#70 #Children after 70, be sure to let them fully enjoy their freedom. I am the Dragon Girl of '76, and my son will soon be 15 years old. My son recently told me that he was going to live in Australia, then switzerland, then switzerland, and then... I smiled and nodded every time and said, "Good, great!" One of Mom's friends went to australian ranching to herd cattle at the age of 19 and is now back to do research work after graduating with a PhD. "My son, since the age of 12 and a half, has rebelled to be free. Isn't it easy to be free? It's not about asking for a house or a car, so to speak. So I took advantage of his youth and madness, and quickly sent him to the residential school, now that he is not an adult, he has already planned to go far away and fly high.
We were born in the 70s, when we were still relatively poor in the whole of China. From a young age, he was taught to "learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well and go all over the world", except for reading. Our parents are ordinary people, staring at us trying to enter the university, the examination preparation, in fact, is not for us to eat as an adult? At that time, those who went to college and found a good job had lofty ideals, and in the end, they returned to a dull life and a job search to make a living. Regardless of the college entrance examination of that year, the undergraduate line was just wiped off, and finally they all lived the same life.
Yesterday, when I chatted with my old father about the development of my son's generation, I said: "Their generation has left the era of mixed food and should live for the pursuit of their own ideals." The old father agreed, and finally said, "You can finally pursue your ideals now." "Put down the phone, I'm a little out of my mind, do I still have ideals?" The little girl who was obsessed with drawing with a paintbrush, the teenager who said in front of the whole class that he wanted to be a family, finally obeyed reality and followed his parents' wishes to study finance, and he had already lost his ideal in the flow.
Now, when it's my child's turn, I can't give him much, and the only thing I can do is to support him to pursue the life he wants and have a free life.
I promise that I will never urge marriage and childbearing, never interfere with his elective major, and never drag him back and prevent him from seeing the world. Eagles 🦅 with stiff wings should fly higher and farther, don't be the grass chicken nested in the chicken coop, shrink their heads and nibble on the old, holding the milk bottle, that is waste firewood.
When the children are older, we must be self-conscious, look at them from a distance, interject less, reach out less, and learn to live our own lives independently. The only thing you can do is to take care of yourself, let the child live his life without worry, and go as far as possible.
Today I went to the seafood shop to buy fish and met a runner (I met by running), a 60-year-old Vietnamese Chinese elder sister. She told me that now I have to help my daughter take two grandchildren five days a week, one three years old, one 14 months old, so tired! She finally said, "I'm old, I can't move, I knew this, I should have lived away from my daughter in the first place." Living nearby, not helping to bring grandchildren and afraid that my daughter will not be happy, I have no freedom at all with children, and there is a husband with diabetes who relies on me to take care of, really too tired. I have six children, the others have not yet had children, and I am afraid that I will not be free until I am 80 years old[cover my face]. She carried two fish, rushed home to make fish porridge for her grandson, and hurriedly said goodbye.
I smiled darkly and said that I must let my little boy go to Australia in the future.
Today I put a few beautiful photos of the old lady of the Queen of England that I like. Learn from the elderly beauties of Cimei's good intentions, without grandchildren, let alone grandchildren. Can an old lady with grandchildren look so good? Are you right?
