Hot topic: Should you keep your distance from the opposite sex after marriage?

With the popularity of "Perfect Partner", the plot's problems about feelings and family seem to be a true portrayal of reality.

Chen Shan, played by Gao Yuanyuan, is a gold-medal lawyer who establishes the image of a strong woman. And Sun Lei, played by Zhang Luyi, takes good care of Chen Shan, the family and children, and acts as Chen Shan's strongest back.

Lin Qingkun, played by Wang Yaoqing, is a workaholic whose time is filled with work and leaves little time for the family and children. Wu Min, played by Wang Zhen'er, chose to give up herself because of love when she was young, and only found that she had completely become an appendage of Lin Qingkun in middle age.

Two families, there are all kinds of contradictions and conflicts, each carrying all kinds of pressure and pain.

Then, with the direction of the plot, Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun became the best partners because of their work, and Sun Lei and Wu Min frequently interacted because of trivial matters in life.

With the emergence of various voices on the Internet, whether you should keep a distance from the opposite sex after marriage is also a problem in reality.

As the plot progressed, netizens expressed their opinions, but most netizens agreed to keep their distance.

A netizen said this: "Not only after marriage, at any time we must pay attention to grasping the distance between us and the opposite sex." If there is no love, not paying attention to grasping the measure is easy to cause unnecessary misunderstandings, if there is an object, do not keep a distance from the opposite sex will be prone to a third party. Not to mention that after marriage, keeping distance is respect for each other. ”

Yes, keeping a proper distance from the opposite sex is a respect for the partner, but also a protection for each other.

If you want to say, do not interact with the opposite sex, this is too unrealistic, but communication should pay attention to maintaining an appropriate distance.

In the play, Wu Min is familiar with Sun Lei, so the first time he encounters something, he calls Sun Lei for help. Sun Lei is also warm-hearted and often helps her.

But Sun Lei's reliability and Wu Min's dependence are also more likely to breed misunderstandings. Although they only interact normally with each other, they also give room for misunderstandings to breed.

I have seen the saying in a book: "A moderate distance is the most beautiful relationship."

It is true that each other is a person with a sense of proportion, maintaining a moderate distance, and bringing about a purer and better relationship.

Just the right distance can also bring more security to the partner.

When it comes to the word "security," in addition to self-giving, it also comes from the other person.

Wang Ziwen said in "Half-Acquaintance Lover": "Any relationship starts with an insecurity, and after full understanding, there will be a sense of security on this basis."

In the play, Chen Shan and Sun Lei have known each other for more than 20 years, and have deep feelings and understanding of each other, even if there is a misunderstanding, it is easy to resolve their contradictions because they believe in each other.

On the other hand, Lin Qingkun and Wu Min, because Lin Qingkun gave Wu Min little companionship and did not bring warmth to the family, when his son was poisoned, Wu Min could not contact him, obviously, he did not bring Wu Min a sense of dependence and security.

It is precisely for this reason that the two do not give each other enough trust, because a small misunderstanding can easily breed a big contradiction.

I know that the last netizen shared his emotional experience, his relationship with his wife began from the student era, and finally entered the marriage. At first, it was like glue, but later the feelings became more and more flat.

He had a new intern at his company, a girl who was very beautiful, who often asked him questions, and he helped her carefully every time. When he came and went, the girl would bring him lunch and give him small gifts, and the relationship between the two became ambiguous.

Later, the relationship affected the marriage and was eventually discovered by the wife. He regretted it after the divorce, but there was no regret medicine in the world.

Through the experience of netizens, I saw that the state of a healthy relationship is to pay attention to proportions and keep distance. Such a healthy relationship is good for the opposite sex, the lover and yourself.

I've seen a quote on the Internet: "Polite distance, you have no obligation to be nice to everyone."

It is like this, you have no obligation to help colleagues of the opposite sex, do not need to send her home on a rainy day, do not need to have a private relationship with her, be a person who is not easy to get along with, and leave a unique warmth to your lover, which is a rare and valuable thing.

For girls, you are not obliged to invite private dinners of the opposite sex, there is no need to accept intimate gifts from the opposite sex, and the care you get should come from your lover.

In front of the opposite sex, although you have established a difficult and cold persona, as long as your lover knows your true face, it is enough.

Baby Anne once said in "The Golden Age": "The easiest way to solve it is to keep your distance and always keep your distance."

I believe that the best applicable scenario of this sentence is how to get along with other people of the opposite sex when you have a relationship.

Sun Lei in the play does not do a good job in this regard, because in reality, it is difficult for anyone to really apply this sentence so cleanly and neatly.

But I really have such a colleague around me, who is jokingly called "model boyfriend" by people around me.

He has a girlfriend who has been in a relationship for five years, and in addition to being gentle with his girlfriend, he is very estranged from the rest of the girls. Will not add unnecessary WeChat of the opposite sex, will not send ambiguous signals to the opposite sex, and will decisively refuse in the face of the good feelings of the opposite sex.

He gave his girlfriend a sense of security, so that the girlfriend would not worry even if she was in a different place, so their relationship has always been very stable.

His "long distance" not only does not limit his interpersonal communication, but also makes people admire and respect.

So, "Should you keep your distance from the opposite sex after marriage?" This should not be a question sentence, but an affirmative sentence.