Sanmao said that the more he reads, the more his face changes naturally, and many times, he thinks that the books he has read have become a cloud of smoke and smoke, and they will no longer remember, but in fact, they are still potential. In temperament, in conversation, in the endlessness of the mind, of course, it may also be revealed in life and words.
When women reach middle age, they must not only face the complexity of interpersonal relationships in the workplace, but also face the pressure of having children and raising children in the family. They are not like men, there is a courageous side of the personality, it is easier to get entangled in some trivial things, become suffering from gain and loss, and lose happiness.
And women who like to read will know better what they need in the vast world, will not be because of the loss of red face and grumpy, pay attention to the growth of the soul, do not compare, do not blindly follow, endure loneliness, can keep the heart, life is often happier.
Here, I want to talk about two women I have met. That year, my mother-in-law was hospitalized, and I accompanied her in the hospital. There were three beds in one ward, and the other two were, one was an old man in his seventies, accompanied by his wife. In the other bed lived an old man from the suburban county, less than sixty years old, and his wife was also with him. The condition of both patients is not much different.
As we chatted together, the seventy-something man lying in bed complained about his family. He had two children, one in the field and the other in the city. Because he was sick, he had to be admitted to the hospital two or three times a year, and each time, only the children of the city drove him to the hospital, and when he was discharged, he was picked up again. Usually, it was his wife who took care of him.
He was angry that the two children not only did not usually take care of him, but every time they were hospitalized, they did not ask him if he needed money, lamenting that now people want children to do something, old and sick, when they needed them, none of them could be relied on. His wife, on the other hand, had been patiently comforting him, saying that the children were under a lot of pressure, and that I should not bother the children with what I could do. She jokingly asked him: Didn't I take care of you and didn't do it well enough?
Every time her husband was in a bad mood, she would sit next to him, hold a newspaper, and read him something of interest to distract him. Tell him funny stories and make him happy. When her wife slept, she would lean back in a chair alone, put on her reading glasses, and start reading.
She looks positive, her hair is meticulously combed, she changes her clothes every two days, and her generous style makes her look like she is about sixty years old. She is a teacher at a college.
In another bed, the old woman called the two children after her wife was admitted to the hospital and urged them to come to the hospital. Both of their children work in the city. In fact, her wife's condition is not serious, every time she has removed the infusion and occasionally done a check-up, she can completely complete it. I wondered why she wanted to let the children come to the hospital, and now the young people who are not busy, have jobs, have small families, and come to the hospital just to take a look.
But she did not think so, she said that from now on, we should establish the concept of filial piety to the elderly for children, so that they know that the elderly are sick, and the children have the responsibility and obligation to take care of them. She said that in her village, after a few young people went to the city to work, the old man stayed at home alone and died. She didn't want herself and her wife to face such an outcome.
She doesn't seem to have much common language with her husband lying in bed, who is silent most of the time. And she seems to be used to this mode of getting along. It is estimated that at home, they can't say a few words a day.
In fact, in the chat with her, I learned that their family's economic conditions are not bad, and the government has lost millions of yuan due to demolition compensation. But she said that when people reach old age, they live as children, so what does it mean to live without them?
Her two children finally came, but it could be seen that it was very reluctant to come to the hospital to accompany her, but it was difficult to say that she could not come because of her mother's request. They are in the hospital, but their hearts have long been gone. I wonder if this is a sad thing?
Women who read more and women who read less have completely different approaches when faced with the same problems. Women who read a lot understand their own hearts, can not only respect their own inner thoughts, but also fully take care of the feelings of others, get along, let people feel like a spring breeze, quite comfortable.
The book is read more, and when it is transformed into my own thoughts, I have more control over life, and I no longer feel afraid and uneasy about facing the unknown. Instead, it is to actively use the knowledge you have, analyze and judge what will happen, find a solution to the problem, and gain a sense of security.
A person who does not like to read, his views on many things are in a narrow channel of thinking, and he is often more stubborn and less receptive to new things. And people who read a lot, in their hearts, have a larger world, will realize that there are various ways of life in the world, and have more choices about life.
One could argue that I have read many books and have not felt any change in my life? It is still very tangled, life is still unhappy, what is the reason?
Here, I want to talk about the importance of book selection. When a person reads a book, he cannot only choose books that share his own values, if so, his cognition will always stay at the previous level and will not change in the slightest. Instead, you should read some books that are different from your own values to raise your thinking level.
You can ask yourself, "What kind of life do I want to live?" "What kind of life is most important to me?" Take this principle as a filter, compare and screen in a vast number of books, so as to learn what you want to learn.
If you want to do a good job of financial planning for the family, read more books on the economy, understand the country's economic policies, the tax system of assets, investment use, etc. Master this knowledge, you can make more choices in money investment, avoid risks, and improve returns.
If you want to avoid being in a passive position in dealing with others, you should read more about the law. When you encounter risks, it is most advantageous to know how to deal with them. If you want to sue, what information you provide is more likely to win the lawsuit, so that you have a psychological prediction of what you are doing in advance and avoid the emergence of unfavorable factors.
If you are concerned about the health of yourself and your family, then read more health-related books to understand what factors affect your health, what are the harms to the human body, which are rumors, and which are the truth. Under what circumstances, it may cause harm to a person's life, in order to protect the life and health of themselves and their families.
If you want to experience life one more layer, you can read more novels. In the process of reading, you can bring yourself into the novel, thinking about how you would choose if you were the protagonist, facing the same situation, and what the results of different choices would be. In this way, you have an extra layer of experience in life, learn to introspect, and cultivate your own multiple thinking patterns.
More important than reading, it is more important to transform the knowledge learned into a part of your own thoughts, which requires thinking about and processing the knowledge you see, and the information that is not processed will not be of much value. That's why some people say that I've read so many books and still haven't gotten any results.
In this world, in a way, we know the world through language, we know ourselves. The more you read, the more you can improve your language skills, you can express your thoughts with more accurate words, and you can gain the ability to communicate with others.
When a woman reaches middle age, the books she has read, the roads she has traveled, and everything she has experienced can be reflected in her appearance. Reading more books can not only make up for the lack of appearance, let people get spiritual strength, but also let you find your true self in trivial world affairs and live a different life.