After 14 years of marriage, my mother did not let me return to my mother's house for the New Year for the first time, and I really couldn't figure it out! Yesterday afternoon, my brother called and asked me when I was going back to town and he was going to bring lanterns to my daughter. I said me

After 14 years of marriage, my mother did not let me return to my mother's house for the New Year for the first time, and I really couldn't figure it out! Yesterday afternoon, my brother called and asked me when I was going back to town and he was going to bring lanterns to my daughter. I said that I had not finished dealing with the matter at my in-laws' house in the countryside, and that I would wait until the twelfth and third day of the first month to go back, and as for my daughter's lantern, I would not send it. My brother also said that he had not seen my daughter this year, and he, who was an uncle, had not yet had the opportunity to press the niece's old age.

I explained to my brother that I was going back to my mother's house on the second day of the Chinese New Year. At 4 o'clock in the afternoon of the first day of the first year, we set off from my in-laws' hometown, planning to go to the small family in the city for a night, return to my mother's house early the next morning, and then give a few aunts and aunts a New Year's greeting, which my mother also knows.

However, at about 8 o'clock that night, when we had returned to the city, my mother called and said that the village was strict and did not allow people from outside the village to enter the village to visit relatives. She said that my mother-in-law's second aunt also said that his village would not let people from outside the village enter. My mother suggested that I go back to my hometown and not go back to my mother's house to visit my relatives this year.

At that time, I was particularly disappointed, and after Xi'an was locked down, I never saw my mother again. After unsealing, I was still worried about whether I could go back to see my mother in the New Year. At noon on the first day of the Chinese New Year, before I returned to my small family in the city from my in-laws' hometown, I also called my mother to confirm. My mother said that the village only let the village register, and it did not affect the relatives who went to the second grade. Therefore, we happily returned to our small home in advance, only to return to my mother's house early in the morning of the second year of junior high school. Unexpectedly, my mother called me again the night before to let us go back the same way!

My brother was surprised to hear that. He said: Impossible! On the second day of junior high school, I personally saw Liu Yan next door to us, leading her two babies back to the village to give her parents a New Year's greeting, just sweep a yard at the entrance of the village, and no one stopped her. In the second year of junior high school, there are many daughters in the village who return to their mother's house, and the cars are parked all over the village road, why may they not let them enter the village?! What the hell is wrong with my mother, deliberately not letting you go back to your mother's house, so that I have been unable to press the money for you (my daughter)!

When my brother said this, I was shocked, and tears swirled in my eyes. I thought to myself: What the hell is going on? Why did my mother deliberately prevent me from going back to my mother's house to see her? Did I do something wrong that made my mom sad? I was no longer in the mood to talk to my brother, and my mind was full of why my mother didn't let me go back to my mother's house in the second year of junior high school? Rows of question marks swirled around in my head.

On the twenty-third day of last year, we discussed 3,000 yuan for my mother in the New Year, transferred by my husband, and then he called my mother again to say a word and let my mother buy some New Year goods. My mom was very happy to hear that. At noon on the first day of the Chinese New Year, when my mother and I called, my mother was in a very good mood, how could it be that night, she lied and said, the village does not let relatives go, let us go to the family to visit the New Year, eat?!

I really can't think straight, and I feel that our mother and daughter can't be separated. I called my mother and asked my mother why she didn't let me go back to my mother's house for the New Year in the second year of junior high school, and when my mother asked me why I was angry and complaining, my mother explained: Baby, don't complain about me. We are exquisite here. When you called at noon on the first day of the first year, I didn't remember. In the evening, your second aunt called me to say something, and I suddenly realized. You can't go to relatives this year, you don't know it yourself, right?

Confused, I asked my mother very bluntly: Why can't I go to my relatives? My mother replied: This is last year, last July, your mother-in-law died, this year you will stop walking away relatives for a year, this is our custom. If it weren't for your second aunt reminding me, I would have forgotten that you are a person who wears filial piety, and you will not be able to go to your relatives this year.

I immediately retorted: Then my father-in-law died 6 years ago, I still attended my sister's wedding, and I still gave my aunt and aunt a New Year's greeting, why didn't you say this at that time?

My mom went on to say: That's a special case. Your sister's wedding is in Gansu, our mother's family has gone less, and you are a sister, of course, you have to go. You forgot that your sister-in-law said in advance that immediate family members can't participate? Didn't XX (my husband) not attend your sister's wedding that year? You also did not give your aunt and aunt a New Year's greeting, your sister got married on the eighth day of the first year, we took the train to Gansu on the fourth day of the first year, and only came back in the tenth year, that year you did not give your mother-in-law relatives a New Year's greeting.

When my mother explained this, I remembered that what my mother said was all the truth. The year my father-in-law died was winter, and my sister was getting married that New Year. After we told my brother-in-law's parents about my father-in-law's death in advance, they also said that people who wear filial piety cannot go to their relatives' happy events. Therefore, my husband did not go to Gansu to attend my sister's wedding, but my daughter and I went, which my sister won for me.

But I still complained about my mother, I said to my mother: We are mother and daughter, you are my mother, if you have anything to say, why do you have to excuse that the village will not let you in, to stop me from giving you a New Year's greeting? You can directly say that your mother-in-law is the first year of new mourning, and according to custom, you can't go back to your mother's house to pay respects to the New Year. That way I understand that I won't misunderstand you.

My mother also explained: You go back to your mother's house on the second day of the new year, and this year I will not let you go back because of this matter, and I am worried that you will not feel good in your heart, so I will use the village not to let you in. You just know that there is no way to do this, and you won't think about it much. I'm also afraid you'll be upset to make this excuse. Who would have thought that I forgot to give your brother an explanation, so that his big mouth leaked!

Finally, my mother's misunderstanding between me and me was solved. To tell the truth, mom and daughter can't be separated. In my opinion, customs are not important at all for me and my mother. I hope that my mother will not care about these old rules, and will let me go back to my mother's house to give her a New Year's greeting in the second year of junior high school. Just like what kind of married daughter, Chinese New Year's Eve can not spend the night in her mother's house, which will affect the fortune of her mother's family and affect the life of her brother. I think it's all obsolete crap to be abolished!

Strong family affection is the best fortune of a family. As the saying goes, home and everything is happy, this is the truth. I only have one daughter, I decided, my daughter will marry later, the New Year she wants to go back to her mother's house for the New Year, I do not pay attention to any customs. Let this old rule that won't work out blocks my family bond with my daughter!

Friends, do you have a rule that your in-laws die in the first year, and your daughter can't give her mother-in-law a New Year's greeting? Do you want these impersonal rules to disappear or continue to exist?