I am a stay-at-home mom, a stay-at-home mom who is constantly fulfilling her self-worth. Reject anxiety, refuse "inner volume", easy parenting, rational treatment of married life, tolerant response to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I hope that some of my views can make you suddenly enlightened, can bring you positive energy, and solve your practical problems.
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The recent hit TV series "The World of Man", I don't know if you have seen it.
I had seen the original, and after watching the cast before, I turned on the TV and kept up with the progress.
Let's talk about the feelings first, which did not disappoint the original party at all, and the character casting was very accurate.
When I watched the first episode, she said, "It's very real, that's what it was in those days." ”
After watching the plot later, she said with moist eyes: "When parents are looking forward to the child's appearance, the child is really far away, and he can't help himself, in the end he still has to count on the child who is not out of the house around him." ”
Her emotion made me think of a sentence: children with average qualifications, who can only stay with their parents, are really children who come to repay their kindness.
Far water does not quench the thirst of the near, and it is better for that stupid child
If you watch the plot of "The World of Man", you must be able to understand the old man's feelings, Zhou Rong once said that Zhou Bingkun, reading too few books, advised him to read more books.
Yes, Zhou Bingkun is the third elder of the Zhou family, known as the zhou family old knot, he has an extremely excellent brother, and a very good sister, only he has been very ordinary since he was a child, and he is a good person.
He went to work in peace, worked, shared the housework for Zhou's mother, and had three sons, and Zhou's mother guarded this home, and her heart was also solid.
Zhou Rong and her husband had an accident on the way home, and after Zhou's mother learned the truth, she fainted and died, and Zhou Bingkun took on everything alone, without telling her brother and sister.
Of course, later with Zheng Juan's help, he could work normally and his life could proceed normally.
Before the accident, he explained to Zheng Juan that as long as the sky did not fall at home, he would not tell his brother and sister, telling them that it would not help, that they wanted to work, and that they could only increase their worries.
Zheng Juan asked what was "the sky falling", and he stumbled and said "dead man".
An ordinary, incompetent person, silently bearing all this.
It is not that excellent brothers and sisters cannot bear it, but the distant water does not quench the thirst of the near, and the kind brother is not willing to delay the future of the brother and sister.
My mother told me a true family story about my hometown.
The old man and the old lady had two sons, the eldest son had become a soldier in other cities, and the younger son had no ability to stay by his side.
When the son and daughter-in-law were young, they were very filial and obedient, and they listened to their parents in everything.
But parents rarely praise their sons and daughters-in-law who are around in front of people, and always praise the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law.
The eldest son is very filial, but he can't stay by his side, and he gives money to his parents every New Year's Festival, which adds up to a few thousand yuan all year round, which is not a small amount more than ten years ago.
The younger son stayed by his side, lived a poor life, did not pay for help, helped his parents to do farm work, do housework, and take care of everything clearly.
But parents only praised the eldest son, and did not mention the credit of the younger son and the younger daughter-in-law.
The young son and daughter-in-law finally broke their hearts, their hearts hardened, and they rarely went to their parents to do filial piety.
The old man was sick, and the younger son and his brother called out: either come back to do filial piety together, or take turns, my family for a month, your family for a month.
The eldest son can't come back, the eldest son wants to work, when it's the turn of the old people, the younger son and the daughter-in-law will not care, the old two did not reflect on their own behavior, but scolded the younger son and the little daughter-in-law with the neighbors.
The ending is not to say, it is quite tragic, two old people have died one after another, and the old lady has been found more than a week after she left.
The two sons were originally filial piety, the eldest filial piety can not come to the side to guard, but the conditions are better, you can provide money to the parents, the second filial piety is reflected in physical strength, to clear the obstacles for the parents, but the parents only see the filial piety of the eldest, can not see the filial piety of the second, and finally hurt the heart of the second.
If these two old men had been nicer to the "stupid" son and praised their son and daughter-in-law more, the result would have been completely different.
When people reach old age, it is not too late to understand this truth in time
Mom said that no matter how old you are, you can really understand this truth, it is helpful for the harmony of the family, how late is not too late, between the child and the parents, sometimes it is only a matter of a few words, all the contradictions will be solved.
It really is.
What we see with our eyes is not objective, there may be some truths and details that we cannot see, but everything has a cause and effect, and everything is presented for no reason.
Parents usually take the glory of excellent children, but it is easy to ignore the mediocre child around them, but there are no ordinary children who accompany their parents the most.
Think of this problem in another way: the children who are "stupid" in the mouth of their parents are actually here to repay the favor, they want to stay with their parents for a lifetime, and when their parents need them, they can appear in front of their parents in a few minutes.
If parents are properly educated, children must have filial piety, but people are often involuntary, the more excellent the child, the greater the responsibility on the body, the more involuntarily.
Excellent children contribute to the whole country, parents can not count on, children can not help themselves, but mediocre children can contribute to parents and small families.
Therefore, as a parent, don't be too eccentric, pay more attention to the ordinary mediocre child around you, and let the "stupid" child get a little warmth in his heart, so that the whole family is harmonious and upward.