If you look at the Marriage Law, you will see that the law protects property, and the word "love" cannot be found.
Some netizens commented: Why is it not called the Property Law?
In fact, this is more like the Company Law, where two natural persons form a partnership.
But if the company is really good, unilaterally tearing up the contract may also need compensation, and the marriage does not even have compensation, and it is not good to need to paste upside down.
So, does marriage have love in the end?
If you open a company, you don't need a partnership if you have money, in any case, the feelings between the real company partners are not the same, and the component of interests accounts for a larger proportion.
And the marriage partners, the mutual benefit and interests of feelings are mixed together, most of the marital feelings account for a large proportion of it, or mixed in half, so that it is not easy to imbalance.
There are gains and losses, and what you see is more important.
Don't want to lose, just want to get, don't want to give, just want to gain, is there such a cheap thing under the sky?
Whether men and women, whether it is love or flesh and blood affection, only in the consideration of money and property or other issues of gain and loss, in fact, life will be more sad!
Maybe it has nothing to do with gains and losses, people don't need feelings at all.
In fact, any metaphor has its lameness!
The metaphor only looks at the similarities between the two in one aspect, not on everything, and your understanding is biased.
The company does not need everyone to share a bed, the company is not related to fertility genetics, the company does not solve your personal physiological problems, and the company has no obligation to soothe your spirit.
There is also one of the greatest values in marriage, which is emotional value, and people who cannot provide emotional value cannot be happy in marriage.
Charlotte read a sentence in her article:
Marriage is the harbor of life, the partner is our closest person, we want to let the marriage retain the original fragrance, we must continue to add ingredients to the dish of marriage, and carefully manage it. But how many people can really do it.
Let's take a look at one of the following cases:
My husband and I are related because of love, but when we talk about marriage, there is really no trace of love, more like a negotiation.
My parents told me not to worry about it, and that the rest of your life would be the two of you.
The reality is not like that, our lives are inseparable from his parents, just like many families, full of games everywhere, and couples no longer talk about love.
Over the years, none of us have changed, just adapted, accepted or compromised.
Although the days lived peacefully, there was no passion for love at the beginning, only chai rice oil and salt. Now every day is very ordinary, without any passion.
Marriage and love are two different things, and love is two people falling in love. Marriage is a large group of people living together.
1, the essence of marriage lies in the management
The essence of marriage is to operate, not to take, the premise is that the three views are consistent, and love alone cannot resist the dilemma from all directions.
But two people can support each other, grow, in each difficult situation, can be firm and brave to fight, these derivative responsibilities and responsibilities will be the guarantee of marriage for a lifetime.
A good marriage, happy and happy, bystanders will also feel envious, bad marriage will become a prison of life imprisonment, you will bear the cause and effect of the entire negative magnetic field, and you will be suspicious all the time.
Both husband and wife grow and operate together, so that there is a better marriage.
2, marriage is a connotation
Love is very simple, real love is not afraid to talk about money, talking about money hurts the feelings of love is not love, love is a kind of pay, is voluntary to pay, unwilling to pay love at most counts as mutual appreciation.
And marriage contains love, love can not contain marriage, love transcends life and returns to life, in the form of marriage for love to find belonging, this marriage is happy, will not be affected by two families.
Love is the only one, and marriage is not the only one, otherwise there would be no second marriage, three marriages, and so on.
Marriage is a kind of cooperation, and marriage is not just a marriage of two people, but the cooperation of two families.
Since it is cooperation, mutual benefit is fundamental, tolerance is the secret of marriage maintenance, understanding is the umbrella of marital feelings, all of which require both parties to work hard to complete, in order to have a happy marriage and family.
3. The essence of marriage is a self-cultivation
No one is better, and only the foot knows if the shoe fits properly.
What others say is not important, what is important is that after the vicissitudes of life, people who can still walk hand in hand are worth having for a lifetime.
In this relationship, you have to learn how to grow, how to become a better self, marriage is just a state of life, is the opportunity to improve yourself more in life, everything learns to seek inward.
In fact, when we think that the other person has a problem, we also need to learn to ask ourselves to see what the problem of the self is.
The faster we progress, the more we feel that there are fewer people to blame, and naturally we will become more accessible and transparent in our feelings.
Conclusion: True feelings are a practice, the more you know how to cultivate yourself, your harmony and wisdom will also make each other better and better, which is the essence of marriage.
Understanding is the umbrella of marital feelings, all of which require the efforts of both parties to complete in order to have a happy marriage and family.
I'm Chongyang, we'll see you next time.
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