During the epidemic in Xuchang, Henan Province, the daily workload of epidemic prevention workers was huge, but they could only rely on eating instant noodles and bread to fill their hunger.
As a volunteer, Zhang Yonghong and her husband saw the situation and felt that it was too bad for their health, so they proposed to cook for the epidemic prevention personnel.
Zhang Yonghong and her husband have to cook three meals a day for more than 300 epidemic prevention personnel every day, and their 12-year-old son also offered to help cook and deliver dishes together.
The 12-year-old follows his parents to cook for the epidemic prevention personnel: reliable family education is to teach children kindness - Shanbo education
Parents take the initiative to help others, and the kind behavior has taught this child a valuable lesson in life, and it will lead the teenager's future to a better future.
The famous psychologist Hao Bin once said: "Family education is the foundation and starting point of the entire education of life. ”
Parents' education of their children is in every word and deed, which is the education that has the deepest impact on their children's lives.
First, why teach children to be kind
The famous Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky once said: "Good feelings are fertile soil for good behavior."
Children are the heart of parents, many parents will be obedient to their children, give them unlimited care and love, but neglect to cultivate children's emotional ability to love their parents and others.
As a result, more and more education experts are calling for the ability to be kind to children.
What is the power of kindness? It is humility, tolerance, patience, convenience, these are the abilities of kindness.
Today I brushed a video and was attracted by the title: "In today's society, many adults are not as good as a child." ”
It turned out that the father had picked up the little girl from the cram school, and the mother let the little girl go in and wait for her, and as a result, the little girl had been standing in the doorway and dragging the doorknob, pushing the door open with her body and waiting for something.
Dad also wondered what was wrong with her delay in getting in.
After waiting for a while, I saw a master who delivered water carry two large buckets of water in, and then the little girl slowly closed the door and went in to wait for her mother.
Of course, the water delivery master also expressed deep gratitude to the little girl, and the little girl responded happily: "Uncle, no thanks!" ”
Convenient for others, from the children of several years old are vividly reflected, such a warm act of kindness deserves thunderous applause.
When another 7-year-old boy threw away the garbage, with the help of his mother, he put a piece of paper on the garbage can: "Aunt Cleaning, there is a cup that I accidentally broke, be careful not to scratch your hand, sorry, it caused you trouble."
Small gestures, really heart-warming.
Reflect on yourself, how do you dispose of broken objects?
You teach your child to be kind, and life will make him slowly learn to be kind in reality.
You teach your child reality, but no one teaches him to be kind.
Children's character needs to be accumulated over time to develop, if parents do not have the correct guidance and neglect to discipline when the child is young, then it will become difficult for them to change when they grow up in the future.
Second, children have a kind heart and a broader life
One netizen concluded: Despicable people strive to master the despicable, and good people strive to create value.
A song-calling man in Zhihu shared a fairy tale fable called "The Kind Little Rabbit and the Cunning Little Fox".
It is about a vast prairie where the little rabbit and the little fox have grown up and are about to start wandering the world alone.
Before leaving, the two mothers were packing their children's luggage while instructing their children on the principles of being human.
The mother rabbit said to the little rabbit: "Child, the outside world is very complicated, there are good people and bad people. But Mom wants to be a good person and be friends with good people. You have to insist on being kind, and being kind is about treating every new friend like a good person and trying to help him share it with him. If you have difficulties, remember that your mother will support you. ”
The mother fox instructed the little fox, "Baby, the outside world is very complicated, there are good people and bad people.
But mom hopes that you will be a realistic person, don't easily trust anyone, and learn to fight for your own greatest interests in everything. ”
A few years later, the little rabbit relied on himself through his own efforts, and because of his kindness, he helped many people, and also because of the kindness of others, he lived a full and happy life every day, and grew into a tall and handsome big rabbit.
The little fox, because of his good food and laziness, shrewd calculations, and deception, let himself spend every day in fear, he did not dare to settle, he was upside down, he had no ability to support himself, his body became dry and gray, and only sluggishness and numbness remained in his eyes.
Having evil thoughts in your heart will make the path of life narrower and narrower.
Having goodness in your heart will make the path of life wider and wider.
Walter, the director of the classic Brazilian film "Central Station", met a shoe shine boy at the station who was very similar to the protagonist he was looking for, so he asked the little boy to go to the studio to find him.
Who knows, the next day the little boy brought many children who shined shoes like him, and several of them were more clever than him.
But the director chose him because he has a good quality, and the child in the movie is also a kind child.
The film was a huge success, and a shoe-polishing child began his brilliant life.
All the surprises and good fortune in the world are the character and kindness you have accumulated.
How far a man can go is determined not by his legs, but by his kindness.
Third, how can parents guide their children to be kind
Be human, don't lose your kindness;
The world can be chaotic, but the heart cannot be dirty.
Almost all of the conduct of children before adulthood comes from homeschooling.
Parents are a child's first teacher and can guide their child to establish correct conduct in the following ways.
1. Parents do a good job of demonstration, children will imitate
We want our children to be kind, first of all, we should be kind, especially in front of the children, we should do a good job.
Faye Wong and Li Yapeng's beloved daughter Li Yan was born with rabbit lips, a disease that made them feel helpless as parents like never before.
So they created the Yanran Angel Foundation, which can help Li Yan while also helping some children who have suffered the same situation.
For more than ten years, Li Yapeng and Faye Wong have taken Li Yan to do public welfare together.
In "Readers", Dong Qing asked Li Yapeng: "As long as Yan'er has an interest, will you teach by example?" ”
Li Yapeng replied: "Because education is to teach by example, when you do something seriously, children will naturally imitate it." When children are young, it is actually worthless to tell big truths, because the ability to understand and self-discipline is limited, but children are born with the ability to imitate. ”
Parents are "originals" and children are "copies", never underestimate the power of words and deeds.
2. Tell more kind stories to your children
Tell more kind stories to children, sincere and kind to people will definitely get good returns, on the contrary, there may be bad consequences.
Chen Yanxi once posted pictures of two fairy tale books told to her son Xingxing on social platforms, which attracted the curiosity of fans.
It turned out that Chen Yanxi would read the story to her son every day, and Xingxing asked her: "No matter who encounters difficulties, we must help him, what does it mean?" ”
Chen Yanxi gave the answer: "Born to be human, you must be kind and listen to your mother."
It can be seen from here that as a mother, Chen Yanxi expects her son to become a kind person when he grows up.
It is a blessing for parents to take the time to accompany their children and sow the seeds of goodness in their children's hearts through storytelling.
3. Take your child to do good deeds, so that children can experience the feeling of being kind to others
In the process of helping children to do things, explain the reason to the children, and the children can understand the benefits of kindness.
Huo Qigang and Guo Jingjing are also well-known couples who do charity, not only do they do it themselves, but they also don't forget to bring their 4-year-old son with them.
Once, Guo Jingjing, as an ambassador for the event, helped the Tin Shui Wai Women's Federation sell flags and raise funds in Kwai Fong.
It's especially meaningful for the whole family to come together.
The 4-year-old son was a little shy at first, but then under the guidance of his parents, he let go, and the family was very happy to help others.
Children have heard about good deeds around their parents since childhood, and parents help their children to practice good deeds, and children will become an upright and kind person in the future.
Kindness is virtue.
Kindness is a lesson that children must work hard to complete throughout their lives, parents should not only teach children to be kind, but also to show their children a kind side, so that children can gradually have the precious character of kindness with the help of their parents, which will be the wealth of children's lives.
Author┃ Fu Rong
Edit┃丄學号
Source ┃ Shanbo Education - Focus on parenting education