Today's children are the top of their parents' hearts, lung leaves and eyeballs. There is no parent who does not leave the best for the child, lest the child be wronged a little.
For the children to pour out everything, parents of the child's requirements are correspondingly high, "hope son into the dragon" and "hope that the girl into the phoenix" is the beautiful long-cherished wish of every parent. It is precisely for this reason that many parents are very tightly focused on their children and forced to be very fierce, that is, they expect their children to become dragons and phoenixes under their strict discipline.
But how many children can become dragons and phoenixes? In the context of fierce competition, some parents have become tiger fathers and tiger mothers, while some parents choose happy education. However, everything must have a degree, and it is too late. How to grasp the degree is a compulsory course for every parent.
Last year, Yang Shuo went out of the circle because of the percussion education in a parent-child program, and netizens were questioning the strict father's "How come you can't even do this question, do you really listen to the class?" "
"I am not allowed to go out to play until I finish 4 essays today, and I am not allowed to watch TV until I have time."
"No candy, no play, no TV, no crying, no bad exams..."
In the way of education, everyone felt indignant and worried about the pain suffered by Yang Yuchen——
In addition to the violence of language, there is also a "greeting" on the fist and foot. How can children under such threats and intimidation grow up healthy and happy?
Chen Mo, a parent-child education instructor, said: "Children's growth needs to wait, especially in today's competitive society, smart parents must learn to loosen the tight rubber bands on their hands." ”
Although we all know that children's learning should be relaxed, too tight, not only has no effect, but will backfire, let things go in the opposite direction - this is not what we all want to see. But such tragedies are still playing out all around us.
No, a girl named Wenwen in Shangyou County, Ganzhou, Jiangxi Province, is close to collapsing under the pressure of her parents, which makes people sigh, knowing that when she was in elementary school, she was called "someone else's child". Excellent grades, outstanding talent, positive and positive. Very popular with teachers and classmates.
After entering the key middle school, he also attracted attention at the beginning, was a member of the Youth League Committee, and also served as a school broadcaster. If you follow this trajectory, you are indeed a little talented woman. Gradually, however, her grades became less than ideal, and people became depressed, and by the third year of junior high school, the problem became more worrying.
In the third year of junior high school, because of the epidemic, I took online classes at home for two months. Back at school, Wenwen behaved abnormally, could not concentrate, and was prone to drowsiness. When I leave class, I don't like to move, and I lie on the table and cry at every turn.
Hearing the feedback from the class teacher, the parents were also surprised and took her to the doctor. At this time, the parents were surprised to find that the child's arm was cut several times by her own knife, which made people feel shocked to watch. Since then, Wenwen has become even more outrageous, running away from school at every turn, and no matter what her parents try, she has not been in school for less than 10 days.
Such a state of learning makes parents jump to their feet in a hurry. Finally, at the suggestion of the class teacher, they found a counselor for help. Under the guidance of the counselor, the parents knew that the reason was in themselves.
The stable father is extremely strict with his daughter and intervenes in everything. Even when he entered the Youth League Committee and became an announcer, his father resolutely disagreed, and the two sides quarreled several times because of this.
This is not the most serious, the most serious is the lack of necessary communication between them. Junior high school subjects increased, the pressure increased, Wenwen coped with itself is a bit stretched, but her parents are still constantly putting pressure on her. In order to fulfill my parents' wishes, I studied until late at night every day and got up again at 6 o'clock the next day. Long-term fatigue makes her insomnia, poor sleep quality, and because of long-term sleep, her spirit is weak, and the efficiency of learning is naturally poor.
She tried hard, but she couldn't see results, Wenwen wanted to communicate with her parents, but every time she was ruthlessly interrupted by her parents, making her feel at a loss. Slowly, she lost the confidence to study.
And when she saw the doctor, her parents became cautious again, clinging to her for everything, and did not dare to blame her a little. In this way, the sensitive Wenwen has a deep self-blame, feeling that she has not studied well, sorry for her parents. And he is even more calculating about the words of his classmates, and he always feels that his classmates are laughing at himself. Gradually, she felt that she could not face her present moment. What to do? The only way to do this is to escape from the classroom.
After being enlightened by the psychological counselor, Wenwen's parents let go of the obsession in their hearts, they no longer kept their eyes on the culture class, encouraged her to develop her talents to sing and play the piano, and said that as long as Wenwen herself was willing to apply for the conservatory, they also approved.
Seeing the smile on their daughter's face bloom again, they were slightly relieved. Fortunately, they changed in time, otherwise they didn't know what the outcome would be.
Studies have shown that children in a high-pressure atmosphere need to bear a heavy emotional burden, while also having unprecedented academic pressure. Such children are prone to various psychological problems in the process of growing up, and it is easy to form various pessimistic emotions and behaviors such as anxiety, fear, nervousness, timidity, inferiority and even violence.
As parents, we really need to learn to let go and let our children learn to learn on their own, rather than putting excessive pressure on their children. "Genius writer" Jiang Fangzhou is a successful person, but she complained in the show: her mother's pressure has made her a flattering personality, "sometimes I don't know how to live" - does this sound heart-wrenching?
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