Since hearing that their daughter and a young man from Guangxi were in love, the cousins' hearts have not been calm.
My cousin's daughter learned to dance from an early age and worked hard. He was admitted to Xiamen University with excellent results in the college entrance examination. A girl from a small northern city, with her own strengths, can enter Xiamen University to study, it is not easy, but also very enviable, parents feel very proud and proud.
In the year after graduating from college, it was just in time for the Bank of Xiamen to go to the school to enroll, and the niece successfully passed the examination and was admitted to the Bank of Xiamen.
The niece is a down-to-earth worker and has an excellent professional level. After working at the grassroots level for two years, he was transferred to the bank trade union and was responsible for organizing various bank activities, literary and artistic performances, etc. She excelled in every way and soon gained a foothold in the bank. Leaders and colleagues have a good impression of her, and a great future awaits her.
It is a fortunate thing to be able to find your ideal job in a big city. But because Xiamen is far from home, my cousin only has this only daughter, and has been hoping that she can go home for employment and get married and have children around her parents.
But the niece loves Xiamen, and she is willing to choose to live in Xiamen. Compared with the fourth-tier small cities in its hometown, Xiamen has an absolute advantage in terms of career development.
As the saying goes: people go to the high place, and the water flows to the low place. Every parent hopes that their child will have a great development in the future, and for the happiness of their children, parents are willing to endure separation. Children can live in big cities, which is also a carp jumping dragon gate, proving that they are better than their parents and are the pride of their parents.
The marriage of a daughter is a major concern of parents
After working for two years, the cousins began to worry about their daughter's marriage. Their thoughts are contradictory, they want their daughter to fall in love, but they are also afraid of their daughter falling in love.
If the daughter falls in love locally, it proves that it is impossible to return to the hometown to work, and they have not given up the illusion of letting the child go home.
But daughters are in love, have a partner who accompanies each other, and can take care of each other in a strange city, which can reassure them.
They hope that if they consider living in the local area, it is best for the daughter to find a local boyfriend to fall in love, and the family with the boyfriend to take care of them will not only be able to enjoy the warmth of the family, but also reduce the inconvenience and difficulty of life.
They told their daughter about the idea, and she did not take a stand. They thought their daughter agreed, because she had been listening to their advice, and then she put her mind at ease.
The daughter's love object, breaking their illusions
The wishful thinking of the parents was quickly shattered by reality.
Just when they let their guard down, the daughter quietly fell in love. She did not dare to tell her parents in time, because the choice of lover was beyond the scope of her parents' determination.
At an event organized by a bank, the niece met a young man in the banking system, and the two fell in love at first sight. The young man is a native of Nanning, Guangxi, one year older than his niece, and also stayed in Xiamen to work after graduating from university.
When the cousins and couples learned the news, the two had reached a state of hot love. For the daughter's love affair, the cousin and his wife are opposed, because the boy's family is in a foreign country, and the daughter is the same as the one in Xiamen, and if the two people live in Xiamen, there are many unfavorable factors.
First of all, the house is a must, but the house price in Xiamen is very high, the boy's family is slightly better than the cousin's family conditions are also limited, even if the two families pay a down payment, the small couple will have great pressure to repay the loan. After getting married and having children, both parents are not around. Parents need to travel long distances to see their children, and there are many inconveniences in life, which are actual difficulties.
The cousins advised their daughter to give up and find a local boyfriend more realistically. But the niece flatly refused, believing that the boy was of good character and good to her, and that as long as he was with him, he could overcome all the difficulties.
The parents examined the boy and agreed after compromise
Parents can't help their children, so they have to compromise. The cousin and his wife were not at ease, and the two took an opportunity to go to Xiamen and met with the boy. Through contact, they saw that the boy was generous, kind to his daughter, spoke and did things very well, could feel that he was the child of his family, felt very satisfied, and recognized the future son-in-law from the heart.
The cousins and the couple approved of the boy and began to worry about the daughter's house. At this time, the good news came that the niece's work unit bank allocated low-cost housing for employees, and the rent was much lower than the market price and could be lived for a long time. Although the size of the house is relatively small, it is still very good to live as a transitional house. The news made both the cousin and niece very happy.
The cousins and his wife went to Xiamen to buy daily necessities for their daughter. Rejoice that her daughter is about to enter a stable life.
The decision of the daughter to pay for love is a big blow to the parents
The daughter's life is stable, and the couple is at ease. But it wasn't long before they found out that things weren't going their way.
His daughter's boyfriend has his own life plan, and his parents bought him a wedding house in his hometown and let him return to his hometown to work.
At this time, there was a very serious problem, if he returned to his hometown and his niece stayed in Xiamen, the relationship between the two people would be declared over. If you go back to your hometown with him, there are many problems.
His hometown is in Nanning, which is not as developed as Xiamen. The niece's long-standing learning and struggle, the achievements she has made, have lost their meaning as she returns to his hometown. All the efforts and efforts of the results have been zeroed out, and everything in Nanning needs to start over.
The niece went to Nanning and needed to find a new job.
For a love, she gave up a good job in Xiamen, a good development prospect, and came to a place that is still not her hometown and is not developed in Xiamen, is it worth it?
In today's society, a girl for a love, give up all visible interests, away from home, to pursue a love, the road ahead, no one knows what kind of life is waiting for her in front of her, is she very stupid?
The niece has been studying art since she was a child, and in order to cultivate her, her parents have worked hard and paid a lot of money. Finally admitted to a good university, but also found a good job in a first-class city, the future is bright.
But for a man, she abandoned everything, and from scratch, the parents' cultivation and hard work will be wasted.
Moreover, if the boy can always be very good to her, if it is not good, is it not a waste of all this? How does a daughter live alone in a foreign country?
After thinking about it, the cousin and his wife were mentally weak and depressed.
Fulfill the happiness of your daughter and be a generous parent
Young people and their parents think differently, they run to the future with joy, no worries, only the yearning for a better life in the future.
Their feelings touched the heavens, and after returning to their hometown, they scored well in the inaugural examination, and the two were admitted to a bank in Nanning.
The cousins and couples also adjusted their mentality at this time, they faced the reality and single-mindedly hoped that their daughter and future son-in-law could love each other. The husband and wife arrived in Nanning and met the man's parents. The boy's parents are very warm to the cousin and the couple, the people are also very good, and it is a pleasure to meet the family.
Last August, the niece and son-in-law held a wedding.
The younger sister said that the cousin was a careful person. In order to give his daughter a smooth wedding, he personally went out on everything, he did not trust the people in the wedding company to do things, many things were hands-on, and the welcome photos that needed to be placed at the wedding were printed and decorated by the cousin himself.
My cousin spoke at the banquet, and one of the words that touched me the most was this: I hope that the two children can always go home to see. As he said this, his cousin's voice choked. My eyes were moist too.
After the lively wedding, the children are about to leave for Nanning. The days of getting together are always short, and after the couple puts the children on the train, they immediately calculate the day of the next reunion.
Now the little couple is living happily, and the cousins and couples are also at ease.
Girls who marry far away are the eternal concern of their parents
I admire my niece's decisiveness and bravery, and I also appreciate the generosity of my cousin and his wife and the respect for their children's choices.
If a couple opposes their daughter marrying into Guangxi, there will be two outcomes:
The niece may give up, and doing so will not only destroy a marriage, but also make the niece suffer, and if the marriage does not go well in the future, the parents will be blamed.
If the niece does not give up, it will have conflicts with her parents, affect family relations, and also make the future son-in-law have opinions about her in-laws.
Therefore, parents should be cautious in handling their children's marriages and must not blindly interfere. Parents and children each have their own life problems, and it is rational and correct not to point fingers at their children's life problems, and it is the greatest respect for their children.
Parents all hope that their children are happy, hope that their children are by their side, and hope to care for their warmth and cold at all times, and take care of their thoughtfulness.
Children will leave their parents when they grow up, and no matter how much their parents are concerned, they will run to their own happy life. Parents can only watch their cheerful backs, drifting away until they jump out of sight.
The daughter who married far away is the longest thought of the parents, countless worries haunt the heart, and the feeling of helplessness fills the heart, and the taste of which is known only to the parents.
Behind the daughter's brave search for love is the heartache and helplessness of her parents.
I hope that the husband of the niece can cherish her, take care of her, and hope that they will have a happy marriage and harmony.