Healing Life(4)
Since his decision to quit smoking last night, he has not smoked for more than ten hours.
When he got up in the morning, he actually wanted to smoke one.
After a fierce ideological struggle, he finally refrained.
Later, when he wanted to smoke, he would chew gum, or eat melon seeds and snacks.
But at this time, he really couldn't help it, his mouth was dry and bitter, and there seemed to be a fire burning in his throat, and he felt uncomfortable.
There were two voices in my head debating.
"Bear with me, don't smoke!" One draw and you're done! ”
"I'm so uncomfortable, it doesn't matter, just smoke one, don't step into place, slowly quit."
In the end, it is desire that triumphs over willpower.
With a "click," he lit his cigarette and took a deep breath.
In an instant, all the anxiety and discomfort were swept away.
"What are you doing?"
The voice that popped into his head startled him.
He followed the sound and saw another self.
The other self was standing in the doorway, looking at himself coldly, and there was still a trace of contempt and regret in his sharp eyes.
Yeah, what am I doing?
I'm smoking! I'm injecting toxins into my body, I'm burning my health and wealth!
A deep sense of shame and guilt welled up in his heart.
He squeezed out his cigarette, and the other self in his mind was gone.
He slowly closed his eyes, recalling the brief but meaningful moment of the conversation with the other self just now.
Yeah, it's often all too easy to underestimate the difficulty of changing a deep-seated habit because we overestimate our willpower.
But willpower is actually a luxury, and the characteristics of luxury goods are rare, even encounterable and unattainable.
And willpower is often unreliable, and it is easy to be pulled down by the bad guys of desire, prejudice and laziness.
At the same time, we also like to use one desire to restrain another.
For example, the sweetness of chewing gum, or the aroma of melon seeds and snacks is used to suppress the stimulation and thirst for cigarettes.
Use the short pleasure of buying and buying to suppress the emptiness and anxiety in your heart.
Use the screen of no one to look around, create the illusion that you are busy and studying hard, to cover up the degradation of social skills, the embarrassment of not being able to find something to say, and the laziness of the mind that covets comfort, is unwilling to read and thinks deeply.
Want to use willpower to restrain your desires?
Stop it!
In fact, we ourselves know that it is of no use at all!
Frozen three feet, not a day's cold.
The deep-rooted so-called "bad habits" that we want to change now have actually brought us certain benefits at certain times, but they are no longer suitable for us now.
Just like the clothes and shoes we wore when we were children, as we grew up day by day, they were no longer suitable for us, and if we continued to wear them, they would bind and damage our bodies and hinder us from continuing to grow.
So we need to strip them.
Seeing this, we change our attitude towards them.
It's not so much disgust, or disgust, disdain, and resistance.
Instead, they should be thanked for their help and companionship, spent some time in peace with them, then embraced them, blessed, waved goodbye, and watched them leave happily.
Seeing is the beginning of healing.
If you want to lose weight, but can't help but want to eat more delicious food, it's okay, keep eating.
Don't deliberately control, and don't be intrigued and entangled.
Just remember that when you are feasting, don't forget to chew and swallow slowly, and at the same time be aware of what you are doing.
"I'm chewing on my favorite delicacy, even if it's beyond my body's needs."
Seeing and being aware of what you are doing is feeling and living in the present moment.
To live in the moment is to put one's mind in place.
Don't get tangled, don't rush, you don't need to deliberately change the way you're used to behaving, make sure your mind is always online, and your inner conscience will tell you what to do.
Seeing ourselves and living in every present moment, life will naturally usher in the changes we want.
"Yan Whisper", using warm words, records the progress and growth of life.
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