Foreword: Filial piety has always been a traditionalization in China, no matter how the times change, "filial piety" is what every child should do. However, with the continuous development of the times, there has been a group - "nibbling on the old people", this group has been criticized by netizens, but now more excessive than the "nibbling the old people" is the "new filial piety".
Many families have children since they have young couples, and many children are cared for by the elderly because of their work. Although the so-called generation-skipping parents can make the elderly happier and help their children reduce their burdens, there is also a new phenomenon: a new type of filial piety.
First, the old man helps to take care of the grandson, but he is disliked
Miao Miao is a post-90s generation, even if she has a family and children, she still lives as smoothly as ever. Because after giving birth to the child, the mother came to Miao Miao's house and began to help with the child, after all, the mother also knows the character of her daughter, and when she was not married before, she basically did not do housework, let alone bring the child.
At first, the mother took care of the baby every day, and Miao Miao and her husband went to work. The mother felt sorry for her daughters and offered to make breakfast for them every morning. Then when the child finally fell asleep, the mother, who could have rested for a while, used this time to do housework, and every day was very hard, but the mother never complained.
Miao Miao came home from work, and rarely took the child, occasionally let her rest for a while with the child, but also let the child cry, Miao Miao is a very complaining person, think the child is too annoying, quickly take the mother away.
One day, because her mother was not very comfortable, so she got up late in the morning and did not have time to make breakfast, Miao Miao got up, saw that her mother did not cook, and complained about her mother when she was almost late for work, while saying that she slammed the door and left.
Hearing her daughter's words, her mother cried very sadly, she was actually very tired, but she still insisted on it for her daughter, but in exchange for her daughter's treatment. However, all this is caused by their own indulgence in their children.
Second, a kind of "new type of filial piety" hurts parents' hearts even more than nibbling on the old people
1. Ignore parents and disrespect them
Some children treat their parents as if they were servants who obeyed their parents' orders. They grew up and treated their parents like servants, which made them feel very cold. However, from the child's point of view, it is normal not to think about anything.
2. Gratitude
Whoever says anything will repay the three Chunhui! The kindness of parents is not rewarded, but many children do not know how to be grateful, thinking that their parents deserve everything for themselves, a little mistake, but also extremely harsh, and even insult their parents, and their hearts are broken!
3. Just ask for it
Some young people are lazy and only pursue their own happiness. If the work does not go well, they will quit, they also feel that their parents will not watch them without food, they will ask their parents for money to meet their needs, and "use" their parents at any cost.
The shortcomings are so serious for this new form of filial piety that they can destroy a generation.
Third, what will be the impact of the "new type of filial piety"
1. Let the elderly suffer physical and mental harm
Parents generally give everything to their children, while taking care of grandchildren, but also pay attention to the child's diet and daily life, which may be very hard. But all this can not be understood and appreciated by children, which will make the elderly physically and mentally exhausted, and the inner hurt is even greater.
2. Transmit bad thoughts to the child
Parents should lead by example, and if they don't care about the elderly and just blindly ask and complain, then the next generation will remember what their parents did to the elderly, and when they grow up, they will reciprocate their parents in the same way.
3. Read books, do not read dead books, but read the right books
The elderly often say that "knowledge can change fate", so many people are willing to let their children read as much as possible, and it will be easier to find a job in the future, but the situation may not be entirely the case, and many filial piety people are killed by reading dead books. We read books to increase knowledge, improve personal literacy, and find the right position, so parents can have certain interventions in this aspect of reading, so that children can choose the right way to read.
Summary: "Filial piety comes first", China's family concept has been very heavy since ancient times, we have put an end to the "foolish filial piety" of parents' obedience, and also prevented parents from going to the city to live a good life under the banner of this "new filial piety". Parents raised us without the hard work and hard work of their youth, without the opportunity to see a world so open and diverse, and that parental support is not only a legal obligation for adult children, but also the moral bottom line for every child.