Wen | Generation Lianhua
In the hit drama "Perfect Partner", Wu Min, a married woman, has a disagreement with her expensive husband. Her husband is career-oriented, and Wu Min hopes that her husband will take more time to accompany herself and her son.
Because all kinds of things were entangled together, Wu Min had troubles.
Therefore, as long as Wu Min has something, the first time is to find the same married man Sun Lei, not to find his husband, nor to find his friends or family.
Sun Lei, who is also married, seems to be very keen to help Wu Min.
Two married men and women who claim to be friends with each other. However, their interaction caused dissatisfaction among the other half of both sides, so there were many misunderstandings.
Should I distance myself from the opposite sex when I am married?
The so-called married is not only proof of marriage, but also indicates that there are boundaries in dealing with the opposite sex.
How many extramarital relationships, the cause is to communicate as friends, and then ambiguously entangled with each other, resulting in the family finally falling apart.
Married men and women interact, the most taboo is that there is no sense of boundaries.
If there is no boundary between interaction, it will cross the line, and the consequence of crossing the boundary is that the relationship between men and women is chaotic and the family relationship is unstable.
If there are boundaries in the relationship, each other is clear and clear, there will be no ambiguity, and there will be no impact on the family.
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Some time ago, actor Zhang Danfeng was ridiculed by the group for live selling goods.
Zhang Danfeng is a good actor, and his role in the TV series "Flowers and Bones" has attracted attention. Previously, the road to acting was relatively smooth.
After all, as an actor, there is a good look and acting skills, and there will be achievements in time.
However, as a married Zhang Danfeng, he and his female agent did not control the boundaries in the interaction, resulting in being photographed.
The cause of the incident was that when she returned to the hotel after work, the female agent in pajamas walked into Zhang Danfeng's room late at night and spent three hours together.
After being secretly photographed, the photos flow out. Although Zhang Danfeng strenuously denied it, he still could not save his reputation.
This is also the reason why he was ridiculed by the crowd during the live broadcast.
The same thing happened between Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei. Liu Kaiwei, who returned to the hotel late at night, shared a room with an actress and turned off the lights.
Later, a statement was issued to explain that each other was reading the script, and the result was ridiculed by the netizen group as a luminous script.
Yang Mi refused to endure and decisively divorced.
The philosopher Zhou Guoping said: All exchanges have an insurmountable final boundary. Between two people, this boundary is unclear, yet it is certain. All troubles and conflicts arise from the inadvertent attempt to break through this line.
Therefore, married men and women should no longer say that they are friends, and the prelude to communication is ambiguous, essentially trying to break through this boundary.
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The most taboo thing about the interaction between men and women is that there is no boundary, especially married men and women, and they should maintain a distance from the opposite sex.
If you don't keep your distance, then a little inattention will cross the line. At the same time, there are also some people who subconsciously have the idea of crossing the line, but in the name of making friends.
Knowingly, there is a blogger who tells his story.
Her home is far from the company and she often takes the bus. Later, a male colleague moved to the neighborhood where she lived, saw that she often took the bus, and invited her to take his private car.
She refused, the result of the male colleague said, anyway, there are empty seats on the car, back and forth is also empty running, you take my car is just by the way, if you feel too careless not to go, every month to make up for me some oil money.
After thinking about it, she agreed. Anyway, I didn't take advantage of him, take the car along the way and then replenish the fuel money, take the bus to spend money is too crowded, so it is the best of both worlds.
Male colleagues drive her in a car, and every day when they go back and forth on the road, they will chat one after another, and as they talk, she will find that the taste has changed.
Male colleagues first touched her consciously or unconsciously, helped her fasten her seat belt, brought her small snacks, and invited her to go out on weekends.
She finally realized that she wasn't just in the wrong car, she was just on the wrong nerves.
Men and women, especially married men and women, get too close, and it is a disaster to develop, a disaster that can destroy two families.
She resolutely abandoned the bus and took the bus instead. As a result, when the male colleague saw her again, it was like seeing an enemy.
There must be boundaries between married men and women. Once the boundaries between men and women are clear and recognizable, and they consciously abide by them, then the interaction between men and women loses the so-called charm, and ambiguity does not exist. Since then, there has been no emotional mixing, just sanity in the world.
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Any interaction, whether it is family affection, friendship, love, try to maintain a distance, especially the friendship between married men and women, for the stability of each other's family, or have a sense of boundaries.
Married men and women interact, and some really don't have any thoughts of non-division. However, people are emotional animals, and over time they will eventually have feelings, and they do not know what to do, but they will want to be together.
After all, human desires are endless,
Some people who wander on the edge of ambiguity, from the beginning with purposefulness, in the name of friendship, take the opportunity to break through boundaries, have no sense of family responsibility, and abandon ethics and morality.
Therefore, there must be boundaries in the interaction between men and women
How do you keep boundaries? What are the boundaries?
There is a psychologist who actually limits the distance when interacting with people.
The public distance is between individuals and strangers and should be 3,5 meters to 7.5 meters.
Social distance is openly related, 1.2 meters to 3.5 meters.
The personal distance is 0.4 meters to 1.2 meters between friends.
The intimate distance is about parents and children, and the couple is 0 to 0.5 meters.
After reading these sets of data, do you feel super embarrassed, people interact or meet each other, and they will not measure it with a leather ruler in their hands every day.
In fact, it is not difficult to grasp the boundaries. Especially for married men and women, always remember that what can be brought to the table is a normal relationship. Everything that is done in private has an ulterior motive.
That's all.