In the first week of September, after delivering the child, I met my colleague mother and son at the entrance of the kindergarten, and the little boy was obviously a little unhappy, with a calm face and a pout, and the colleague was a flattering look.
Her child just turned 3 years old, I thought it was the child who had just entered the kindergarten and was not suitable, so I rushed forward to inquire about the situation.
Who knows, the truth is exactly the opposite of what I thought.
It turned out that on that day, her children had pimples on their faces, and the school doctor suggested taking the child to the doctor and not entering the kindergarten, and after learning about the situation, the children became angry: "I originally came to kindergarten, why don't you let me in?" ”
Among the many children who cry and cry and can't go to kindergarten, it is rare for a child like her to insist on entering the kindergarten.
Later, colleagues said evil, only to persuade the child, with the child to see the doctor, just simple allergies pimples, smeared medicine is good, in the afternoon, really can not resist the child's request, colleagues sent the child to the kindergarten.
This is not the most powerful, the most powerful is: colleagues said that her children want to go to the kindergarten every day, even on weekends to go to the kindergarten door to see. Every time I proudly said, "Mom, this is my kindergarten, it's fun here!" "The kindergarten teacher also liked this bright and lively little boy very much. I have invited colleagues to share their experiences with kindergarten parents many times.
"What experience can I have?" It's just that with the child to see more and play more. ”
It turned out that colleagues were afraid that their children would not adapt to entering the kindergarten, and from the first six months before the children entered the kindergarten, they took the children to understand the kindergarten life.
Professor Li Meijin: "If the child does these three things well before going to kindergarten, the baby can suffer a lot less grievances." ”
01. 2-6 months before entering the kindergarten, take more children to an unfamiliar environment and adapt to the unfamiliar environment
Children with separation anxiety are mostly insecure, if you look closely, you will find that the child's performance is different, some children can only feel at ease at home accompanied by their parents, and some children are equally happy wherever they go.
The reason is actually caused by the child's own ability to adapt to the unfamiliar environment.
For children who are familiar with the family environment, going to kindergarten is also an unfamiliar environment, and the best way for children to adapt to kindergarten is actually to improve their ability to adapt to the environment.
Professor Li Meijin suggested: 2-6 months before entering the kindergarten, take your children to an unfamiliar environment and adapt to the unfamiliar environment.
In this way, when the child has a certain ability to adapt to the unfamiliar environment, when he goes to kindergarten, he can self-coordinate and reduce the difficulty of adaptation.
02, teach children to make friends
Shun Shunli to go to kindergarten is only the first step for children to take, and whether children can stay in kindergarten and want to go is the key to kindergarten.
People are social animals, and so are children.
Here, parents must teach their children to make friends, only with friends, children will have expectations for kindergartens, and can they have a sense of belonging to kindergartens, so that they can turn going to kindergarten every day into a happy thing.
To this end, parents can take their children out to play with children in ordinary times, learn to communicate with each other, and learn to deal with different children.
03. Cultivate children's self-care ability
When the child is at home, the parents help in everything and the big things, and the child can find something to rely on. However, in kindergarten, a teacher faces so many children, it is difficult to do everything, there are always times when they can't take care of it.
Moreover, kindergartens are encouraged to "do their own thing", especially things such as eating, dressing, and going to the toilet.
If the child does not cultivate these abilities in advance, it is inevitable to be wronged, so that the originally happy kindergarten life will discourage the child's enthusiasm and make the child resistant to the kindergarten.
In ordinary life, you can encourage and cultivate your child's self-care ability: let the child do what he can do independently.
In addition to the above routine methods, she also bought kindergarten-related picture books for her children when they were just over 2 years old.
She bought picture books that meet the psychological development level and cognitive behavior characteristics of 2-6-year-old children, and use real stories as a carrier.
Half an hour of reading time every day, let the children know and familiarize themselves with the kindergarten in the process of reading the story, help the children prepare for entering the kindergarten, and learn the way to get along with the children from the middle school, improve the children's social skills, and alleviate anxiety.
Children in kindergarten will encounter a variety of problems, through reading picture books, you can help children solve various problems encountered in kindergarten, such as: how to cope with difficulties, how to control their temper with friends and so on.
Colleagues said that when she learns with her children, she also likes to change the protagonist to the child's name, enhance the child's sense of substitution, let him understand the kindergarten in advance, and can also learn the way to get along with others in advance, so that the child can take fewer detours, let him learn to understand, self-confidence, and bravery, let the child be a better self, and let the parents worry less.
If there are children who are about to enter the kindergarten at home, parents who are worried that the child will have separation anxiety and do not adapt to kindergarten life suggest that they buy a set of relevant picture books for their children to read together; children who have already entered the kindergarten can also have an in-depth understanding of their children's kindergarten life through this book.
We can't change a child's life, but we can influence the child through books to make him better.