On September 9, 2019, a woman wearing bright yellow short sleeves came to the injury appraisal office in the Tianning Public Security Bureau in Changzhou City, Jiangsu Province.
The appraiser told her to show the scars, and the woman took off her pants, and she could see that from her ass to her thighs, she was covered with dark purple bruises, and there were large areas of broken skin wounds, and the feeling of flesh opening looked terrible.
The appraiser, a female forensic doctor, was startled by the scars on the woman's body.
The woman in front of her looked to be in her early thirties, and she asked, "Have you suffered domestic violence from your husband?" ”
The woman nodded and then immediately shook her head: "It is domestic violence, but it was beaten like this by my mother." ”
Who is the girl? In order to be nearly thirty years old, you still have to be beaten by your mother? What is the current status of the woman's mother?
"Unemployed home forced by parents"
Lin Xiaoxia was born on April 13, 1989 in Hongmeixi Village, Tianning District, Changzhou City, Jiangsu Province.
In the countryside, Lin Xiaoxia's parents have a serious concept of son preference, and two years after giving birth to their daughter, her mother gave birth to a younger brother who was two years younger.
From an early age, Lin Xiaoxia's younger brother received much more favor than Lin Xiaoxia.
When she was a child, only when Lin Xiaoxia scored a high score, her parents would give her some rewards.
And Lin Xiaoxia's younger brother only needs to be spoiled to get what he wants.
Lin Xiaoxia has always wanted to escape from her original family, but unfortunately, Lin Xiaoxia does not have any talent in reading.
She barely entered a normal high school in the middle school entrance examination, and her grades have been mediocre since then.
In June 2007, Lin Xiaoxia was admitted to Chongqing Vocational College of Finance and Economics, where she studied marketing.
On the university campus, Lin Xiaoxia's roommates are all natives of Sichuan and Chongqing.
In the Sichuan-Chongqing region, the concept of son preference is much weaker than in other regions, and roommates can get the favor of the whole family even if they are girls.
This sense of contrast made Lin Xiaoxia even more disappointed in her original family.
In June 2010, 21-year-old Lin Xiaoxia chose to stay in Chongqing after graduation.
But she is not a native of Chongqing, there are great problems with food, clothing, housing and travel, and most of Lin Xiaoxia's meager monthly salary is used for renting.
Every New Year's Festival, Lin Xiaoxia will return to her hometown in Changzhou, and her parents will urge Lin Xiaoxia to fall in love and get married quickly every Spring Festival.
When Lin Xiaoxia was 28 years old, the company she was originally in was optimized and reorganized, and Lin Xiaoxia, who graduated from college, had no advantage and was quickly laid off.
Lin Xiaoxia looked for a job in Chongqing for about half a year, and the other party rejected Lin Xiaoxia because of Her Xiaoxia's academic qualifications.
During the years of work, Lin Xiaoxia did not save much, and soon, Lin Xiaoxia could no longer stay in Chongqing.
On the eve of the Spring Festival in 2018, Lin Xiaoxia returned to Changzhou from Chongqing.
She proposed to her parents that she would no longer go out to work, but would stay in Changzhou.
Her parents asked Lin Xiaoxia what to do with her job, and Lin Xiaoxia said that she would wait until after the end of the year.
During the Chinese New Year, Lin Xiaoxia's relatives and friends have been urging marriage, but Lin Xiaoxia herself has no desire to fall in love.
She feels that the current single state is very good, Lin Xiaoxia does not want to face her marriage so hastily.
But her parents always saw the needle and hated Lin Xiaoxia for not being able to marry.
At the Spring Festival Gala, Lin Xiaoxia was lying on the sofa, she picked up the sugar oranges on the coffee table with her hands, and her parents began to nag.
"Oh, how old are still eating their parents, if there is a chance, they should marry someone now."
When the Spring Festival Gala program was performed to the children's song and dance, Lin Xiaoxia's parents began to chant again.
"Oh, the milk doll on this is really good, when can I hold my grandchildren?"
Lin Xiaoxia was very helpless, she felt that even breathing in this home was a mistake.
Moreover, Lin Xiaoxia's younger brother also found a girlfriend last year, and this year, her brother's girlfriend also came to Lin Xiaoxia's home to visit the New Year on the third day of the Chinese New Year.
Since his younger brother and girlfriend came to Lin Xiaoxia's home, Lin Xiaoxia's parents have intensified and even began to talk about matchmaking for Lin Xiaoxia!
Under the unstoppable nagging of her parents, Lin Xiaoxia finally agreed to meet with the blind date recommended by her parents.
Before the blind date, Lin Xiaoxia's mother, Wang Yaqiong, vowed to vouch for Lin Xiaoxia, and the blind date was a handsome man of about the same age! And the character is good, Wang Yaqiong and the mother of the blind date man are acquainted.
But when Lin Xiaoxia came to the restaurant agreed upon by the blind date, there was only a middle-aged man who was about to go bald.
Lin Xiaoxia wanted to leave on the spot, but because of her mother's face, she sat down and talked calmly for a long time.
In the chat, Lin Xiaoxia learned that the other party Chinese New Year's Eve eight years old and divorced with a thirteen-year-old daughter.
The blind date man introduced himself that he has several supermarket chains in Changzhou and there is no shortage of money at home.
When the blind date ended and did not arrive home, the man asked Lin Xiaoxia on WeChat for this meal AA.
Lin Xiaoxia had a big fight with her mother after returning home, she thought that her mother was interested in the man's property and did not consider her own ideas at all.
And the mother Wang Yaqiong is saying that she is for Lin Xiaoxia's good, there is no problem with being older, and the focus is on men being honest.
That night, Lin Xiaoxia and her mother Wang Yaqiong broke out the first quarrel after returning home.
Before going to bed, Lin Xiaoxia originally wanted to delete the man's friend, but the other party sent a voice first.
In the voice, the other party felt very sorry, saying that Lin Xiaoxia was still too old and wanted to find a smaller girl.
This blind date made Lin Xiaoxia understand more clearly the truth of Ning Que and not abuse.
"Beaten by his mother when he couldn't find a job"
Years later, although the quarrel between Lin Xiaoxia and her parents continued uninterrupted, Lin Xiaoxia also began to find a job in Changzhou.
There are not many companies near Lin Xiaoxia's home, and the school's fresh graduates have also begun to recruit in the spring, and Lin Xiaoxia, who is running fast, has no competitive advantage at all.
Unable to find a job, Lin Xiaoxia's parents began to give Lin Xiaoxia ideas, and they suggested that Lin Xiaoxia go to a nearby supermarket as a salesman.
Lin Xiaoxia, who has been working outside for many years, did not want to sell vegetables, and she refused her parents' proposals.
Contemporary young people must have experienced the experience of being disliked at home. And Lin Xiaoxia, who has never found a job, has also become a thorn in the eye of her parents.
Lin Xiaoxia's parents gave her two choices, either to marry or to find a job.
Lin Xiaoxia did not want to choose easily, so her parents began to do something to Lin Xiaoxia.
Lin Xiaoxia's parents are typical of the belief in "filial piety under the stick".
Her mother, Wang Yaqiong, had a bad temper when Lin Xiaoxia was young, and when Lin Xiaoxia made mistakes when she was a child, her mother often whipped Lin Xiaoxia with a hanger.
Watching Lin Xiaoxia not go to work and lie at home all day, Wang Yaqiong began to slap Lin Xiaoxia like when she was a child.
As long as Lin Xiaoxia had nothing to do at home, Wang Yaqiong was about to scold Lin Xiaoxia.
Lin Xiaoxia's parents opened a northeast restaurant in Hongmeixi Village, and both parents have been working in the restaurant for a long time.
But as long as he returned home that day and saw that the hygiene at home had not been cleaned up, Wang Yaqiong would be furious.
Even if Lin Xiaoxia was already asleep, Wang Yaqiong still had to rush into Lin Xiaoxia's bedroom and let her clean up before going to sleep.
One day, Lin Xiaoxia was lying on the bed and was scolded by Wang Yaqiong again.
After the scolding, Wang Yaqiong pointed at Lin Xiaoxia and said, "You look like this to see who else wants!" It's better to go to the store and help than to stay at home! ”
After that, Wang Yaqiong did ask Lin Xiaoxia to go to the northeast restaurant at home to help.
The family's restaurant is a small business, and the people who come and go to eat are old and familiar customers.
Old regular customers saw that there were more people in the store to help, and they all asked whether the store was recruiting workers.
Wang Yaqiong always pointed at Lin Xiaoxia and hated iron and steel and said, "This is my daughter who is not an instrument, and no one wants it when she is almost thirty years old." ”
Not their own affairs always like to watch the lively arch fire, whenever Wang Yaqiong complains about her daughter, those old acquaintances must respond.
Some people who are about the same age as Wang Yaqiong will also lead their excellent children out and nag.
In contrast, Wang Yaqiong looked at Lin Xiaoxia more and more unpleasantly.
Lin Xiaoxia's every move in the hotel, Wang Yaqiong can pick out the thorn.
If Only Lin Xiaoxia was a snob temper would not matter, but Lin Xiaoxia was a violent temper.
Every time Wang Yaqiong disliked Lin Xiaoxia, Lin Xiaoxia had to go back.
How can Wang Yaqiong let her mother's position be provoked by her children, so Wang Yaqiong will always get started.
Sometimes I took off my shoes and chased Lin Xiaoxia with my shoes, and sometimes I grabbed the clothes rail and waved it at Lin Xiaoxia.
Lin Xiaoxia did not fight back, but she also did not admit her mistakes, she firmed her thoughts.
The more Wang Yaqiong hit, the more Lin Xiaoxia had to fight against Wang Yaqiong.
The most serious one, because Lin Xiaoxia was beaten too badly, the diners in the store also called the police.
The police and the neighborhood committee have come to Wang Yaqiong's home many times to regulate the relationship between mother and daughter.
The police also asked Wang Yaqiong to write a letter of guarantee that she would not do it.
But all of this was useless, and in a few days, Wang Yaqiong would quarrel with Lin Xiaoxia again.
"My brother bought a house, and the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper"
In the Spring Festival of 2019, Lin Xiaoxia's brother and girlfriend have been in love for two or three years, and the two have reached the point of talking about marriage.
During the Spring Festival, Lin Xiaoxia's younger brother wanted his parents to help buy a suite.
In the local area, it is very common for parents to buy a house or pay a down payment for their son, and Wang Yaqiong and his wife quickly agreed.
But Lin Xiaoxia was furious when she heard this.
When they live at home, their parents have to scold themselves for losing money, but they suddenly take out hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy a house for their brother, and their parents are willing.
The same children, why should they be treated differently?
Lin Xiaoxia disagreed, and she told her parents that if she bought a house for her brother, she would have to buy a set for herself.
The parents did not take Lin Xiaoxia's request seriously, they said to Lin Xiaoxia.
"If you want a house, you will get married quickly, and the man's parents will definitely buy a new house for their son."
Lin Xiaoxia argued that this was not the same meaning at all.
But Lin Xiaoxia's parents did not listen to Lin Xiaoxia's words, they felt that their daughter was thirty years old, and they were already benevolent and righteous in not driving her out of the house.
But Lin Xiaoxia seemed to be dead set on this matter.
She talks about buying a house every day, and her parents are annoyed by her.
Wang Yaqiong scolded Lin Xiaoxia: "If you didn't let you marry us to earn money, forget it!" You actually want a house now, don't even think about it! ”
The contradiction between mother and daughter became more and more noisy.
Wang Yaqiong's scolding of Lin Xiaoxia also gradually escalated.
"Daughter beaten with iron rods, mother arrested and taken to police station"
On September 8, 2019, Lin Xiaoxia clashed with her mother in the store because of her marriage and her brother's purchase of a house.
My mother was so angry that she had an iron rod nearly a meter long in the restaurant's basket.
Wang Yaqiong didn't even think about it, and immediately picked up the iron rod and threw it at Lin Xiaoxia.
In this process, it can be said that Lin Xiaoxia was beaten to the head and bleeding.
Lin Xiaoxia chose to call the police, and soon after, the police of the Tianning Branch of the Changzhou Municipal Public Security Bureau came to the scene.
I saw that Lin Xiaoxia's arm was already full of blood, and there were many beating wounds on her body.
Seeing that Lin Xiaoxia had called the police because of family affairs, Wang Yaqiong was very angry.
She directly picked up the iron rod and was about to beat Lin Xiaoxia in front of the police, and the police rushed to stop it.
After the police stopped Wang Yaqiong's behavior, Wang Yaqiong said: "I am her mother, and I am righteous to beat her." ”
Because of Wang Yaqiong's refusal to cooperate, the police took her to the Public Security Bureau.
The next day, Lin Xiaoxia also came to the public security for injury identification.
After forensic identification, Lin Xiaoxia had injuries all over her body, including large areas of bruises and small areas of broken skin, which was judged to be minor injuries.
And the mother, Wang Yaqiong, has been suspected of committing a crime.
Lin Xiaoxia said that she had been mentally and physically abused by her mother for a long time, and demanded that her mother compensate herself for 80,000 yuan in losses, otherwise she would not be reconciled.
Wang Yaqiong, who heard the news at the public security bureau, fainted several times.
She didn't know why she was just teaching her daughter a lesson, but she was facing criminal detention.
In the eyes of many parents, educating their children is the responsibility of parents, and stick education is also a matter of course.
As everyone knows, education should also be moderate, and once the harm is constituted, it faces crime.
Hitting one's own child is also a beating, which is also an illegal act, and the child can take the parents to court.
The Mainland had already passed the Domestic Violence Law in 2015.
For children who are still minors, the mainland has a Law on the Protection of Minors, which clearly prohibits domestic violence against minors.
There is also an article in the criminal law that is the crime of abuse, and it is also illegal to physically and mentally attack family members living together.
It is precisely because of Wang Yaqiong's ignorance that she was criminally detained!
"Family harmony depends on everyone in the family"
After Wang Yaqiong was detained, he received relevant legal education at the police department.
And Lin Xiaoxia's resentment towards her mother has gradually disappeared.
Finally, under the persuasion of her family, Lin Xiaoxia forgave her mother's behavior, and Wang Yaqiong, who stayed in the police station for a month, was released on bail pending trial.
After coming out, Wang Yaqiong no longer violently abused Lin Xiaoxia, but Lin Xiaoxia also became very disappointed in the family.
Now, Lin Xiaoxia has found a brand new job in Tianning District, and she has moved out of her home.
Although her parents are still urging Lin Xiaoxia to get married and have children, Lin Xiaoxia, who is outside, no longer argues with her parents.
She lived a free and solitary life.
The mother-daughter relationship has become a police station, which is really regrettable.
It is very common for children to make mistakes, but mistakes cannot be made like Wang Yaqiong punches and kicks at her daughter.
Scolding alone will only make the child's harm bigger and bigger.
Maybe Wang Yaqiong chose to talk calmly with the child at the beginning, and things will not develop into what they are now.
And the daughter's choice is not rational, she should find a way to actively communicate with the mother, rather than intensifying the contradiction between mother and daughter.
Only with the efforts of both parties can a harmonious family relationship exist in the home for a long time.
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