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"I gave my mother-in-law a set of cosmetics, but she hated the loser" "I gave my mother-in-law a set of pearl necklaces, and I never saw her wear them" "I gave my mother-in-law a dress, opened it and tried it, and never moved again."
I don't know if you have such confusion, when the mother-in-law did something for you, you in order to give back to her, to appreciate her, to buy her something. But after the things were delivered, it didn't seem to be in line with her wishes, and sometimes it would make her dislike it.
The act of "giving gifts" is correct, but sometimes if the gift is wrong, this intention will not only not be valued by the other party, but also put the cart before the horse.
Therefore, if you want to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, you must be careful when giving gifts, you must understand your mother-in-law's preferences in advance, and you must think and choose from many aspects.
So, when giving gifts to your mother-in-law, which ones should not be given as much as possible, and which ones are easy to be disliked by her? In my experience, there are three things, no matter how good the relationship with the mother-in-law, do not send, otherwise it is easy to be disliked.
01 clothes class gifts, it is easy to step on the thunder
When Xiaomin was pregnant, in order to thank her mother-in-law for taking care of her entire third trimester, she bought two sets of clothes for her mother-in-law and spent hundreds of dollars. She took the gift to her mother-in-law, who also opened her clothes at her urging and began to try them on.
At that time, when I tried it on, my mother-in-law was very happy outside of her words, and Xiao Min couldn't stop praising, these two clothes were quite suitable. But a week passed, and the mother-in-law did not wear it.
Xiao Min asked her mother-in-law why she didn't wear it, and her mother-in-law pushed off and said that the clothes were washed and worn when it was dry. A month passed, and Xiao Min saw that her mother-in-law was not yet wearing it, and asked again.
The mother-in-law's expression this time was a little embarrassed, saying that this season is not suitable now, and it will be suitable for a few days before wearing. But Xiao Min's children have been born, and the mother-in-law has not yet passed through.
Xiao Min did not ask again. Later, by chance, Xiao Min learned from her sister-in-law that the two clothes she bought for her mother-in-law did not like one of them. The mother-in-law likes to wear looser clothes, but the two bodies she bought are relatively tight. Not only that, the flower color is also disliked by the mother-in-law too out of the ordinary, and she feels that she can't wear it out.
This time it was Xiao Min's turn to be embarrassed, and she did not expect that her vision could have a day of being rejected by her mother-in-law.
In fact, this is not XiaoMin's fault, nor is it her mother-in-law's fault, but the gift is disliked by her mother-in-law, but it is Xiaomin's fault. Everyone's vision is different, especially the clothes worn on the body, not only the problem of uncomfortable wearing, but also related to a person's dressing style.
No one likes to wear clothes they don't like, even if the person is important to them. So, whether it's for your mother-in-law or to whom, try not to send clothes or the like, unless you know her figure and dress style very well.
02 Too cheap and too expensive gifts
After the last storm of sending clothes, Xiaomin learned a lesson and never sent clothes to her mother-in-law again, so after her mother-in-law served her for the confinement, she chose to buy cosmetics for her mother-in-law.
She also deliberately let her husband and mother-in-law emphasize that this set of cosmetics is nearly a thousand yuan when video with her mother-in-law, which is her thanks and heart. But as soon as this sentence was said, the face of the mother-in-law on the other side of the video changed, and she kept chanting, how to buy such expensive cosmetics.
Xiao Min was about to collapse, and it seemed that this gift was not delivered correctly. However, the things that make Xiao Min regret are still to come.
It was after this incident that Xiao Min became a representative of spending money and spending a lot of money in her mother-in-law's mouth. The mother-in-law said that Xiaomin would not live a life.
Later, Xiao Min also learned from her sister-in-law that the cosmetics used by her mother-in-law were only a few dozen yuan. Since this incident, Xiao Min has a shadow on the gift-giving matter.
In fact, in this matter, Xiao Min also did not think carefully in advance. Many parents, even if they wear makeup, use cosmetics that are not too expensive. Their skin care or makeup is just a kind of "compensation" for the maintenance they did not use when they were young, more like a psychological comfort, so they will never use it too expensive.
A thousand yuan of cosmetics is almost a luxury in their eyes, and they are willing to spend such money from the hard days.
There are also many mothers-in-law, after the daughter-in-law sends expensive gifts, not only will blame the daughter-in-law for not living a life, but also dislike the daughter-in-law for spending her son's money, do not know how to hurt her son.
Of course, in addition to not sending too expensive gifts, but also can not send mother-in-law too cheap gifts, this will be the mother-in-law to say whether to look down on her, think she is not worthy of expensive things.
Therefore, when giving gifts to the mother-in-law, the price must be in place, the smart daughter-in-law must master this degree, the price can not only be accepted by the mother-in-law, but also express your heart, it is the best.
03 Too trendy gifts
In addition to the two points mentioned earlier, there is also a very important point, that is, when the daughter-in-law gives gifts to her mother-in-law, she must not give gifts that are too trendy.
There are too many new things now, and many daughters-in-law will feel that whether to send some fresh, trendy gifts will open their eyes and make them feel refreshed.
In fact, many elderly people are not very fond of accepting new things. It's like saying that the ripped pants that young people like to wear now, they can't accept it.
Especially when you give gifts that your mother-in-law can't accept that are too trendy, you will also disagree with them. Obviously it is well-intentioned, but it makes both sides unhappy, you blame her for not appreciating it, she also thinks that you are a waste of money, why should this be, it is better not to send.
The right gift can promote the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and make the family more harmonious; the gift is wrong, not only is it useless.
Therefore, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must not send clothes and other things related to decency and comfort, after all, the aesthetics of young people are very different from the aesthetics of their generation, and it is better to avoid them.
Don't send too cheap and expensive things, cheap will make the mother-in-law think that you look down on her, expensive will make her picky you will not live.
Don't give them too trendy gifts that they can't accept and appreciate, their ideas are already backward and can't keep up with the pace of young people, such gifts often make them feel inexplicable and useless and wasteful.
A wise daughter-in-law can often send gifts to the heart of the mother-in-law, and this wisdom is nothing more than careful observation and careful consideration. May all women, as daughters-in-law, be smarter, alleviate the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law through the small matter of gift-giving, promote the feelings of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and make this big family harmonious and beautiful.
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