#How are you doing after the divorce #94, married in October 18, divorced in November 21. The decision to divorce was to find that he had a small three or four outside and a fixed married mistress

#How are you doing after your divorce?

Married in October 1818 and divorced in November 21. The decision to divorce was to find that he had a small three or four outside and a fixed married mistress.

In fact, when the baby was 5 months old, he had begun to be unscrupulous, at that time I had just returned to work after maternity leave, working overtime every day, going home to take the child after work, he sometimes did not come back for the night, I trusted him too much, never doubted. Just blame him for not taking on the responsibilities of the father, not doing housework and ignoring the children. What really made me suspicious was his birthday, he didn't come home that night, he came home the next day and brought me half a box of popcorn, and that night he inexplicably quarreled with me to split the bed. I never look at his phone, so he's always reassured about his phone. After he fell asleep, I turned over his consumption record, switched his WeChat trumpet, I have to say that the woman's intuition is really accurate, a look at it comes out that there is something wrong in the consumption record and a small three or four in the WeChat trumpet. I never wanted to believe he cheated that night.

The next day my girlfriend and I went to our mutual friend's house, well... Friends said everything, at least the ones I found, she said everything in detail, such as taking her mistress home to sleep, not going home in the middle of the night to run to her mistress's house for the night, the mistress has several children at home, and on her birthday in front of his parents and his friends, she said that she finally had a confidant, and publicized everywhere in the place of work that she had found true love.

So I embarked on the road to catching adultery, small cameras, high-definition recorders. The sky didn't help me, the camera was broken, the audio recorder was a little farther away, and the recording was not very clear. At that time, I was standing alone downstairs, listening to the sound of mmm-ah coming from my mobile phone, and seeing the woman get up and put on her pants after the end of the battlefield... I was so stupid that I didn't call the police, and I was alone with them coming downstairs.

We were married for two years, took out a loan to buy two houses, the first of which was far from the city and was also a marriage house, and now it was a temporary outlet for him and the mistress. Did not want to consider buying a house again, just married and coupled with the former father-in-law cerebral hemorrhage treatment plus rehabilitation and spent almost no money in hand, so save enough money to want the child, the result of pregnancy 6 months when his parents rented the house did not let live, his parents discussed to take out 100,000 savings plus 200,000 we saved, together with the down payment to buy a house, in order to facilitate me, close to my parents' home and the company.

No crying, no fuss, calm talk, must be divorced. Since there is evidence to catch the adulteress on the spot, there is no need to explain. I thought cheating was already the worst case scenario, but I was wrong, and what really chilled me was the series of things that happened later. The whole negotiation process lasted intermittently for more than 3 months, which was nothing more than the issue of dividing the property, two houses, he was unwilling to give me and my children a set, and even wanted to beat me because he did not talk about it. What chills me the most is that he is not worthy of being a father, for three months, only talk about money, do not talk about children, he does not want this child in his heart, and he does not want to continue to raise this child in his heart, and the agreed maintenance fee has dropped from two thousand to one thousand. Even on the child's first birthday, when the two of them came to see the child, he did not buy anything for the child, and the former mother-in-law took a piece of soap sent by others and said that it was given to the child. Friends learned of his immoral behavior, and told me a lot of things I don't know, the above said birthday the next day to take back the popcorn, in fact, the previous day's mistress ate the leftovers, he did not throw, take it back to me to eat, at that time I hated the box of popcorn for no reason, he left and directly threw it into the trash can, fortunately. I also know that when I got married, he stepped on two boats, and I was a junior, and I successfully ascended to the throne.

Caught him cheating on the day, I scratched his face, and when my dad arrived, he informed his parents that his son cheated on him and was caught by me, and then went directly to his parents' house with my dad, his dad didn't say anything, his mom and usual like a nobody smiled and opened the door, still holding the mobile phone in his hand didn't know what to see again, saw that his son had scratches on his face before he reacted, his mother patted his son twice on the back, said a word or two that didn't hurt or itch. I asked him what to do, he didn't talk, and I asked his mother to say that he would live a good life after his mother came. I was confused and moved directly to my mother's house. For the following month, the family did not apologize, did nothing, let alone went to the door, and did not see any people. At that time, the child was 7 months old, I did not dare to say that I gave the child to him to raise in order to fight for breath, even if my mother said this kind of angry words the only time I could not listen, tears flowed, I did not dare to say to others that the child's father did not want the child, I was afraid that others thought that it was because the father did not want her I wanted it, my own baby, even if the whole world did not want it, I also wanted it. I feel very guilty about the child, I am sorry for the child, it is my vision is too bad, let the child spread such a bastard father, let the child be born doomed to no father.

When I got the license, I was afraid that he would act too aggressively and let my family accompany me. After receiving the certificate, I did not think that I was very happy, I felt very sad, and I couldn't say it. I began to evade any of his messages, to go home after work, not to contact anyone, I regretted it all the time, I wanted to cry, and I didn't know what to cry, I didn't want to, I didn't know why I wasn't willing. I didn't want to think about anything about him, but I couldn't control myself from thinking about the actions he did to me during the divorce. Export hurting people, slandering me everywhere, setting up people for myself, using all his despicable methods of treating others on me, and I myself pitied myself.

Hate why he is so wrong to me, obviously it is he who is wrong, why is he still so reasonable, do not think that cheating is wrong? PUA I wanted to make me feel that it was my fault that led him to cheat. I have retreated again and again in the division of property, and he has rebelled again and again. Why maliciously denigrate after divorce.

It's been more than two months since I got divorced, and compared to the months during the divorce, I'm in a good shape. The mentality is slowly corrected, and there will be no entanglement in some, and the past will pass. For the daughter, there is a grandmother and aunt who love her, there is no negative emotion, the heart is still gentle and kind mother, there is a warm and positive family environment, every day is happy and happy, very good. Occasionally when I go to work, I will suddenly remember the beautiful scene of the two people before, but I will not look back, so I should use the previous beauty to soothe the now wounded heart and let myself go.