Regarding love, the British writer Shakespeare once said the following passage in the book Hamlet:
Having two kinds of love is tantamount to betrayal in one's own chest.
The enlightenment brought to us by this passage is that love has the characteristics of exclusivity, and a person who treats love with a sincere attitude can never fall in love with two people at the same time.
The mutual loyalty between husband and wife is the basis for the stability of the marital relationship, and only if the husband and wife are willing to work together to manage the marriage, they can trust each other and run the family life prosperously.
In a family, the husband works outside to earn money, in order to be able to let his wife and children live a happy life, the wife and children should be the only love in his heart; in return, the wife should also be loyal to the marriage, and know how to be diligent and thrifty, and create a happy life for two people with her husband.
But in real life, some people do not understand this truth, they do not understand the preciousness of the family, will not cherish the marriage partner's efforts, once dissatisfied with the lover, they will make the mistake of betraying the marriage, and even give birth to children for others outside of marriage, this irresponsible behavior of marriage will only make him personally destroy his original happy family.
Only those who are loyal to marriage can get the kindness of their families and harvest a happy life.
"I don't admit there's something wrong", paternity testing reveals the wife's secret, and the husband is devastated
Zhang Xintao (not his real name), a 40-year-old from Hunan, has been married to his wife, Luo Xiuwen (not her real name), for 15 years and has three children together.
In order to make his wife and children live a happy life, Zhang Xintao has been working in other places for many years to earn money, and only during the New Year's Festival will he return home to meet his wife and children.
However, 2 years ago, Zhang Xintao returned home to find that his wife was unexpectedly pregnant, which made him doubt the origin of the child in his wife's womb.
The reason why Zhang Xintao is suspicious in his heart is mainly due to two reasons: one is that he thinks that time does not match, and the other is because his wife once had the experience of betraying her marriage.
According to Zhang Xintao, his wife had a lockbox with a medical record, which was the proof that his wife had performed termination of pregnancy 3 years ago, and the child she was pregnant with at that time was not his.
Although Zhang Xintao was suspicious of his wife, in order to maintain the harmony and stability of the family, he chose to be patient, leaving his wife in the rental house and then going out to work alone.
What Zhang Xintao did not expect was that when he returned home again, he found that his wife was pregnant again and gave birth to a boy smoothly.
During his wife's childbirth, Zhang Xintao saw the landlord of the house they rented, Wang Yiren (pseudonym), and was very attentive to his wife, not only caring for his wife, but even when his wife needed help, he was also on call.
At that time, Zhang Xintao did not think much about it, he felt that it was just a mutual help between friends, but as the children gradually grew up, Zhang Xintao suddenly found that the appearance of the child born to his wife was very similar to that of the landlord.
Therefore, Zhang Xintao took his young son to do a paternity test, but the results of the identification made Zhang Xintao collapse endlessly, and his wife's newborn young son was indeed not his own blood.
When Zhang Xintao asked his wife with the paternity test results, although the wife admitted that the son was not born to Zhang Xintao, she did not think that she was wrong, she believed that her husband's indifferent attitude towards her for many years made her make this mistake.
His wife, Luo Xiuwen, not only did not think that she was wrong, but also chose to separate from Zhang Xintao, and insisted on divorcing Zhang Xintao, and his wife's attitude made Zhang Xintao collapse.
Hunan man found that his son was not biological, and after the collapse, he chose to be patient: now is not the time to break up
In 15 years of married life, Zhang Xintao and Luo Xiuwen have 3 children together, their eldest daughter is still in high school, and the younger son has just entered primary school, in order to be able to give the 3 children a complete family, although Zhang Xintao learned of the fact that his wife betrayed the marriage, he still chose to be patient and forgive.
But I don't want to, but my wife Luo Xiuwen chose to live separately from Zhang Xintao and insisted on separating from Zhang Xintao, what is the reason for this?
Luo Xiuwen said that Zhang Xintao has been working outside for many years, rarely caring for herself, rarely transferring the money she earns to herself, and there is also the vice of domestic violence, which makes her extremely disappointed in Zhang Xintao and resolutely unwilling to continue to live with Zhang Xintao.
In this regard, Zhang Xintao said that although his ability is limited, he works outside to earn money, in addition to his own food and clothing, most of them are transferred to his wife, he does not know why her wife is so dissatisfied with himself.
But Zhang Xintao's income is not enough to even live for 3 children, so how can Luo Xiuwen be satisfied?
Luo Xiuwen said that she would rather live alone than continue to be with Zhang Xintao, and the child's biological father is the landlord Wang Yiren, and now the landlord will transfer 3,000 yuan to her every month as the child's living expenses.
Zhang Xintao said that as long as Luo Xiuwen is willing to return the child to the landlord and ask the landlord for a compensation payment, he can forgive his wife's mistake.
In this regard, Luo Xiuwen seemed very cold, and she did not want to reunite with Zhang Xintao.
Zhang Xintao had no choice but to find the landlord Wang Yiren to ask for advice, Wang Yiren had real estate in urban areas and villages, and the economic conditions were better than Zhang Xintao.
When Zhang Xintao found Wang Yiren, the other party refused to admit that Luo Xiuwen's child was related to him, and Wang Yiren said that the reason why he cared for Luo Xiuwen was only out of friendship, and before Zhang Xintao asked again, he drove away on the pretext of something.
Zhang Xintao could only find Wang Yiren's wife and discuss strategy with him, Wang Yiren's wife said that Wang Yiren did confess to her the fact that he betrayed his marriage, and Wang Yiren also wanted to break off relations with Luo Xiuwen, but because of the child between the two, Wang Yiren could not break ties with him.
Wang Yiren's wife said that as long as Luo Xiuwen chose to let go, she was willing to raise the child with her husband, but Luo Xiuwen always pestered Wang Yiren with trivial matters such as the child not eating or sleeping, and she guessed that Luo Xiuwen wanted to use the child to drive Wang Yiren to break up with himself and achieve the purpose of coming together with Wang Yiren.
Hearing this, Zhang Xintao collapsed, at this time, his ideal state is to give the child born to his wife to Wang Yiren to raise, and then ask Wang Yiren to give a compensation to restart the happy life with his wife.
But Luo Xiuwen has no interest in Zhang Xintao's idea, and she is reluctant to give her young son to others to raise, both because she can't trust the child, or perhaps because she has her own life plans.
Seeing his wife's resolute attitude, Zhang Xintao did not choose to break up with his wife, he said that now is not the time for divorce, he has been working outside for many years, in order to give 3 children a complete family, he can only choose to be patient first, if his wife is still unwilling to change his mind in the future, he will consider ending this marriage by litigation to save the compensation he deserves.
At this point, the marriage story of Zhang Xintao and Luo Xiuwen has temporarily come to an end.
Sentiment Analysis:
Regarding marriage, the Russian writer Sukhomlinsky once said this:
Emotional indifference and estrangement can cause husbands or wives to deliberately find new relationships.
This passage tells us a truth: love should not only be maintained and cherished when in love, after marriage, the cherishing of love is more important.
In the marriage story of Zhang Xintao and Luo Xiuwen, because Zhang Xintao has been working in other places for many years, he neglected his wife who took care of 3 children at home, and after returning home, he did not care enough about his wife, which made his wife eventually lose hope and confidence in him.
Ke Luo Xiuwen chose to retaliate against Zhang Xintao by betraying her marriage, but this behavior was wrong, she not only hurt herself, but also made her future life path confused.
In married life, only those who know how to be loyal to their partners can be cherished by their marriage partners, and those who betray marriage are ostensibly retaliating against others, but in fact, in the end, they can only hurt themselves.
Only those who are loyal to marriage can maintain the beauty of their marriage and family, and have a happy love and life.
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