The more stories I've heard, the more I feel that marriage is an investment in itself.
Some people invest in success and harvest a happy love and happy life; some people fail to invest, and they end up with money and wealth plus heart damage.
"Divorce Lawyer" once said: marriage is an investment, some people are worth investing, others will depreciate over time.
The sooner people admit this, the more they can sort out the clues of life, love is blind, and marriage requires rationality rather than emotion.
Some people blindly and confidently say that marriage is to marry love, even if they pay more, they do not ask the other party to have the slightest return, as long as they are with the people they love, what they do is worth it. But you must know that love is the wind and snow, and life is chai rice oil and salt. Husband and wife in marriage must support each other and love each other, otherwise one day, reality will teach you what is called cruel life.
A good marriage will make people better and better
Many people envy the milk tea sister married to Liu Qiangdong, thinking that Liu Qiangdong's old cow eats tender grass, and milk tea relies on beauty to ascend to the throne, and these years the CP pair uses various facts to give the melon-eating masses a slap in the face:
Milk tea sister, as a former Internet celebrity, did not give up promoting herself because of marriage, but worked hard in all aspects, in addition to the investment methods are more and more sophisticated, but also used the characteristics of her own Internet celebrity to create a good image for Liu Qiangdong; and Liu Qiangdong also gained more love and married life outside the career.
This is essentially investing in each other, and because both sides are working tirelessly, each other's gains will produce more unexpected compound interest over time.
Marriage with people who are consistent with the three views and admire each other will give themselves the motivation to continuously improve themselves, and the husband and wife are more of each other's mirrors on the basis of lovers, and they will not stop growing after marriage, but will continue to accelerate.
Failed marriages can make people bleak
Many stars in the entertainment industry have suffered career damage due to marriage problems, and their spirits are also dull.
Many years ago, Jia Jingwen, who played the clever and clever Zhao Min, married the rich Sun Zhihao, who thought that she would have a happy life, but she was looked down upon by her in-laws, and her husband not only turned a blind eye but also exploded in various highs in the bar on the day of his production.
I thought that divorce could bring a peaceful life, but when I divorced, I encountered a war to seize women, and Jia Jingwen, who was exhausted, no longer had the glory of that year. Later, she was rarely seen in film and television dramas, until later, she met Xiu Kaijie, who was 9 years younger than herself, and began to live like a new life again.
The marriage between Wang Baoqiang and Ma Rong is also lamentable, and both sides are probably betting on the treasure, but at the end of the marriage, they are making a lot of trouble.
A bad marriage will not only cause people to lose money, but also make people mentally devastated.
Since marriage is an investment, how can we increase its yield and reduce its risk?
1, continue to increase their investment principal, do not blindly add leverage.
A good marriage must be evenly matched. Marriage is like a transaction, how much capital, how much to do, of course, many times we can add leverage to touch the goal we want, but we must make up the capital in the short term, otherwise the consequences of emptying ourselves can only be at the risk of our own.
You are born as an independent individual, and no one will pay for your existence for a lifetime, so if you want to achieve sustained gains in the investment of marriage, you must constantly improve yourself. Imagine that after milk tea marries Liu Qiangdong, she will start buying and buying, and ask three unknown life, will Liu Qiangdong always love her? Marriage also needs core competitiveness, in addition to the fact that women can not replace the birth of children, but also to add more irreplaceable items, so that they can always have the confidence to live.
Constantly increasing your own capital before marriage can make life more comfortable after marriage, and never expect to solve all problems by investing in marriage, otherwise you will face inexhaustible problems.
2. Do a good job in all-round research to reduce investment risks.
There are many cases of flash marriage and divorce on the Internet, and many people think that it is the immaturity of young people, but in my opinion, it is because two people have not achieved a comprehensive understanding of each other before getting married.
Venus once said: Love can be talked about without life, but marriage is not, marriage is life.
Two people getting married together is an ordinary day, romance and feelings are the icing on the cake, so when you see the momentary affection as the whole of marriage, it is not far from the emotional crisis.
When the Yulin maternity jumped off the building, someone commented that "if you don't have children, you don't know if you are married to a person or a dog." "The sacrifice of testing whether a person is a man or a dog by having a child is also too great. Many people have a very high tolerance, the concept of life is not in line with it, it does not matter if the consumption concept is inconsistent, even if it encounters domestic violence, it is still considered that this is a small contradiction within the family, and so on, the real problem, regret is too late.
Before we do investment and financial management, we must first understand what the background of this company is, whether it is reliable, let alone marry a person?
So I am very opposed to the act of getting married immediately once or twice on a blind date, and in my opinion, I am extremely irresponsible to each other and both families. Marriage is long-lasting, do not try to spend very little time to solve the things of a lifetime, if you want to reduce the risk, you must learn to conduct a comprehensive investigation.
3, investment in the maintenance of good, marriage is not a hammer deal.
Marriage is the final destination of good love, but some people understand it as the end. So once you get the license, you think you are safe to dock, the boy begins to be unreasonable, and the girl automatically demotes to become a nanny.
So a lot of marital problems arise.
However, as a long-term investment, marriage is by no means a hammer deal, but needs to be constantly observed and maintained like other investments, and problems must be actively solved.
After Huang Lei married Sun Li, Sun Li no longer lingered on the aura brought by the film and television circle, but was willing to be the woman behind a successful man. But many people think that she is just the mother of the child, Huang Lei's wife, but ignores her achievements in drama. Taking care of the family does not mean that all of life is the family, but the focus has changed, many women can not understand this, wait until the other party has changed their hearts, only to look at the mirror that Fanghua has passed away, and they have not yet had a skill.
There are many roles to play in our lives, but the most important thing is to play ourselves. When a person loses her luster, then don't blame everyone around you for ignoring you.
4. Investment is risky, please stop loss in time if necessary.
Any investment is risky, and marriage is no exception. When you experience a relationship crisis for various reasons and still can't save your marriage after hard work, please learn to stop the loss in time.
In "Mysterious Superstar", Yin Xiya's mother wants to give her child a sound family, and can only rely on the child's father to live without financial resources, even if she is abused by domestic violence, she never thinks of changing anything in the water every day, she believes that all this is fate for her, until after experiencing many things, Yin Xiya finally awakened her mother's consciousness.
Many people in marriage will refuse divorce on the grounds of not bringing harm to the children, endure a daily low-pressure life, but do not know that divorce will make everyone feel relieved, although the child is small, but also has the ability to perceive, assuming that marriage brings to the family is not warm but hurt, it is better to leave early.
Marriage is a lasting investment, and to achieve "high returns", we probably have to continue to learn and improve ourselves throughout our lives.
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