The opposite sex attracts, which almost all men and women know. But how many people can really keep a distance and draw a clear line in the interaction?
There are often some men and women, in the name of friendship, who have acted excessively, but have comforted their partners - we are just friends, the cleaners are self-purifying, you will understand. But is that really the case?
In the hit drama "Perfect Partner", Chen Shan issued a spiritual question to the old Gongsun Lei: "Wu Min will talk to you as soon as there is something; he will not return home at night when he runs away from home, the address is not sent to her husband but sent to you; her husband has hired a senior nanny, the child does not follow the nanny but only goes with you; Wu Min's menstrual period, you make brown sugar water for her..."
However, Sun Lei said that "she and I are just ordinary friends" and asked Chen Shan not to be too careful.
Whoever it is, I'm afraid, can't be less careful. Obviously they are all married, but they obviously cross the line when they get along with the opposite sex, this is not ambiguous and what is it?
Wu Min and Sun Lei not only did this, but also contacted each other before going to bed and said goodnight to each other. Although the entrusted matter is irrelevant, it is indeed inappropriate in cases where both partners already have partners.
Even if friends of the opposite sex know each other more deeply and have a closer relationship than others, but both sides have families, and the behavior of the two has caused strong discomfort and suspicion from each other's partners, which can only mean one problem, they have crossed the line.
Do friends of the opposite sex keep their distance? The answer is inevitable.
Although everyone has their own right to make friends and have their own way of interacting with friends, when your dealings with friends of the opposite sex have become a contradiction in marriage, you have to seriously consider it.
Do you choose marriage, or do you choose friends of the opposite sex? This is a very real problem.
Although from Sun Lei's point of view, his concern for Wu Min is indeed very simple, but Wu Min has felt warm about Sun Lei's concern because he has been snubbed by her husband Lin Qingkun for a long time, and obviously has a good feeling and psychological dependence.
In this way, in the long run, the friendship between them will inevitably undergo qualitative changes. Even if Sun Lei insists on his position, there are too many misunderstandings and contradictions in the marriage, and it is difficult to guarantee that he will always maintain his sanity.
And once this friendship crosses the line, it will eventually lead to the rupture of two families, and I am afraid that no one wants to see the end.
Married friends of the opposite sex come late, and the degree in between is actually very sensitive, and after a little, it may not be possible to control the direction of the development of the situation.
In particular, one party often depends on the other party, and often chats until late, and it is difficult not to do something.
Psychologists divide friendships between the opposite sex into three categories:
First, platonic friendship, the two do not want anything other than friendship, so the two can always maintain a pure friendship;
Second, one person likes the other, and the other party is not interested in it, so if the two want to establish contact, they can only use friendship to maintain;
Third, the two have a good feeling for each other, but they cannot be together for various reasons, or one or both of them are married, so they get along as friends.
However, in these three categories, except for the first type, which is unlikely to develop into love, the other two may undergo qualitative changes in the process of frequent contact.
In fact, love is the same.
Most people are from the initial good feelings, mutual friendship, further sublimated into love.
Therefore, when friends of the opposite sex interact with each other, if they are not constrained by the ideas of both parties and the environment and other factors, they are likely to develop into the stage of love.
So this is also the most important reason why heterosexual friendships are more sensitive, for married people, it is difficult for partners not to be suspicious based on specific events and the frequency of their interactions.
No matter how pure the friendship, no matter how innocent the relationship, if you do not distance yourself from each other, the final development of events may be different from what you expected.
Is there pure friendship between men and women? To put it bluntly, it is based on the time, place, and people and the results.
In the TV series "Perfect Partner", the contact between Sun Lei and Wu Min not only makes Chen Shan doubt their relationship, but Wu Min's husband Lin Qingkun will also contact Chen Shan to confirm whether they are together.
The development between husband and wife has reached this point, and it has to be said that it is really sad.
Although partners can have friends of the opposite sex, after all, this era has long been not a woman who must be confined to the family, must be isolated from foreign men, but if the partner and the opposite sex friends are closely related, it is very normal to suspect.
Is it a simple friendship or an ambiguous relationship? If it is ambiguous, how to deal with it?
In this case, in fact, the partner cannot be separated from the relationship.
Why does the person who sleeps with you have something in his heart that is not right for you to say to the closest of you, but will tell friends of the opposite sex? This is actually a red flag for marriage.
Is it that you ignore the communication between husband and wife, so that the other party can't brush the sense of existence in the marriage, so you will focus on friends of the opposite sex outside the marriage?
I hope that everyone who is in a marriage and encounters such a situation will reflect well.
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