Do social work for children in distress this year's reflection summary

I have been working on the Social Work Service For Children in Distress for nearly a year, and I have benefited a lot in the process, which has also triggered some of my thinking.

1. The experiences between the two generations will be similar

In the process of doing case service, there is a more interesting phenomenon: some children's experiences are very similar to the experiences of one of their parents.

It is reasonable to say that the predecessors will use their own experience to avoid the past after stepping on the pit, but some children's experiences are cleverly similar to the parents' growth experience.

There was once a case of three, because of the violence suffered from school violence and domestic violence, ran away from home, and wandered into some places where minors were prohibited from entering.

Her mother, on the other hand, gave birth to her under the age of eighteen, neglected to take care of her children because she was still young and often played outside, and finally left the home after deepening her conflict with her father.

It is reasonable to say that based on the mother's experience, his father should try to avoid it when raising him, but it seems to be developing in the direction of playfulness and leaving home.

When we were thinking about why this kind of similarity occurred, one possibility was that, for example, I learned to smoke at the age of fourteen, and I would feel that this was a very critical time node, and when my child was fourteen, I might take some actions to try to prevent him from learning to smoke, but it was such a move that would make him rebel and learn to smoke like I did.

2. Can the negative impact of the family be changed by itself?

When doing cases of children in distress, it is found that children in distress are greatly affected by families, some children in distress are single-parent families and some are families raised from generations, to a certain extent, there is a problem of improper guardianship, and children grow up or neglect to take care of lack of companionship or suffer from scolding education.

When I was discussing this with my friend, she said that everyone treats the outside world differently, some people are rebellious and some people are compliant.

People who rebel will think that changing themselves can escape, so they become different from their past selves; while those who conform, the more they will want to pursue something, and some people will be hurt by their original families, but they will be more dependent and fall into a dead cycle.

People who choose to conform, emotions that they can't find in their original families, may also be projected onto others in the future, like empathy.

3. Empathy: People project past emotions onto others

Empathy is when one party projects emotions from past lives towards certain important people onto the other. Once, there was a case owner whose family instilled in him the idea that he had been abandoned since he was a child, constantly accusing him, and that his classmates and family had treated him with violence.

He needs the company and support of others very much, in order to be able to mix with people in society, smoking, tattooing, drinking alcohol, but only for a short period of companionship.

What he wants to get in this kind of pandering is probably that his family does not give him companionship and support, and then he projects these emotions onto other people.

Many people unconsciously project certain emotions onto others, thinking that they can get salvation, but most of the time it brings harm.

After doing the work of children in difficulty, it will feel that it is a very difficult thing for a child to grow up in a healthy and stable environment, and human change requires opportunities and is a long process.

Will the future get better and better? I like a passage that Yu Hua said: When I was a child, looking at this sea, it was yellow, but the textbook said that the sea was blue, and I used to swim here when I was a child, and one day I wanted to swim all the time, until the sea turned blue.

I believe that the future will be better.

Author: Xiao Zhang

Unit: Chongqing Jiulongpo District Yixin Social Work Service Center