mother-in-law's ears in the end, so that the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law will become more tense.
If the mother-in-law can't help it, when she wants to come to question you and accuse you, you will also follow the emotions, then a fierce quarrel is inevitable. It will also lead to an infinite deterioration of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even the superficial relationship between guests cannot be put on.
Even if you are not heard by your mother-in-law, but only by your husband, you will be extremely dissatisfied with you and destroy the harmony between husband and wife. After all, you are outside, talking about his mother's various bad things, will be biased, will protect the short.
5, easy to be biased.
Once a breakthrough is found, the grievances in the heart are like a flood that breaks the embankment. The more you talk, the more excited you become, the more you talk, and in this case, you will completely lose your mind and develop special trust in the person who listens to your complaints. After all, you will feel that only she is willing to listen to you, only she is willing to comfort you.
Then as long as she gives you advice, you will to a large extent obey the words and follow the other party's advice and go back to deal with the mother-in-law relationship.
In this case, you have been biased, because you are operating your own family relationship according to the suggestions and ideas of others. In fact, others simply don't know what your life is really like, and the consequence is to be messed up more.
This is still in the case of the other party's good character, if the character is not good, or your trust is wrongly paid, then she wants to make you bad, the consequences can be imagined.
There is a saying in the hometown that says that husband and wife are not in harmony, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are deceived; the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are discordant, and the neighbors are deceived; the neighbors are discordant, and the village is deceived. It makes sense to think about it carefully, and it makes sense because these words are in line with the weaknesses of human nature. The people you meet, as long as they are individuals, must have human problems.
So smart women, the more family conflicts, the more they know to close the door. Then how to deal with it, even if it is not handled well, it is better than making a lot of noise.
There are family conflicts, and there is a worldwide propaganda, which is obviously not a smart act. Dealing with family conflicts, of course, depends on what things, if it is a matter of principle, such as mother-in-law making you unable to live, the best way to deal with it is to divide, life separate.
If it's just a little bit of, it's normal, and any family life can't avoid these bumps. Every family has a difficult scripture, this sutra is difficult to read, since it has been chosen, the days must continue to live, but also have to insist on reading, do not do something self-deprecating, let people see jokes.
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