I like a quote by Ostrovsky: "A man's life should be spent in such a way that when he recalls the past, he will not regret his wasted years, nor will he be ashamed of his past inaction." ”
However, it is actually a very difficult thing to have this kind of life without regrets and regrets. For life, we often only see the surface, but we have not seen the long term, and we see more meaning in life.
Just like some people, when they have the ability, time, and hope to change the direction of their lives, they choose to give up these opportunities and rely on others completely on their lives.
Some people will rely on their parents to become what we often call "nibbling on the old people", and some people will also rely on their other half, always thinking of finding a good object to protect the rest of their lives.
However, later, after seeing the reality and cruelty of life, I truly realized that if my life has always relied on others, I have lost the ability to choose and change, and the final result lies entirely in the choices of others and the attitude of others.
When their lives are not very happy, they often use fate as an excuse for themselves. Roman Rolland said, "Fatalism is an excuse for the weak who lack willpower." ”
If a person lacks willpower and the courage to work forward, he can only accept this so-called fate. Because, in life, the only thing that can be relied on is yourself.
People who are unwilling to take responsibility and are unwilling to change their destiny have only fate in their mouths, only all kinds of excuses.
When life reaches the end, we will find that in the end, we can only rely on ourselves. For everyone, this is true.
Depending on others for your life means that you have lost the right to choose happiness.
Regardless of a person's origins or family circumstances, they all have the right to choose and pursue happiness. It's just that for some people, they lack willpower and are unwilling to use their own efforts to get what they want and the life they want to live.
Aristotle said, "The ultimate value of life lies in the ability to awaken and think, not just to survive." ”
If we want to realize our own value, if we want to make ourselves more valuable, we must have the ability to think and have the ability to work hard.
Once life lacks these, the so-called life, in fact, is only left to survive. To rely on others for one's future is to indirectly give up the right to choose happiness.
Maybe in those years of comfort and comfort, you will enjoy such a time and enjoy this relaxed life.
But this kind of life doesn't last long, and you will realize that you have been standing still, and even kept going backwards. Even if you wake up one day, it will be too late.
Therefore, those who blindly rely on others, instead of wasting time in a comfortable and boring life, may wish to grasp their own lives and try to change some. Being able to change their current situation through their own efforts will realize their own value.
If you keep doing nothing, one day you will regret the wasted time.
Time is fair for everyone, no matter how you choose, in the end everyone is the same time. It's just that some people spend their time enjoying comfort, while others cling to time and try to achieve different values in the same amount of time.
Although everyone's time is the same, the value created by each person is different in this same time.
Those who make the greatest use of time, even if they are old, remember the time they have struggled, they will feel that it is a very happy thing, and they will often recall their lives and recall their own step-by-step journey.
And those who do nothing and pin their lives on others, even if they think of their own past, do not see the years that can shine. When I think of the time I have wasted, I often think: If I had worked harder, maybe it would be different now.
Maybe now, you will feel very comfortable, but you must know that if you keep doing nothing, one day, you will regret the wasted time and feel guilty for your past.
The meaning of life lies in creating your own unique life with your own hands.
Life is only once for everyone, but some people live well in this limited life, while others get by, and ultimately live in all kinds of regrets and guilt.
What kind of value a person will have, it all depends on their own decisions, if you rely on others, you will not be able to realize your own value after all, let alone let yourself have a regret-free life.
Krylov said: "The reality is this bank, the ideal is the other shore, separated by a rushing river, and action is a bridge over the river." ”
Everyone has their own ideals and the life they want to live, but not everyone will work hard for their ideals and prove their ability with their own actions.
Relying on others, after all, can not achieve their own goals. If you want to have a life, you have to rely on yourself to fight for it and get it.
What kind of state your life will be depends on what kind of action you will have and what kind of attitude you will have. Moreover, the more you end up in life, the more obvious this feeling will be.
Life is not as good as you think, and it won't be as bad as you think. What kind of life you are willing to fight for, you can only rely on your own ability.
Remember, the future is in your hands, not the so-called fate.