Lu Xun once said: A man downstairs is very ill, and the family in the wall is singing a phonograph; opposite is a child. There were two people upstairs laughing wildly; and there was the sound of cards being played. There were women crying on boats in the river about her dead mother. The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy. ”
Xiang Lin's sister-in-law in Lu Xun's "Blessings" is an example of excessive talk and dislike. She was originally Xianglin's daughter-in-law, but Xianglin died, she was forcibly married to the mountain by her mother-in-law, married to her second husband He Laoliu, He Laoliu was honest, loyal and kind, treating Xianglin's sister-in-law well, her son Ah Cat was born, and her life was peaceful and passable.
Bad luck struck, He Laoliu died of wind and cold, their son was eaten by wolves, and Xiang Lin's sister-in-law returned to Lu Town. The Xianglin sister-in-law who used to look like Zhou Zheng was diligent and capable was gone, and she was hit by fate, and her whole person was not good, and she told people about the tragic experience between herself and her son. At first, the villagers sympathized with her suffering and comforted her, and gradually became disgusted by the townspeople. Although she is a woman with a tragic fate, her excessive talk arouses the disgust of the townspeople.
So, don't go around venting your pain, no one will feel the same. Start to hear your story, and maybe everyone will sympathize with your plight and comfort you. But when you say the second time, people will perfunctory you, and the third time will be impatient, after all, what you say is negative energy for others. Dumping garbage for others will cause others to resent and dislike.
Excessively revealing one's vulnerability may be exchanged for sympathy, and in the end it will be contempt. Moreover, it is not a very worthwhile friend, you say your difficulties and hearts, and within half an hour, the whole unit will know your story. You will become very passive, embarrassed to death, and you will become a joke in everyone's mouth.
You don't have to complain to people, because not many people know you. The person who understands you, you don't say he will also understand; the person who doesn't understand you, you say he doesn't understand. People who don't understand you say more is useless. You think you're talking about your heart, but others are laughing.
People live, each person has his own suffering, the family has a difficult scripture, bitter, spicy, sour and sweet only in their own hearts know best. In the adult world, no one is easier than anyone, but the pain behind the pain behind people's backs, you can't see it.
Dong Qing said: People who have not cried bitterly in the long night are not enough to talk about life. Man, alive, comes to this world to cross the world. One after another, you can't escape one by one, only one by one to cross over. Only when people reach middle age do they understand that when people reach middle age, they can only cross themselves. No matter how hard it is, you have to grit your teeth and hold on.
Mr. Yang Dai said: At first, I pretended to be strong, and then I was really strong. People are like this, all the cruel reality is forced to the share, they slowly learn to have antibodies, become strong. At the beginning, you need others to hold umbrellas, and finally you learn to hold umbrellas yourself, and out of this process, you learn to grow.
To grow up is to become intolerant and silent, to learn to digest and dissolve all suffering on your own. In everyone's life, there will always be a long period of time, or a low point in life or adversity. In the end, you will find that no matter how big things are today, tomorrow is a small thing, and no matter how big things are this year, next year will be a story.
Life is fair to everyone, life will give you candy, it will also give you scars, and then those wounds fade and become the most poisonous place in your body. In the end, you will find that no one can hurt you except yourself. May you experience the worldly black and white, and there are still fairy tales in your heart. May you go through a thousand sails and return as a teenager. May you see through the truth of life and still feel that it is worth it! May you experience suffering, the sun is warm, and your life is full of spring.
Don't cry, I will pick flowers at dawn, will you remember to smile?
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