5-year-old Linlin usually has a very good relationship with her father, one day when her father was going to the toilet, she suddenly pulled open the door and ran to her father, holding a book and asking him what the pattern on it was. Dad was immediately embarrassed and quickly "bombed" Linlin out.
Later, from her mother's mouth, my father learned that Linlin also quietly asked my mother why my father was standing when he peed, and there was something growing on his ass, but we didn't? Since then, Dad no longer dared to go to the bathroom and not lock the door, for fear of Linlin's sudden attack.
But this is clearly a palliative rather than a cure. What parents should really do is to talk to their children about sex at the right time, of course, not too deeply, but at least let the children understand that boys and girls are different, teach children to know their own bodies, and let children know how to protect themselves.
In the past, when children watched Journey to the West, they would always ask a question several times, did they also jump out of the cracks in the stone? At this time, many parents' answers are different, some parents will say that the child is picked up in the trash can, some parents say that the child is sent at the phone bill, in short, it seems that few parents tell their children their true provenance.
Where does the child come from, and what are the characteristics of the child's body?
First of all, through the way of play, the child can really know how he was born; then through the drawing of the body structure, the child can roughly understand the concept of different genders and different body structures.
For young children, they like to read books with pictures, like to see when they can do games, reading books in this area and correctly guiding them will well meet the needs of children in these aspects, and more importantly, they can let parents pass on gender knowledge to their children without saying too much, so that children can grow up in an invisible moment.
In addition to gender education for children, what should parents do when children become gender-aware?
Pay attention to what you wear
Many parents dress very casually at home, how comfortable and how to wear, even in the hot summer, directly missing from the lower body, or bare-chested. It's just that the parents themselves are comfortable, but they don't take into account the child's cognition at all, especially for children of the opposite sex in the family, such behavior is obviously inappropriate.
Be mindful of your own behavior
Some parents do not have the habit of closing the door when going to the bathroom or taking a bath, when the child is likely to see the picture of the parents naked in the process of walking, and even stop because of curiosity. Of course, such a scene is embarrassing for parents, but the deeper impact is still the child, which can easily lead to gender ambiguity in the child.
Teach children to protect themselves
Parents should not only let their children know their own bodies, but also let their children know that each of our bodies is very precious, especially some parts of the body must not be shown to others. This is very important, and parents must emphasize it to their children again and again. Because this is the basis for children's self-protection.
Children will learn a lot in the process of growing up, but also will be curious about more things, parents have to do is to guide the child correctly, let them know what can be done, but what can not be done. It is not only the responsibility and obligation of every parent to teach children not to harm others, but also to teach children to protect themselves.