Zhuang Di Xiaomeng / Seeing the essence through the story
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Some people's biggest delusion is that women who buy houses before marriage are not easy to marry.
On the contrary, women who have a house before marriage are not only particularly popular in marriage, but also filter out a part of the bottom men who are not suitable for marriage.
This is definitely a great blessing for women.
Colleague Xiao Mo is 28 years old and is planning to get married next month, her fiancé is 30 years old, a programmer, has a house and a car, and earns more than 300,000 yuan a year.
Before the age of 25, she was just an ordinary girl with no house and no car, and there were many suitors behind her, but most of them were mediocre.
Perhaps because of her original family, she has always been insecure, so in those years she did not fall in love but tried to save money to buy a house.
After having a house, she also met all kinds of men, some who could not afford to buy a house and wanted to settle in the city by marrying a wife, and some who had a house of their own, but they hated that she had a mortgage.
After several twists and turns, she met her current husband.
For a certain part of men, it is a disadvantage for women to have a house before marriage, and for men who have the ability and use long-term vision, it is absolutely an advantage for women to have a house.
As for what kind of man you marry in the end, it all depends on your own strength.
Before buying a house, women are more compatible
If you are a girl with nothing, no house and no car, and your monthly income is only four or five thousand or five or six thousand, then your match will be relatively strong.
You can marry a man who has a home and a car, or you can marry a man who has nothing.
In short, the conditions for men pursuing you at this time vary.
This is a good thing, but it is also a bad thing, because there are too many suitors, and you tend to get lost and choose the wrong person, after all, some men are very deceptive.
You can't see his true face or what he really thinks, and after sweet talk, you are likely to lose yourself.
After buying a house, two kinds of men are automatically filtered out
Once you have a house, you will find that your suitors are very different from the past.
First of all, there will be a decline in quantity, and secondly, there will be a qualitative leap in quality.
The house is like a filter that filters out the following two kinds of men.
The first, calculating, loves to take advantage of men
This kind of man is very common, and they spread the word online that women are not good at marrying once they buy a house before marriage because they are very concerned about it.
This statement is actually very ridiculous, they exaggerate their own abilities too much, perhaps in their view women can only marry men like them, their remarks are heaven, but in fact it is not so.
Women who have a house usually don't marry too badly, after all, they have capital.
And men like their type are not suitable for marriage because they are not a good match.
A woman who is reluctant to accept a premarital loan to buy a house is often because they cannot take advantage of the marital relationship.
According to the past practice, men buy houses and women buy decorations or buy furniture and appliances, or buy cars, so that they can take advantage of the whole process.
As we all know, the house is worth preserved, no matter how many years, he has a place to live, and the car is depreciated, and after a few years it will become a waste car.
If it is decoration and furniture and appliances, it is even more impossible to take away.
In other words, if one day the relationship breaks down, they won't lose anything, but instead turn everything a woman gives into a bubble.
But if they are dealing with a woman who had a house before marriage, their plans will all be in vain.
When a woman has her own house and has to pay off her mortgage after marriage, she naturally has no way to pay wholeheartedly for her house and life.
Many men say that women buying a house before marriage is calculating, in fact, women just do what they are used to doing, and as soon as the gender is changed, they actually start to be uneven.
Meeting this type of man is indeed a headache, and being able to bypass this kind of man is naturally a great blessing in life.
The second type is a man with poor conditions and no ability to support a family
In the case of nothing, many girls will not have too high vision, they can accept a man who has nothing, as long as the other party is willing to be motivated.
But whether the man is motivated or not, it is impossible to see at the moment.
Some men are very good at disguise, after marriage to show their true face, they will not work hard, their income will always stay before marriage.
If a woman has her own house, it is naturally impossible to look at such a man, which can also avoid a lot of trouble.
Living with a man who does not have the ability to support his family is a very terrible thing, after all, after marriage, women have children, and during this period they need men to earn money to support their families.
If a man cannot support a family, it will bring great misfortune to his wife and children, so for women, it is very necessary not to ask for great blessings, but to find a man who can support the family.
In the long run, buying a house before marriage must be an advantage for women
Don't think too much, women buying a house before marriage must be an advantage rather than a disadvantage, and the disadvantages are usually those who are calculating or incompetent, and women who have a house will not consider them at all.
01 Can find better men
For men with ability, women with rooms are definitely delicious.
Although there are loans, the down payment is not a small amount, and having two apartments means that they do not have to continue to struggle to buy a house for their children in the future, which is equivalent to them being able to struggle for decades less.
For a capable man, a mortgage is nothing at all, and he will not be bothered by this matter, so he will value the economic strength of the other party.
Women who have a house can find better men, which is an advantage for marriage.
02 has its own retreat and guarantee
A woman has her own house, which is equivalent to having a guarantee and a way out, no matter whether the marriage is happy in the future, she will not fall into a situation of nothing.
For a woman, security is very important, and the best sense of security in the world is given by herself.
Original author of the Zhuang Di Xiaomeng/Emotional Column
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