Recently, a mom consulted me backstage. She said that her daughter Miao Miao, because she could not do without herself, is now almost four years old and has not yet gone to kindergarten. For example, every time he took Miao Miao to meet strangers. In the environment you are used to, you always habitually hold Mom and Dad when you play with toys with other children. Mom and Dad must be by your side. Even if you eat in a familiar place, you always want adults to come. Hey, once my mother took Miao Miao to a neighbor's house to play. After going out to answer the phone, she anxiously followed her. She was afraid that her mother would leave her. She also knew that she should send her daughter to kindergarten and let her children follow her. Others speak.
I can't stick to myself all the time, but in this case, the child can't do without himself. He didn't know why his daughter was like this, so he came to meow like meow to ask for my opinion, and I didn't want my parents to leave my sight. I want my parents to always be there for them. For children who like to cling to their parents, it is actually a sign of insecurity. Children who are usually insecure are more independent, confident, and able to get along well with others. It is also easier to feel happy together, while children who lack childhood or insecurity are prone to inferiority, suspiciousness, and poor relationships with people. Well, in the eyes of parents, some of the child's unreasonable behavior is partly out of a sense of security. , in trouble.
As parents, are we insecure because we didn't detect some of our children's abnormal behaviors in time? Parents must pay attention to the following types of children's insecurities. First of all, they are very fragile inside and tend to withdraw when they encounter things. A child full of security, dare to trial and error and adjust. They know that their parents and family are always strong. With the support of your child, you will always encourage and support yourself. Will this kind of love give the child unlimited confidence? The courage and strength to try and explore. Even if they encounter setbacks, they will bravely move forward and face them together. Insecure children always dare to challenge themselves and want to give up when they encounter difficulties, because they have never got it. Love is enough, there is no experience of recognition and affirmation, so it often suffers from gains and losses, but let yourself lose.
The love of parents, they feel that once they make a mistake, once they fail, they will be rejected by those around them. When they encounter difficult challenges, it is easy for them to back down and give up. Second, the child's personality appears polarized and insecure Children are also prone to moody and polarized behavior. When these children face uncontrollable or undetermined myopia, their tempers become weird. For example, a child will behave well in the face of a parent leaving. When parents come back to their children, they get angry and dissatisfied. This is because insecure children care about the importance of others, making them feel neglected and emotionally susceptible. Fluctuations, here parents need to pay attention to the child.
This kind of personality and performance is not easy to get along with, and the extreme personality will only damage their future friendships and social interactions. Therefore, when parents find that their children have some unsafe behaviors, they must establish communication with their children in time, guide them correctly, and create a safe and happy growth environment for their children.
