Who is more successful in Buddhist baby-raising VS tiger mother education?
How will children with different ideas grow up?
Mom's sacrifice is a lie?
From Dali to Singapore, from free range to elite inner volume, in tonight's "Amazing Moms" episodes 3 and 4, we will walk into two families and see two very different educational models for mothers.
Mother Sheep · Allow you to grow up freely
Le Le is a single mother living in Dali, and her daughter Zhao Meiduo has not seen her father since birth. Although the two are in Dali, after the boyfriend went to Harvard to study, the two broke up.
Le Le has been in love many times, and she also has a son, named He Yihe, who is one of the screenwriters of the movie "囧Mom". He has been a bully since he was a child, but he only has high Chinese, because he does not adapt to the strong competitive atmosphere of the high school experimental class, He Yihe chose to drop out of school, and then dropped out of international school to specialize in creation. In the face of his son's seemingly unreasonable choice, LeLe never expressed opposition.
"Drop out, okay, not going to college, okay. The most serious thing my mother said to me was that you should think it through yourself," He Yihe said.
For her daughter, Lele has never been anxious about her education, has not participated in the education volume, and has not enrolled in any cram schools for her. Zhao Meiduo's dream is to be a chef, and Le Le has never refuted her ideas, but respects her own choices. Her daughter told her that she was the happiest child.
Although Lele only has a high Chinese, she has never stopped studying, she has taken the psychological counseling certificate herself, doing psychological counseling courses in Dali, and practicing boxing in her free time.
"A mother can't even take care of herself, how to take care of the child." Sacrificing your time and happiness for your children is a lie in itself, because children actually want you to be comfortable," Lele said, "when you are awkward yourself, you can't make others comfortable."
He Yihe flew from Beijing to Yunnan to attend a friend's wedding, and by the way, he came to see his mother and sister, their family actually did not see each other often, for this family, it was very happy to know that each other was in this world, and they did not even need to meet.
Lele had a new boyfriend, and she told her daughter the news for the first time. "People always see the child as an extension of their identity, and his good or bad is linked to you, but his future and yourself are two things to be separated." 」
For Lele, she and her children are individuals who grow up independently, and with the Cangshan Erhai Sea, Xu children grow freely like clouds, which is perhaps the best expression of her love for children.
Tiger Mom · Music is the only way to help children
For Singapore's Xiuwei family, free-range education seems to be a luxury.
Born in Fujian, Xiuwei began to study music at the age of 4, was admitted to the Singapore Art School with her musical expertise, and married and had children with her local husband. Her daughter Sasa, who is in the third grade this year, is facing the first severe test of further education.
Every night, Xiu Wei would supervise Sasa to practice the piano, and then practice erhu for another hour and a half. When Sasa practice went wrong, Xiuwei couldn't help but lose her temper. Her goal is for her daughter to be admitted to the Singapore Youth Chinese Orchestra at the age of 10, so that she can enter a key secondary school as a special student.
Singapore pursues elite education, starting from primary school layer by layer, the gep test in the third grade is the first threshold, the first one percent of the children can enter the genius class, the sixth grade of the primary school will divide the children into three to four echelons, the first five percent have the qualification of the straight up, the pressure on the children is no less than our college entrance examination. For every family like Xiuwei, tutoring children is the most important task for the whole family to go out.
In the early years, Xiuwei gave up her beloved orchestra job for her children, worked as a clerk in an ordinary company, and had to work part-time piano tutoring classes for two days on weekends, with a full schedule, and when she was in a hurry, Xiuwei also had to open her mobile phone and video with her daughter to urge her to practice. Her family's income is on the upper middle, but her daughter's monthly after-school tutoring fees can reach more than S$2,000. In addition to music, her daughter also has to learn martial arts, ethnic dance and other courses to earn extra points for further education.
For Xiuwei, who loves music, art is the only thing she can help her daughter, and she hopes that her daughter can feel beautiful by learning music. "When I was a child, I didn't know the hard work of my parents, and I only knew it when I grew up."
But every time when you are strict with your child, because you are too busy to spend time with your child, Xiuwei can't control her emotions, "Whenever you play the wrong sound, I will be angry, but don't think I don't love you, I love you very, very much!" ”
"Sheep mother" and "tiger mother" whose education method is more successful is a difficult proposition to say, in different environments, each pair of mothers will make different parenting choices, but their starting point is always - love for their children.
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